This question is relating to the emotional scale which has been discussed before on this site here.
If I am in a state of depression, am I justified in getting angry with others and blaming others in order to move up the emotional scale and feel better?
It seems to me that if we use anger or blame to feel better, then we sort of automatically feel guilty afterwards. And the fact that the person on the other end of the anger and blame does not like being shouted and blamed does not help.
So, my question is what should be my attitude towards anger and blame whether I am the one doing it or the one on the receiving end of it?
I've previously posted an answer here that goes into this topic in some detail.
Notice that at no point have I said that you should act upon the anger you feel...though many people unwisely do.
And also notice in that answer that at no point have I said that you should stay permanently in anger...though many people unwisely do.
Having said all that, feeling some form of anger is a valuable tool - and ultimately the only way vibrationally - to regain your feeling of self-empowerment if you truly do reside in depression.
I feel obliged to point out one further important thing that wasn't in the answer I am referring to.
And that is that if you accept that you create your own reality then the target of your anger must be a vibrational match to it in order for you to be angry with them and for them to experience the results of that anger.
So are you sure you have a valid reason to feel guilty about being angry?
answered 27 Dec '09, 18:38
There's no question that anger is more powerful than depression, but it's certainly not the best way to live. People who live in constant anger develop stress-related illnesses such as ulcers and hypertension. Those of us who can channel that anger into constructive (and not destructive) action understand anger's true purpose.
I have been in both places and I can tell you that depression essentially leaves you powerless to do anything. With anger, at least you're motivated to do something. Ask anyone who has lost a loved one to an unexpected, incurable disease. Eventually, that person will rise from depression into anger, and often they will channel that anger into something constructive, like starting a foundation to raise money for research that will find a cure for the disease.
Of course, it can be argued that such a person is acting from a place of inspiration, an emotion that is much higher on the emotional guidance scale. But I would suggest to you that the seed of that inspiration was first anger at their loss, and then determination to do something about it, and then inspiration.
I suffer from major depression.
I have never once felt that I would get anywhere by getting mad at others about my depression; I feel that, in my case, it is at least in part caused by genetic factors. Depression and bi-polar disorder are rampant in my family tree, and there is even one suicide in my family's past, along with a lot of alcoholism.
I do get angry about having to deal with this disease- and I use that anger to make sure I take my medications and keep all my doctor's appointments.
In a strange way, the fact that I suffer from this disease has helped me- I can relate to others who struggle with depression, and have learned a lot of tricks to cope with my depression. I often find myself sharing what I have learned with other people.
I am against deliberately venting anger on other people just so I can feel better. It is wrong, wrong, wrong.
answered 27 Dec '09, 17:53
I see that anger outward expressed toward others because of our own inward depressions as being non-productive. This will not be of help to ourselves because it places blame and finds fault instead looks for solutions. It is only in the solution finding or accepting things as they are that we can be released from them. But projecting things on others is refusing to see what is bothering us, as long as we refuse to see and release or solve we will continue to be burdened.
answered 29 Dec '09, 06:27
In my opinion, there is absolutely NO reason to be angry, anytime.
answered 27 Dec '09, 17:59
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