i know its a weird question but....but there's always some mis understandings with co-creation im just trying to explore some more. so..
if im the only one who can control MY reality, and i know i cant control other's reality. but, if im involved with, lets say, a fat partner. i know i should accept him as he is, but i didnt want to attract him like that into my experience (but i did, and i like him a lot). and also i know its just physicality (but that's important).
the thing is, if it is my reality and i want him to be thin or built because it is MY life and MY partner , then - can i do that?
i thought about it for a while, and i belive that the one of us who wants it more (he to eat junk food or me for him to be hot and health) will "win" . even though there is not "competition" really but i think that how it is - the one who want it more, right? should i imagine him in a different way?
i will appreciet your comments.
You can! If you visualize that person as thin and fit, and it is somewhat within the probabilities of that person to become so, and that person does not have a spiritually important reason to be heavy, then they will readily adapt.
You need to pay attention that there is no resistance. You need to first clear any and all negativity or resistance to your partner being heavy, and you need to make that heaviness a positive thing by reinterpreting- for example, physical weight is a great way to "throw your weight around" as a symbol of confidence and status. Your relationship may need some adjustment to accomodate that change of physical symbolism. You need to be so positive about your partner's current weight that he knows with absolute certainty that your love and your positive feelings toward him are not conditional on his weight at all. Once you have done that, and you have learned what you need to learn from the experience, if you visualize your partner as more fit, and you include in the visualization lots and lots of highly pleasurable aspects of the new status, such as great sex and sense of accomplishment and freedom from aches and pains and emotional gratifying situations, he will most likely readily respond to the suggestion over time.
What you cannot do is directly control his experience- that is where free will is involved. The closer you get to his body, the more influence he has and the less you do. But with skill, you can have a tremendous amount of influence, and it can be to your liking as you chose it to be, and it can be purely positive.
answered 11 Feb, 13:50
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