So... I was wondering if anyone can give any advice on whether life would like that I be single or not.
The problem is this, I'm a guy and is it just my lust talking to me trying to convince me that I should ask this girl out? ... Now, I won't lie and say I don't think about sex. But I hope you can trust me when I say I'm genuinely interested in any conversation.
I am friendly and I can crack jokes to anyone sometimes. However, I've never been in a relationship before. Now I have tried asking girls out, but rejected. Yet... I really felt like she was going to be special one.
And now it's here yet again. That annoying voice. However before I meet this girl.... I did ask the universe for a girlfriend. I didn't really have anything specific, just the usual "be confident, beautiful and smart" which this girl has.
AND PLEASE DO NOT GIVE ME TIPS ON DATING GIRLS. OR SOME KIND OF PICK UP ARTIST ADVICE. I would have posted in some other forum for that. I am focused on my decision rather than on the girl.
I'm just wondering when you decide whether you truly desire a partner, genuinely and not out of pure lust.
I can play the pros and cons game, but each side have their ups and downs.... Hard to decide
Ah... don't know.. maybe I'm scared after those ejections... so here I am questioning and all. But I might as well learn from this.
Thanks for reading and I look forward to your responses =) Thanks
asked 03 May '11, 19:20
All you have to do is ....
Be honest about who you are, do not try to be anybody else. Do not try to impress her. BE the qualities you wanted in her (confident , smart).
see what happens
You can't force anything, we do not chose who we fall in love with.
Have a good time!
answered 03 May '11, 20:36
Junwen,do you desire a partner? simple question.
If you do then a partners just the thing for you.
If not then being alone will be fine.
Be honest and answer the question for yourself.
Desire means its for you...dont fight it.Desires good, natural and Gods way.
answered 03 May '11, 21:14
Only you can answer that.
I detect a little guilt around the issue of your sexual desires. As Graham (Monty) pointed out desire is perfectly natural so I think first you have to let go of any hangups you're associating with that. Secondly, I'd suggest asking her out, take it slow and see where it goes. Don't listen to the analytical voice ( fear will always try to hold the upper hand )... try going with the flow and see what happens. Good luck :)
answered 03 May '11, 21:59
When you start to think differently and see life from a different perspective than when you were younger. For some people that age can be very different
it seems to me that most life situations (at least in the US) i.e. - college, getting a job, getting "older" lead to making the decision to have a genuine partner.
Truly, it is different from person to person. Some people end up in different life-styles.
To break it down, you will not be single but what "type" of relationship you will or will not have is the question that I see. Take your time don't get stuck in the loop of the question. Hope I didn't confuse you more!
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answered 03 May '11, 20:54
well for women rejecting you! they often do that they don't know what is a good partner anny way! and most of them run after stupid things that will get them no where money, material stuff, fame ,popularity,sweet talker that make them believe lie! so don't worry they just don't know what they are missing! and they will probably come running back to you in the future! or you will see them bad mouting the bf or husband but they chose him! so they can only blame them self!eventually you will meet the right one!you are not the only men having this problem! be your self and stop running after them let them run after you!eventually one will wake up somewhere! also take your time to not get stuck with aload of problem!
answered 05 May '11, 00:09
Funny thing, I asked the universe for a girlfriend too, and nothing happened. I think it's because the universe hates me. Being short, fat and not very good looking doesn't help matters any. Can't change my height. Haven't been able to lose the weight. A face transplant would help, but unfortunately they don't just give out things like that.
I would like to have a girlfriend and would like to be in a relationship, although it doesn't look like this is ever going to happen for me. I know I'm not the only one in this situation, so yes, I think it's safe to say some are just meant to be single, even though they don't want to be.
So I'm giving up the quest for a girlfriend. If I had been meant to find someone, I would have found her by now.
You ask for a girlfriend and a potential girlfriend appeared. Do you want to be with her? Express your feelings for her then.
Make sure it is not just lust, but that you also like her body and her personality, because if not, you may not have anything to do or talk about except that one thing lol
answered 31 Mar '14, 11:52
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