A quote my father likes to throw around.. "You can either be the cause of everything around you, or you can be the effect."
As of late I have found myself feeling like I am only falling into the latter category.
So, as the title asks: "What do you do when you feel like you have no control of your own life or the world around you?"
[I'm intentionally leaving this question very vague so it can be addressed in a manner that might be more relevant to others with similar troubles.]
asked 12 Jan '12, 04:01
There is a prayer that goes something like this:
If you look at your life carefully, you will see that there are some things that you do have control over: What time you wake up. Whether you drink coffee or tea with breakfast. Whether to shower or take a bath. And so on. There are very few people that do not have some say in how their day goes.
Notice that the prayer asks for serenity to accept- not to just accept, but to have serenity to accept what cannot be changed. This is the goal: to be serene about those things over which you do not have control. You have more control than you perceive that you have. Embrace that control, and take charge of what you can.
The next part asks for courage to change what you can. This, too, requires some effort. If some parts of your life are out of control, then take steps to get them under control. Let us say that you are enormously in debt. It does not help to ignore it. Open the phone book, call for help, call your creditors, call a lawyer...do something! If there is a person in your life who drives you buggy, give that person to God, get out of his or her way, and let go. Stop being a victim.
The third part is in deciding what you can change and what you cannot. Pray for guidance, and yes, wisdom.
Use this prayer and you will see that you have many more choices about your life than you thought you did.
Good luck. Pray, pray, pray!
answered 12 Jan '12, 09:49
If I felt that way, I would start, immediately, making more proactive decisions about my life. My confidence would grow with each good decision. And I would also work on trying to get back into the vortex by doing things I like to do: being with uplifting people, seeing good movies, listening to music I like, re-arranging my living space, getting outdoors for some exercise, perhaps doing some volunteer work.... it would be my job to get back to feeling good again! These are good ways to turn things back around.
answered 12 Jan '12, 09:17
Then I should try to get back into the feeling of "I have control over the life or the world around me", or nothing that I do will probably ever help at all.
answered 12 Jan '12, 07:41
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