I was In a abusive relationship the person been gone for a year. He came back and now threaten my life. I was at a wonderful place in my life. I had finally found happiness in myself. And now this person is threatening to kill me. How do I over come this with great spirit?? Because I'm starting to feel lost and broken. Please direct me in the right path

asked 22 Apr '11, 18:22

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edited 22 Apr '11, 19:54

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I agree fully with LeeAnn that you need to take all the practical steps to keep yourself and your kids safe. However, do keep in mind what Rob is saying... when you move yourself out of danger's way , ensure you keep working on your own vibration or you will attract more of the same in a different disguise.

(23 Apr '11, 18:54) Michaela

If your house is burning and the fire department say go. Do you stay?
"Its my house my stuff I can't leave it?" No you LEAVE!
The flood waters have forced you to go to the roof of your house and it is still raining and rescuers come in a boat you get on. Or do you say " No thanks I can swim." No you LEAVE!
And of course you think of your children first. Haven't they experienced enough hate, anger, and fear?
So ask yourself how hot is this fire. Do you have the resources to put it out and repair or is it time to get out and build a new house ? You build this house with better materials In a better location. From your present experience you know what you want in this house and what you don't want.
You have left him,maybe it's time to leave everything about him.The money is a constant attachment to the past for all involved. If you believe you need that it will continue to be so.
Have you thought that this is an opportunity that has showed itself to you and not a set back?


answered 23 Apr '11, 08:15

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As I'm sure your heart is in the right place, it is very important for everyone who has not had personal or professional experience with domestic violence, that the time a victim decides to leave is the most dangerous time for them. Leaving an abusive relationship is never as easy as people think. When that person threatens to harm loved ones, family members, do you thin it's best for that person to leave? What is the victim, their family, and friends supposed to do?

(14 Feb '13, 21:50) OceanSize

There are numerous cases where the abuser has harmed family members, kidnapped the children (biological or not), and have even killed 3rd parties because the victim left. Specifically, an abuser decided to stalk his ex-gf's sister. He killed her while she was in a parking garage. These are human (or animal) lives we are talking about. Not a buildig burning. It is not the same thing. Please do more research before advising someone to leave without a safety plan.

(14 Feb '13, 21:54) OceanSize

Do a web search for domestic violence organizations. Read about power and control, and safety plans.

(14 Feb '13, 21:55) OceanSize

@OceanSize- I agree. She needs to make a comprehensive plan, starting with an Order of Protection. Belinda, BE CAREFUL!!!!

(15 Feb '13, 00:24) Jaianniah

@Jaianniah - Thank you, Jaianniah. I am very passionate about this, from personal and professional experience. It is frustrating when people are conditioned to believe and the media enforces the myth that it is so easy to leave. Trust me, it is important to look for the red flags early on, because it is somewhat easier to leave then rather than when one is emotionally invested, pregnant, married, etc.!! Please be safe everyone and for those who feel violence in their hearts, please find peace.

(15 Feb '13, 13:20) OceanSize

@OceanSize Thanks so much for the tips .The symbolism of the burning building was direct more towards the relationship than the actual person .So use the fire escape or wait for a fire truck..(have a safety plan) and yes those are horrible things that have happened to others outside of that relationship that were harmed in your examples. But I would wonder how many more wives that stay home die in comparison ? How much more trauma do their children need to experience?

(15 Feb '13, 17:38) ursixx

It is heartbreaking all around. But, the positive is that children from abused homes do not have to continue the cycle. Unfortunately, it is only until the abused reclaim their power in a multitude of ways, will they remain stuck. There is an ongoing battle of self-blame, loving the person, hoping they will change, not knowing where or how to get help, and the very real threat of murder to them, the children, or others. I realize this question is from 2011. I pray Belinda is safe now!

(15 Feb '13, 18:04) OceanSize
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Honestly, if it were me this was happening to, I would not even worry about the big picture here, and whether or not there was some deep metaphysical cause for it. It could be something from a past life trying to work itself out, it could be something unhealthy tying you together, it could be that he is mentally ill and it isn't you at all with any problem. I would just make sure that I am safe. If that meant starting in a new town (with unlisted phone number and address) or staying with friends elsewhere for awhile....whatever it took. I would get myself from harm's way and go on with my life. I would also document these threats for the authorities as well. It seems unlikely that a criminal would be released if he was making threats. The longer he is locked up the safer you are. Is it fair? No, but life is sometimes not fair. Do what is best for yourself and worry about what caused it later!


answered 23 Apr '11, 14:59

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i agree she must do what she feels in nesacery to make herself and childrden safe, BUT if you are just running away that can attract more of teh same yes? , like you sat maybey nit try to explain this as an LOA thing BUT, if you do not, that can hurt it if you are not TRULY running all senerios through your belief systems , right? love n light 2 u ! i hope the best 4 her as you do !

(23 Apr '11, 18:07) TReb Bor yit-NE

I wish I could up-vote your answer more than once ^^^

(23 Apr '11, 18:15) ursixx

I understand what you are saying Rob, and that's a good point, but again, I would worry about that later. Right now the priority should be being physically safe. Just my opinion.

Thanks Ursixx...

(23 Apr '11, 18:51) LeeAnn 1
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hello my friend, i am sorry to hear this, the reason we attract things sometimes seems hard to truly accept in the time in which they are happening, there can be several reasons for this to happen, (even though you probably do not want to hear this ) you can be testing yourself with the newly found beliefs, you can need to have this evil over your head so that your character is strengthened. you can be attracting this so that he does attack you and is out in jail or prison, there are SOOO many reasons that this can be happening to you but none of them you are going to fully be able to realize until it is all said and done! i am not trying to bum you out, i am not saying that what he is doing is right and i sure am not saying you deserve this, BUT WHAT I AM SAYING, is that for SOME reason, you NEED this to happen. We spend more time that we have living in the past and in the "what ifs" of the future. if you only hear one piece of advise i give, PLEASE HEAR THIS!!!! LIVE in the NOW, do not keep your soul cluttered with fear and doubt!! USE THE NEW found energy and happiness that you have found in the last year !! LIVE IN TODAY, if he trys to hurt you call the police, protect yourself, what ever you feel is right BUT when you dwell on this and he makes you afraid for your well being, HE WINS!!!!! WHEN YOU DO THIS, When you are always living in fear and worried about what it is he is going to do, then you are taking the power away from yourself and giving it to him, you are actually attracting the energy for him to attack you! PLEASE DON'T GIVE HIS TO HIM!!!!~ live your life in the great happiness that you found and let him deal with his own issues. if he decides to bring them to you, then you will be in the situation you need to be in, and WHATEVER the "lesson" or "experience" that your soul requires for this whole thing ,, will be met and then it will be done, IF YOU ALLOW IT TO BE DONE, basically i am saying NO FEAR, AND STAY IN THE NOW, drop all of your :what ifs: thoughts ok? i know it is easy to say this from, were i am sitting BUT i know that you will get the experiences that your soul requires, good or "bad" they all give us a life "lesson" i will send you my love and energy of protection as best as i can !

love n light,



answered 22 Apr '11, 19:05

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edited 23 Apr '11, 07:47

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Thank you for all your great advice your words are very powerful and encouraging. I get everything you are saying to me and I feel more strong thanks to your word. I was about to stop and go back to the place I was at. But no I deserve my happiness and I will not give up on finding the power within me. It truly is my time to shine. Thank you again

(22 Apr '11, 22:17) Belinda

ur welcome,, i realy want u to knopw that ur inner streanth will be killed by teh relationships that make u feekl like this,, when ii was on drugs i did hoprrible things to my wife,, i still have hard time 4giving myself but i know i have changed ,, the same streangth u have in u now will get u tyhrough ur life,, and if u need to have him arrested than do it,,,please raed this and it will show u the importance of dealing w/ this now and showing teh police a pattern,, this woman tryed 2x for a restarining order bu they said because she never repoted it, no pttern of violenc they said no!

(22 Apr '11, 23:10) TReb Bor yit-NE

sorry,, i 4get the article,,


(22 Apr '11, 23:10) TReb Bor yit-NE

please do not let this be u,, http://abcnews.go.com/US/florida-man-paul-gonzalez-beats-wife-judges-chambers/story?id=13420318

(22 Apr '11, 23:26) TReb Bor yit-NE

OMG that made my heart drop that's the reason why this all started, cause of him having to pay child support. He's in jail now he goes to court on Monday and I already have 3 restraining orders on him!!! I refuse to live in fear

(23 Apr '11, 04:09) Belinda

i want to let u know that u WILL be ok!!!!!! i hope to god u make it through everythiong with this SAME streangth... if u want to get ahold of me or talk to my wife as a female freind, here is my f.b. account, love n light.. http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/profile.php?id=100001951475374

(23 Apr '11, 13:50) TReb Bor yit-NE
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I know this sounds a little to straight forward...but have you thought of informing the police?

My advice would be to do just that.



answered 22 Apr '11, 20:32

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He is in jail now, this is not my life anymore but he is treating to come out and kill me. They want me to move, but why should I run?? He doesn't have to run or hide or be scared. Why must I live my life in fear??

(22 Apr '11, 22:21) Belinda

Don't live in fear, move. Then do EFT to relieve the trauma.

(22 Apr '11, 23:05) Fairy Princess

I don't know what your beliefs are, I don't know if you know about channeling, here is an explanation also there are a few thing is want to share that might help you this is a 3 part video heres part one heres the list of where to find all the 2nd part and 3rd parts of our videos ,, if you have a face book please friend me and I will like to talk to you more and maybe show you a few videos ,, its hard to do it here ,, also here is a great one for u as well,,, if you can get help from me and my source,, if you believe in channeling (or even if u want to try) then maybe we can help!!

love n light,,



answered 23 Apr '11, 14:22

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I never new this was even possible I'm new at all this. All I know is that I was a peaceful life, no more hate or bad things in it. My mind is open to anything at this point. I deserve great things I'm a beautiful young girl this isn't what my life was ment to be I truly know that now. Thank u for your words

(24 Apr '11, 00:39) Belinda

you are welcome, if you have an open mind try listing to the videos, NOT watching them, it is jarring to a newbie lol, my source HAS great wisdom, wheather u believe in channeling, aliens, anything "crazy" like that, If you can put all of that behind you, you can learn MUCH,,, love n light!

(24 Apr '11, 00:46) TReb Bor yit-NE

if he make life threat record him! and call the cops! they will help you out! you could have close relative or person you trust around you so that he does not come near! als o a big dog or baseball bat in the house could help you out just in case! rember to change the lock if he add access to where you are before!


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