Many times people assume I am a certain religion and/or ethnicity and I have experienced people build entire "worlds" in their mind of who I am just after meeting them once.

I hate it because it makes me feel like I am not myself.

Makes me feel like I am what they want me to be.

After a while it can really get to a person to hear such things.

I think it would be impossible to inform every person I meet, all about me.

So what changes do I need to make to myself?


asked 27 Dec '10, 20:09

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Don't take it personally. If it's a misconception on their part, it doesn't have to affect you - you are the only one who can allow that.

Just accept that it's a misconception on their part and let it go. Choose to not take it personally and you'll soon discover that these misconceptions stop showing up in your experience.


answered 27 Dec '10, 23:37

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edited 27 Dec '10, 23:45

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Have to agree with Michaela. People make up their own mind about who you are, and if they don't take the time to get to know you, that's their problem, not yours. Most of the time they're going to get it wrong anyway, so if you choose to focus on that, it's going to make you crazy. Let them have their opinions, and be amused by them. It's just an ego thing, anyway.

(27 Dec '10, 23:50) Vesuvius

I like it Michaela

(28 Dec '10, 03:57) Tom

Just be yourself -- whoever it might be you are at any given moment.

And have fun with it and don't take yourself too seriously and the world will not take you too seriously either.


answered 27 Dec '10, 22:13

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I understand completely. That's why I don't say to much about being a Minister. In their minds that means I can't have sex, and a whole lot of other things. The best approach is to keep them guessing, stay completely defenseless as much a possible. The more you explain the more they get wrong.
Blessings! Tom


answered 27 Dec '10, 21:41

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@ Tom, your last sentence speaks volumes!

(28 Dec '10, 01:13) Inactive User ♦♦

Thanks Vee Many Blessings

(28 Dec '10, 03:50) Tom

Thanks, very true...

(30 Dec '10, 02:14) Back2Basics
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You do not need to make any changes that you do want for your self! Being who you are is all about you, and not what others’ think of you!

Ask yourself this question: who lives inside of my body, and once you can answer this question, your life will become less complicated, you will discover that your role here is to be yourself, and not a prescription to measure up to other peoples’ expectations!


answered 28 Dec '10, 01:26

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Thanks, that is helpful and makes me feel better.

(30 Dec '10, 02:15) Back2Basics

I inadvertently do it to people all the time I'm sure. So I figure people do it to me.

Blame or Praise...I do not care.



answered 28 Dec '10, 00:16

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