This is my first question here and I need advice.
I am in love with a man that works on my pet and has seemed like he might have an interest in me at an earlier time per things said in our conversations. Whenever it is just us two, it seems like there is an energy between us.
I have known him for almost a year now and at one point, I had asked him if he lives with anyone and he said that he had a roommate that was a girl who was taking a break from her boyfriend. Other times, he was flirty with me and friendly.
One time he mentioned that relationships were a lot of work. A few weeks ago, when I told him my dog had to be put down the prior week, he just pulled me close and held me with my head on his shoulder. I also gave him a Christmas gift a little later that day and he cried and hugged me again.
I have been applying the LOA to manifest him as my lover to start (and hopefully we would be together later on) for the last couple of weeks.
Never in all of the times we were in person together or on the phone or texting did he ever lead on or mention that he had a girlfriend and I even said I couldn't believe he was still single and that he was going to make some girl very happy one day. To that he said thank you and proceeded to describe the type of girl he would want. Well today, I found out from another person, who's pet he also works on, that he has a girlfriend :'(
I don't know if she is thinking of the roommate or if she knows for sure that he has one.
Anyway, from what I gathered over the course of almost a year, is that he evaded that he had a girlfriend for some reason, or is an on again off again thing b/c he never once said "we" when talking about things, it was always "I".
Is it still possible to attract and manifest this man in my life?
Thank you so much for any advice.
You can certainly manifest this person as your lover as well as you can. In practice, I have found that in order to manifest specifics, it is good to place extra emphasis on letting go. Did you notice that most of the time manifestations come as surprises? That is letting go in action. The universe is smarter than you, simply because it's bigger than your ego structure, so there is more data. So you need to really, really emphasise the idea that a watched pot never boils, otherwise you will have a strong tendency to micromanage God, so to speak, and that will act as an inner definition that you are not with this person.
How you do this is to use this person as a visualization symbol all the time- idealize the heck out of that person all you like, because you are simply using what he stirs in you as a starting point, you don't have to worry about whether he actually is like that. You are working with him on a purely symbolic level.
Emphasize in your affirmations and visualization that you want and have him- or someone better. Emphasize that you want the feeling that this person gives rise to in you, and emphasize very, very strongly the uncovering of negative definitions you may have that you may think being with this person will save you from confronting.
That is the main trap and risk with wanting to be with a particular person- sometimes your negative definitions lead you to desire someone because you think you can't be with him. To an extra amount of homework here- you want to take extra, extra, extra care that this does not apply to you. How you know that you were successful with improving your definitions is that he will seem less like candy to you and more like a wonderful, rounded, layered, lively human being. You see, it is possible that if you improve your definitions and your sense of self and your confidence, you will find that the spectrum of men who desire you will become much expanded and you will be able to be extremely choosy because you have that wonderful radiance you get from having positive definitions. Make improving yourself your priority.
This basically means that you are adjusting your emotional needs to habitually and instinctively respect that person's free will, while also being extremely positive to yourself.
Incidentally, that also makes you have an extremely sexy and attractive and approachable and lovable personality and vibration.
So being mindful to habitually and instinctively not be tempted at all to violate that person's boundaries or attempt to uninspiredly limit that person because it would give you an instant gratification, you are ready to use spiritual tools to be attactive to that person in particular.
I have always had the most success in dealing with any kind of person for any reason by acting as little as possible, and vibrating as much as possible and waiting for that person to come to me- like charming a cat. You may act and speak and be as much as you like, of course, but never with a particular outcome in mind. You act to express your positive vibration, not to achieve a result that would give you a vibration. You vibrate your wonderfulness first.
To achieve this, use the tried-and-tested technique of dreaming a new dream. when you talk to him, and it was nice, afterwards imagine that he asked you out, and remind yourself your imagination dream is just as real as your everyday life dream. When he touches your shoulder or something, act as normal, but imagine that he did so out of a sense of strong connection and just wanting to be really amazing to you. Imagine all kinds of other things that you want him to do, and decide that was real- but never try to get him to physically do those things- that would counteract your new dream. Why would you try to make something happen in your everyday dream if it already happened in your imaginary dream, if it was real?
All situations you have regarding to him, reimagine them so they are to your liking, and emphasize and energize to yourself and perform a little ritual to say to yourself that this imagination is real. Let this imagining satisfy your craving, so you can be in your presence like someone who already has him. That is when you will be at your most attractive. Don't leave that space and grasp- no matter what happens, stay in that space that your imagination is already satisfying you, and you don't need anything to happen in your everday dream.
Do this dozens of times a day. After a couple weeks, most likely, you will start noticing strong signs that your everyday dream is changing in the direction of your imagined dream. Just keep it up, and you will, surely, receive him, or someone better, in your everyday dream.
answered 09 Jan, 18:15
It would be easier to manifest love than it would be to cause a particular person to be your boyfriend.
But that's not what you're looking for so I'll answer your question. Yes, it's possible, but you're not ready for it. If you were, you would be moving towards it with ease.
LOA is meant to allow you to come more into alignment with your inner self so that the next logical step towards what you want it evident and easy. Also, it's better not to have a specific expectation for any particular outcome. The universe does the work in matching you up with where you are.
If you try to force external events to happen before you are ready, it will probably create a very unpleasant experience. But maybe that's something that all of us have to experience for ourselves.
answered 09 Jan, 09:06
Hi, there! I read your question around a week ago, but at first, I could not find a post I wrote a while back. Your question niggled at me. I knew I had written something about this, but I just could not find that post. But I did find it today... Here's the link to it: http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/71131/can-you-really-manifest-a-romance-the-story-of-wade-and-jai-this-is-actually-for-all-of-you-who-have-rooted-and-prayed-for-us-thank-you
I most definitely used the law of attraction in this case, and Wade is taking out our garbage in that most husbandly way as I write...(no, I suppose he never dreamed of this part of wedded bliss when he said "I do"! Lol!) But we are definitely proof that when applied properly, manifesting your love can happen. But will it?
If you have any doubts at all, don't even try it. Being new to the law of attraction perhaps made my first attempt with this easy, as I had no time to screw it up with thinking about it. After all, Wade said that this stuff worked. I believed him. Since I have had many chances since to think about it, I have also had many chances to mess it up with doubt and over thinking it to death. You must believe as simply and purely as a child believes in Santa. If you have doubt, even one itty bitty prevent, it just will not work.
But there is a fall back place to be, just in case. Make yourself the best person you can be... Good people never go to waste ..Never!!! Work on self improvement for its own sake. This will insure that you will be really ready for Mr. or Ms. Right.
I hope our story will inspire more IQ romances!♡♡♡
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