My parents and some relatives openly tell me how they think I'm too XXX or YYY (all negative), why am I not like so-and-so, or they like to observe how well someone else is doing whereas I'm still where I am.

The fact is, I don't do that poorly. They just love to see things negatively, and pick on things and then say things about me that can only make me feel lousy. I know the general advice is that others can't make you feel lousy if you don't let them, but there are some comments that are impossible to brush off or feel glad about especially at that point in time.

My question is, I'm wondering if I have had a harder time getting out of the rut thanks to all these people thinking poorly of me. What do you think? Do other people's negative thoughts about me (whether I am aware of them or not) have the power to attract bad things into my life?

asked 03 Feb '11, 12:52

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Pat W

edited 04 Feb '11, 19:40

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Wade Casaldi

Pat I put in bold the part you added because it is important to be recognized.

(04 Feb '11, 19:41) Wade Casaldi

Thanks Wade. You're right.

(05 Feb '11, 09:26) Pat W
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Yes unfortunately they do, a lot of the successful people that teach how to be successful say do not tell anyone your plan and go for it, there are others that say tell everyone the more support the better. We are concentrating on the ones that like to discourage us, these people are very negative and here is what Joe Vitale says on them.

"If they tell you it can't be done there is a pretty good odds factor they never tried or made it them selves, when you want to run a race who are you going to take advice from a world champion or someone that loses the race and has nothing but advice to offer."

That was paraphrased from Subliminal Manifestation vol 4

It is a difficult thing, I know I have been through it many times and each time my idea gets shot down by "Good Intentions" to lead me in a way that I don't get hurt. Imagine this there is a maze and one path leads out and you want out so much so you ask is this the road, no, how about that road not that way, what about this one, no I wouldn't choose that one if I were you, how about this one here, are you crazy? no way! Okay this one looks good, it does now but you will find out the hard way if you take it, okay so those roads are no good I know that now, this one here looks good, good for what getting ripped off?

Instead of constantly being told what not to do, it would be far more helpful if told what to do. I am going down this road, ooh wow wonderful let me tell you what may be helpful to get you there, here is what you can do, here are your choices and you can get help here.

Isn't that so much better than all these Nay Sayers? It reminds me of that billy goat in the Gicko commercial, naaaaa naaaa naaaa! lol

EDIT ADDED MORE this from an energy and thought point of view.

"Somebody said that it couldn't be done, But he with a chuckle replied That 'maybe it couldn't,' but he would be one Who wouldn't say so till he'd tried. So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin On his face. If he worried he hid it. He started to sing as he tackled the thing That couldn't be done, and he did it." —Edgar A. Guest. *

This is from a book very much based on teaching the power of our thoughts The Secret Of The Ages by Robert Collier.

Unfortunately this book is not whole after many hours I just discovered chapter 9 is missing from this, I will have to compare this to my old hard back book.

Thoughts are very powerful things. I'll have to answer this later as I ran out of time doing all my searching.

The following is from my hard back 1969 version of The Secret of the Ages

"You can never tell when you do an act

Just what the result will be,

But with every deed you are sowing a seed,

Though the harvest you may not see.

Each kindly act is an acorn dropped

In God's productive soil;

You may not know, but the tree shall grow

With shelter for those who toil."

"You never can tell what your thought will do

In bringing you hate or love,

For thoughts are things and their airy wings

Are swifter than carrier doves.

They follow the law of the universe-

Each thing must create its kind,

And then speed over the track to bring you back

Whatever went out from your mind." ---Ella Wheeler Wilcox

My point in this is thoughts are powerful, thoughts create, that was why Jesus said if you even think it you have already done it. When we are envious or are jealous of others we are sending ripples into the grid of existence, these are obstacle or barrier ripples against the flow of the person we are envious or jealous over. We can unknowingly cause a lot of harm we will have to pay back for having caused, "As we sow shall we reap" Jesus said. This is what is known as The Evil Eye it is simply someone is jealous or envious of us and we will in turn experience being Over Looked in other words bad things start manifesting for us right and left. Now it is worse if someone constantly thinks bad it is even worse if they constantly think bad with conscious intention of causing harm. Now that goes into black magick at that point whether known or unknown there is more of a price to pay on that. Karma just doesn't return on the person but as well it can attack a family member or friend of that person.

But we are told in the bible wear the armor of God and carry the shield of faith, these are not just words they are protection when you walk in God, you do not get Over Looked because of others, envy and jealousy are returned to sender instantly you do not accept that mental mail.


answered 03 Feb '11, 21:18

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Wade Casaldi

edited 05 Feb '11, 00:04

Hi Wade, thanks a lot. I've edited my question for clarity as I realise from all the answers that perhaps I wasn't too clear. I'd be grateful if you could check it out again. Thanks.

(04 Feb '11, 12:45) Pat W

Yes Pat now that you clarified your question I can answer it from an energy and though perspective. I think it is good that this worked out this way because now everyone gets both a physical and spiritual answer so I will add and let alone the previous body of text.

(04 Feb '11, 19:43) Wade Casaldi

Thanks Wade. I like the last para in your extended answer. :)

(05 Feb '11, 15:20) Pat W
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Sure, Pat. Reversing is a sort of mental game. For example you hear someone say something provocative or negative such as, "Well, it's too bad you don't have a master's degree and a perfect spouse like Jennifer has. After all the two of you were in the same class." And once you hear that, you mentally reverse it, telling yourself, "Bless Jennifer. And I am so glad I already have all that I need right now, and feel incredibly successful." In time, it's possible to get incredibly adept with this, so that it's second nature. And it really does help one stop taking bad comments to heart and thus giving power to them.

Shielding youself has various methods, but my favorite is the one I use when I am unavoidably with a negative person or people. I pretend that I have a mirrored dome over my solar plexus, and that when they whine, it bounces right off of me, that it can't affect me, and it doesn't!


answered 05 Feb '11, 15:50

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Thanks LeeAnn. I'll try these out. :)

(06 Feb '11, 02:54) Pat W

I really like that about the mirror and about the reversal method I must remember that one thanks as well LeeAnn.

(06 Feb '11, 11:20) flowingwater

I believe that people only have the power you give them. They are only words that you also give power to.




answered 03 Feb '11, 22:05

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Dear Pat,

Man, you could be telling my story!

My family thinks I am totally nuts...and maybe they are right, but who cares? What they think about me ultimately does not matter because I am the sum total of all the decisions I have made to this particular point in time! That means that everything you are is because of you! So if you are a good person, with good motives, and a good soul, then they cannot take the credit for that! Isn't that a neat way to think about it???

For example, I am close to graduating with my degree in Christian Studies (the ministry). My family thinks that this degree is totally worthless. "Why didn't you major in engineering or accounting, things that would have guaranteed you a good job?" Well, for one thing, money does not motivate me; for another, God called me to this, and I have to think He knows what He is a matter of fact, I already have a tentative job offer with the Catholic Church upon much for their dire predictions!

Another thing: if you are not physically perfect, families love to pick on you and suggest all sorts of ways to become "perfect". Blow them off! You are just fine. If you are here, posting and reading Inward Quest questions and answers, then you are already waaaaaaaaay ahead of them.

So give them all a big raspberry, and go the way God wants for you!

Blessings, Jai


answered 03 Feb '11, 22:14

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Thanks Jaianniah. Very positive. However, all the answers so far are slightly off-track (my bad), so I've edited my question. Perhaps you could take a look at it again?

(04 Feb '11, 12:44) Pat W

The thoughts of others manifest themselves just as ours do, and it's difficult to not be affected by that. And perhaps you will find defenses, such as limiting your time with negative people who compare you to others, shielding yourself, reversing what they say to you and so forth. But ultimately, as Michael said, your own power for yourself is stronger and positive energy is stronger than negative. Press forward with your own vision for yourself and don't give any power to negative comments, comparisons and picturings.


answered 04 Feb '11, 17:54

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LeeAnn 1

Thanks LeeAnn. Could you share more on the bit about "reversing what they say" and "shielding myself"?

(04 Feb '11, 18:05) Pat W
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