No, suffering is not necessary. But sometimes suffering provides the motivation for a person to change, when they wouldn't otherwise. And in changing, that person becomes a better person.
It's worth noting that in many cases people choose to suffer. If you have a roof over your head, enough food to eat, clothes to wear and a place to sleep, and are otherwise physically healthy, what exactly are you suffering for?
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we are part of the universe and experience all its parts - sufferring and joy can lead to change where some people choose to generate more sufferring, while others choose to help heal sufferring and generate more joy.
answered 04 Jun '11, 08:08
I found this great question languishing in the dust, and decided that perhaps I can answer this question from the unique perspective of having nearly died, losing my marriage, going through withdrawal from the massive amount of pain meds I had to take for years...and so on...
What did I learn in my suffering, in that Great Valley?
I have answered this before...
I learned, first and foremost, that the Will to survive is unbelievably strong in me. I did not realize this until I was shivering, sweating, and crawling from withdrawal, and refused the meds that were right across the room from me!
I learned that suffering yourself makes you really, really aware of the suffering of others. In fact, there will always be someone worse off than I...always!
I learned perspective...that I could laugh with the nurses even though they were hurting me as they changed the dressing on my necrotic leg. I found out that I was only one human in a sea of suffering humans...and I decided that I would rather have my share than that of someone else's.
I found out that I grew. Even my chakras (energy centers of the body) grew. This means so much to me...because it means that I fought through and won!
If you are suffering, I am sorry..please hang in there, and force yourself to grow through it. You will not be sorry at all, once you pop out the other side!
answered 21 Aug '11, 10:03
I think we can only realise our innermost strength during those times of adversity or when we are willing to face our greatest fears. I think at those times we have the ability to call forth the indomitable spirit that resides within each of us and those times of suffering then become a stepping stone in our own evolution if we have the courage to confront what we're being shown... every situation even the seemingly most dire contains the opportunity for growth :)
answered 21 Aug '11, 11:58
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