Impatience is perhaps a vibrational blockage to manifestation. I have to say that law of attraction seems to be, at first glance, an 'easy' method people use because they are impatinent. I want a girlfriend, and on this forum people say to "let love find you" and pretty much be in no rush. But likewise, I'm not desperate, but just want it NOW NOW NOW. I've been single for 18 years- I'm ready for a girlfriend, i actually feel mad when I hear that I have to wait (longer), yet I have no definite 'due date' when a rendezevou is going to happen. I've been told to 'enjoy being single,' yet that's what I'm doing. How can I enjoy being single if I didn't know that being in a relationship is such a set-back?!

Basically, how can I redirect impatience. Waiting for a girlfriend, what's the best way to 'wait'?

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asked 15 Jul '11, 13:53

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As long as you focus on what's missing you're contributing to keeping what's wanted away from you. Remember that there's only YES in the language of the Universe...

(16 Jul '11, 01:29) Eddie

to want someone to satisfy your believed needs of what a woman can do for you is like a selfish wish,
do you believe you are less than whole without a partner,
or on a run of bad luck by being alone, instead of complementing someone;
yes, a belief of not growing fast enough or missing out on something may
work its way to thoughts of impatience


answered 15 Jul '11, 22:11

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your answer intrigues me so much. I would be greatful if you could explain your answer in more detail. Are you saying that feeling left out is the stem of impatience?

(16 Jul '11, 01:26) Nikulas

in your question: believing in entitlements, whether thoughts or feelings directs ones mental energy towards self-centeredness, on wanting it now. when you get what is believed desired, impatience usually subsides.

(16 Jul '11, 13:57) fred

be your self do what you like. that way time pass fast and eventually you should meet someone. experiance and enjoy.


answered 15 Jul '11, 18:44

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If having a girlfriend is what you want now, "enjoying being single" is not a solution for you. The question is why do you want to get a girlfriend using the Law of Attraction. My reason for using LOA in manifesting a soulmate is that I want that person to have very specific qualities. I know it would be hard to find a person with those exact qualities in a normal way. It would require a lot of trial and error and I am not interested in dating. If I simply wanted a girlfriend without specific qualities in mind, I would focus on developing the so called "social intelligence" and use LOA only to manifest the events of meeting new people - not girlfriends, but just girls with girlfriend potential.

I clearly see this problem within myself too. What I am going to do? I have a plan to go out every day and meet one new person, and talk using ideas from the book:

You Can! People Skills for Life
Allan Pease, Barbara Pease

or maybe some PUA source. But not to date and break hearts. To self improve and simultaneously help others. That is the plan, we'll see how it goes.


answered 15 Jul '11, 15:22

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edited 15 Jul '11, 15:31

This answer is my tequila rapido- a shiny answer I was looking for. I want to meet love, but social sculpting will be my past time.

(15 Jul '11, 16:38) Nikulas

Could you write me a message at I can give you amazing materials for social skills work. And we can support each other because I am dealing with the e x a c t same problem.

(17 Jul '11, 21:26) Asklepios

What you are seeking is love. First learn to love yourself, your life and the people in your world. Learn to be happy with who you are. If you are not happy with yourself, then you will find it hard to respect anybody who loves you. Use Stingray's Manifesting Experiment 4 along with EFT to systematically eliminate negative emotions, limiting beliefs, fears and phobias, obsessive thoughts, etc... that are keeping you from happiness now. Another problem with finding a mate while you don't love yourself, is that that person will love the you now and not the you that is in love with you, so this could cause problems in the relationship. So, first, get yourself to learn to love you, then others can too. Not that you can't learn and grow with another person, but why take the chance they won't go with you or will hold you back. When you love yourself and are happy with who you are, you won't feel the need to feel loved by another person, then you can let go and attract the qualities you want. You are responsible for your happiness. Unless you are happy with who you are, and if you expect to find your happiness in another person, you will be disappointed. That also puts too much on the other person to be responsible for your happiness. So use the EFT with ME4 to systematically eliminate the thoughts, beliefs, etc... that keep you from loving yourself. Then, when you are full of that love, it can then spill over to others. You can't give others what you don't have.


answered 15 Jul '11, 16:04

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as per my individual view, i feel that accessing the law of attraction using the conventional techniques has some drawbacks. actually the techniques themselves are perfect, but when we use them, and use too much of our conscious effort to try and manifest, we are likely to develop impatience or other negative emotions, reason being that we are playing with our emotional power, without being fully aware of how we are exactly feeling. we are not really aware of the subtle emotions that we bring to fore when trying hard to feel them. this is the problem. but when u use self hypnosis, and surrender to the subconscious, the subconscious will give out the MOST appropriate feelings without u being conscious. i must tell u that once u make a script and listen to it in alpha/theta state, the most immediate effect it will have on u is that u will stop being impatience about having a girl friend. this is because your subconscious knows that you need to feel poised and happy. but same thing when u try and do it in ur conscious awareness, it is u who is choosing what feelings (vibrations/emotions) to bring to the surface. and the more passionate you are about your wish, the more anxiety and impatience you are like to develop.


answered 28 Aug '11, 20:22

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