This question relates to: What role does chance and being-in-the-wrong-place-at-the-wrong-time play into the LOA?
This is really interesting and confusing. Where I understand and believe that we do attract every experience - good or bad - I get confused because I believe we grow spiritually only through experiences, our own and others.
That's where I get confused - when you suffer - heartbreak after heartbreak is it because you deeply want a soulmate (LOA) therefore in order for the universe to provide this to you, you had to experience suffering in order to recognise a soulmate or prepare you for your soulmate.
Yet if we believe we have a devine self there would be no suffering but to get to the devine state - we have to first experience suffering and learn about LOA.
Do we attract our own death or do we have a time to die? - for instance before we were born we choose when and how we die, or when we have done what we came here to do?
If that were the case then it would come back to LOA for our deaths.
Abraham say that all death is suicide...meaning that you vibrationally choose when you want to die.
Of course, not everyone (yet) is aware of what they are vibrationally choosing because many deem their emotions (the vibrational feedback mechanism) are not important to them. That means that deaths to them can seem to be random and unexpected - though none ever are.
There's more information on these ideas in: Does the way in which a person dies reflect their level of "spiritual attainment' ?
Regarding the other point in the body of your question, as LapisLazuli says, you never need to suffer. It's entirely your choice if that's the way you want to live your life.
The keynote principle underlying our physical realities is that of expansion. We are always becoming more whether we want to or not. So standing still in life is never an option because the standing-still place is effectively going backwards if everything else is moving forwards.
So one could argue that the amount of suffering you choose to endure is related to the amount by which you wish to try to "stand still" in a world of eternal motion.
So there's really two approaches to life.
One approach is to stand still, make yourself suffer a lot and then eventually go with it (because you really have no choice but to "go with it" in the long run). The other approach is to just keep gently re-aligning with the new expanded place that your life naturally brings you into.
Which approach is right for you?
Well, it depends on how much drama you like in your life :)
There's more information regarding these different approaches to living in: How to increase density of desire for some thing to manifest it easily ?
But see... you never have to suffer. The way you feel in any given moment is completely up to you. A not-so-ideal situation can happen to you, but you can choose to be happy regardless. That is how you break the cycle of heartbreak after heartbreak. "Circumstances don't matter, only state of being matters." -Bashar
answered 30 Jan '12, 11:18
it is not chance, but
do i still look outside
answered 31 Jan '12, 21:24
you have free will and are responsible of it if you want to do something that will kill you then it might kill you. if you decide to die you will die. its all about choice. yes when you decide it is the time. but nature can play a role in that also. there is many factor affecting your choice. experience and enjoy.
answered 31 Jan '12, 23:24
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