This may have been obvious to everyone but me..but here goes: I am very intelligent, and it is the most horrible impediment I have in my humility.
For example, when there is a problem, the solution to it leaps to my mind faster than other people can even think, and I find myself thinking that because I got there first, I must be correct ! But recently, I have taken a cold, hard look at this quality in myself, and have found that just because I can leap to a quick answer before everyone else does not mean that my answer is the best answer! In fact, it means nothing at all...except that I think fast. So what? What matters is if I think right. Actually, it was Wade who inadvertently taught me that fast does not mean correct...He is just as intelligent as I am, but he takes his time, and by watching him, I have finally seen that I lack humility.
This has been a hard and humbling lesson for me. Necessary, but hard.
I cannot believe I have gone all these years with such a large ego and such small humility...So here is my question: How do you balance your own intelligence with a measure of good, old fashioned humbleness? Help!
Blessings, and (finally) in Great Humility, Jaianniah
asked 15 Jul '11, 02:06
For me it was the realization that intelligence does not equal wisdom.
I was fortunate enough to be born with an above average level of intelligence but I'm only now coming to realize that wisdom is much more preferable...that was a humbling realization.
answered 15 Jul '11, 02:21
Within yourself, know that you are awesome and intelligent, and live your truth by example. Have your internal dialouge be very complimenting, but to the outside world show that you are just a simple monk. However, inside you know that monks are actually very complex.
Love and Light
answered 15 Jul '11, 09:52
As Wade recently pointed out, our ego is a part of who we are. There's no real escaping from it or any need or possibility of killing it. The ego does what it does and acts as it acts because of its nature; I no longer see it as right or wrong or as something to be annihilated.
I find it helpful to view one’s ego as the personality construct of the lower physical mind. And rather than viewing it as something to be tamed or overcome, when seen from the perspective of our higher mind or higher self, one’s ego (which is not separate from us) naturally takes it upon itself to find a place of balance in one’s life.
Thus, one’s ego is always waiting in abeyance to assist our total physical being whenever needed, but will not do so (or rarely ;-) ), unless any particular situation deems it necessary or appropriate. For instance: while our ego could come out and quote facts that seemingly prove another wrong, it realizes that it’s always better for our total being to be happy rather than to be right.
Einstein explained ego this way:
answered 15 Jul '11, 05:28
You can be the most intelligent, most powerful, most compassionate, most [type anything] and still be humble. It does not matter who you are and what you posess. It is not like it is easier to be humble when you are a beggar without any skill or faculty of the mind or character. It is easier to have no self-confidence, but not to be humble. You actually have to posess something valuable because only then you can know how it is to boast. Only when you know this feeling you can be humble.
answered 15 Jul '11, 18:18
Yes I like reading things through, then pondering them a bit before an answer if an answer comes to me.
We are all God's children so I know someone else probably has an answer as good as mine, better or worse but all equal in consideration.
We all have our enlightenments that we share here and I have had many myself from reading something someone else wrote. It triggers within my brain a moment of "If this means this then why couldn't that apply here too, wow it does!"
This constant state of awe I live in keeps me humble because I feel I have much to learn always and I am enjoying every moment of being awake!
If I had all the answers, I wouldn't feel a need to be here it would be boring. Exploring and being enlightened is far more fun, every moment an enlightening moment of wonder!
I feel I need explain I am using the term enlightened as a verb to learn or wake up not as a noun as I am enlightened like the Buddha. Generally I am enlightened on a lot of things a lot of little enlightenments as we all are here, I just wanted to clarify that if I confused anyone as to my intention.
I work with people with developmental disabilities. I work at a school in special ed and with adults as a life skills trainer. I try to find the strenghths in these people. Like I have a client, an adult with dd, who is very good at remembering names and birthdays, so I build her up with that. I also have discovered that we all have our genius area and our retarded area. I may be a genius mentally on paper, but socially, I am retarded. The people who are technically retarted on paper, have a genius in another area. One client is good at remembering phone numbers, so I would ask him for a number before looking it up.
Also, when I look around at all the 'progress' people have made, it is humbling. I didn't invent the tv or the spaceship that went to the moon. Before I was born, people were paving roads and building cars and driving them. They will continue to do this after I am gone. If I want to make a dent in this world, I am going to have do something real. If I don't invent something great, at least I can make a good impression on many hearts as I help them. I am also learning which kinds of things to offer help with and which to let them ask for help. It's funny how people would gladly take help from someone opening a door for them when their hands are full then to have somebody show them how to tap away anger. Hmmm...
answered 15 Jul '11, 12:05
like it is said some will be first and be last . and some will be last and be first. so always pass the last one when you will have got what every one else put in.this way you stay humble in harmony with everyone. with every one. experiance and enjoy.
some might think or might judge you that you are slow if you are the last it is there problem not yours. your thinking is as good as every one else if someone do not take what you say in consideration because he judge you he will be missing something.
it all depends how you define "intelligence " . we all probably have our own definition
based on personal beliefs , and with experience personal beliefs are often proved 99% wrong .
" intelligence" and humility cannot be balanced one against the other .
answered 16 Jul '11, 17:33
Anything that is extra ordinary is unique and rare and most likely cannot be compared to anything else, and this is therefore a gift and strength for you. In terms of humility, you are free to be, and humble your self as you so wish to be.
1 Peter 5:5: “Clothe yourself with humility towards one another, because God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
answered 17 Jul '11, 02:55
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there can be a number of ways to do so. it can be done if put as a suggestion and instilled in ur subconscious mind that 'u never compare urself with anyone'. the concept behind this is that u will only feel inflated with ego if u compare urself with someone/something etc. u might say that this affirmation has a negative connotation in the form of 'never'. but as per my experience and familiarity with affirmations, it will work. it works with me, coz i know how to do it. technique to do something is one thing, but spontaenity is another. spontaenity comes wid regular and intuitive practice. so with me, sentences wid negative connotations work very well as affirmations. if it doesnt work for u, leave it.---- another technique to become humble is relaxing urself, and focusing on the word 'humility' and being intuitive and receptive to what ur heart is saying. being receptive helps in understanding the nuances of a practice which the greatest of books will not be able to tell u. ----- writing down the word 'humility' wid focus, concentration, feeling etc again works. so there will b a number of exercises. easiest is.. repeat 15 or more times 1st thing in the morning...'i m humble'... it will manifest inn a few days.
answered 28 Aug '11, 20:01
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