I read on a website about meditation that "one characteristic that's commonly found in people who get depressed is a tendency to confuse thoughts and feelings, and this is another area where meditation can be helpful." and I could instantly sense that's something I've been doing and would like some clarity about.
On that website, they continue to explain "Yet another problem is that if we confuse thoughts and feelings, thinking that our thoughts are feelings, then we are actually in some sense out of touch with our feelings.", and I could also resonate with that. I feel a bit out of touch with my feeligs and don't really understand my feelings. I don't know if I feel depressed, but I also do not currently feel happy.
So I often feel disassociated from my feelings and not so aware of where I'm usually focused and what I usually think about. I think that's the reason why it has been feeling hard for me to apply these teachings into my life.
On the website they also explain that "It's much easier to work with our experience when we distinguish thoughts and feelings.", and that "Meditation helps us to do this. In mindfulness practice we notice more clearly the distinction between thoughts (verbalizations in the mind) and emotions (sensations that take place in the body). We also learn to see more clearly the way in which emotions give rise to thoughts, and thoughts give rise to emotions. Once we have started to see this, we realize that we can change our thoughts and therefore change our emotions.".
Do anyone have any tips on how I can better distinguish between thoughts and emotions, and if anyone else have experienced this, and what importance it has when applying the teachings of Abraham in my life?
The importance of distinguishing between thoughts and feelings is that feelings have guidance built in- they can feel good and bad, and this will accurately reflect your inner wisdom.
A thought, on the other hand, is unguided. You will only know if a thought is appropriate for you by how you feel about it.
It is easier, in the short term, to justify a thought you feel bad about instead of changing it.
However, your feeling will not go away, it will only be suppressed, and the inappropriate thought will have all sorts of unpleasant side effects, which may require further inappropriate thinking to justify, causing a negative spiral.
Meditation causes a pause in your thinking so your true feelings can surface. They will be emphatically negative until the inappropriate thoughts and their justifications have changed. This will happen spontaneously during meditation, when you think appropriate thoughts in your creative workshop, and when you look for things you like in your everyday life.
answered 09 May '17, 06:13
answered 10 May '17, 09:45
,Bear with me here...
I used to have an old Chicago Tribune column clipping that talked about something that was discovered with people who are depressed: They think too much!!! My mind, which has always worked too hard, too long, and got bored with even going to sleep, was in a perennial state of gloom and self-examination, doubt, and self-judgment (all negative thinking, of course!). Bedtime wasn't for sleep- it was the time I thought, thought, thought about my missteps through the day, and vowed to be more perfect next time. Perfectionism is not an admirable trait, despite what some may believe.
That said, I pursued a way to stop my depressive and negative thinking, and of course, discovered meditation. I found out that the article was absolutely correct: my thoughts were popping into my head as fast as popcorn pops....and it took me a tremendous amount of discipline to slow down my thinking...and then to just let the myriad of thought to pass by without judgment.
So here's the answer to your problem, in a saying I heard about 35 years ago, and has helped me ever since:
Depression cannot hit a moving target!
So, when you get to musing on whether you are thinking or feeling, tell yourself, "Uh, oh! I am doing it again!"
Thoughts come and go, but whether they bother you or not is up to you! If you are "judging" your thoughts as "bad" or "good", then it is probably time to clear your cache, and move your body....Which will force your mind to quiet. When I got mad once upon a time (four kids ten and under can do that), I got off my acetabulum, and gave the kitchen floor a good, old-fashioned scrub....It takes twenty minutes to burn up adrenaline...and at about that time, that adrenaline, and anything else negative, was pooped out.
End result: I felt I had done something positive with my negative judgments about my feelings of anger...and feelings are just feelings; they are neither good nor bad, just reactions to outside (and inward) stimuli. It is thought which decides the consequences of feelings. Anger can provide fuel for change; it can also burst forth and cause harm. It is what I do with input to my mind, which my mind co-processes with both sides of my brain, thus making it sometimes rather hard to know what stimulus led to what thought, which led to what feelings, which led to what other thoughts or actions I could take...and so on.The human brain is very complex, and we are just beginning to really know what the wiring in there really does. Meditation took me to this self-discovery.
Thanks for a great question!
thoughts are of reactions
answered 25 May '17, 19:42
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