If we understand that that the fear of failure subconsciously attracts failure due to the law of Resistance, then how can we overcome fear. The fear of failure is basically the overwhelming desire to suceed. How can you ensure success without failure.
The theory of "facing your fear" is not always rational, considering that a person who has the fear of say dying wouldn't necessarily find solstice from their fears through death. If the only way to release a fear is to face it, how can we defeat fear without succumbing to it?
I would not call "fear of failure" an overwhelming desire to succeed. It's really an overwhelming desire to avoid pain. People tend to consider failure painful. As taught by Anthony Robbins, we humans are motivated by these two... pain and pleasure. We move away from pain and towards pleasure. An overwhelming desire to succeed would be colored more by a clear vision of what you truly want, a belief you can attain it, and then the enthusiasm and confidence to move forward with your plan. This is called Exciting!
And one more thing... few in this world have succeeded at anything of worth without failure. Like Tony Robbins said, "Success is the result of good judgement. Good judgement is the result of experience. And ironically, experience is the result of bad judgement!" So you can look at failure this way... Failure is nothing more than results that tells you what doesn't work so you can find what does work more easily.
Fear is a feeling or emotion that you feel. Our feelings are one of the main reasons we do or not do anything. In fact the main reason we do just about anything is because it "feels" good. Even if what we do is painful. This just means doing "this thing" is less painful than not doing it or doing "that other thing". Problem is this leads many to believe they are victims of their feelings and have no choice but to do or not do what they're feelings tell them, fear being one of the worst because it will literally stop you in your tracks and send you running from shadows, not just real threats. So fear causes a bad feeling that stops you from living life fully and owning your power. Thus you become powerless due to some inner experience you "feel" you have no control over. This is not true.
I have to agree with Fairy Princess... There are "ways" to make bad feelings stop right now including fear. I have used ZPoint quite a bit and will say it's very effective. I have used and taught EFT for many years and done amazing things with it. And now in the last several months I have discovered and use Chinese Energetics based on the Yuen Method almost exclusively. For me it is equal to EFT in effectiveness but accomplishes the same results in about one second with no movement of the hands or anything... just an awareness of the midline. Another variation on these teachings can be found with Elma Mayer in her Now Healing classes. And BTW, I am not affiliated with any of them for profit. I just believe in them because of my results with them.
You don't have to feel the fear if you don't want to. As Gary Craig taught in his EFT classes, "Fear is simply a disruption in the bodies electrical system", and you now have access to tools to make the proper adjustments to your "instrument" of success... your mind and body. Traditional psychology would take weeks, months or years. With the tools presented on this page, you can do it yourself in minutes or seconds. "Facing your fear" can be a scary thing bare handed. But when you show up with a Light Saber in one hand and a 45. in the other, problem solved. ;-)
Good luck to you.
answered 01 Feb '12, 18:02
As long as you view fear as something to be defeated or overcome, you will continue to manifest things that need to be defeated or overcome.
The mind creates the story or illusion and then creates the search which leaves one going around in circles looking for the solution. The personal story is the illusion, and looking for a solution to something that doesn't exist in the first place is a bit like the dog chasing it's tail.
To merely watch the mind is the only escape from the illusion (although in reality there's nothing to escape from because it really doesn't exist in the first place) so expanding one's own awareness is the only ticket to freedom. Self reflection and a willingness to give up the personal need to defend anything are the way to the Truth.
When the need to defend arises your greatest teachers are in your presence. If you can allow the fear based emotion to move through you and witness how the mind wants to attach a thought to it, thus giving it momentum, you'll begin to see how it's all just a story created and fabricated by the mind. The gift is that you'll begin to see that there really is nothing to be defeated or overcome...it's merely an illusion created by a confused or closed mind. To just watch a stressful or fearful thought and question it will open the mind enough to consider other possibilities.
...Truth needs no defense.
answered 09 Aug '12, 18:22
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answered 31 Jan '12, 21:19
by facing your fear and understanding them then you will see that there is nothing to fear. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_vtD2uZeZc http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFcuHyGCN7k&feature=mfu_in_order&list=UL
experience and enjoy.
answered 31 Jan '12, 22:11
There are several Energy work systems you can use on yourself that you can learn online through videos, articles, posts here, as well as in books. The ones that I have found to be helpful in removing fear are EFT, FasterEFT and more recently with less to say about it, Zpoint Process as described on Psi Tek here.
I used EFT to eliminate my fear of getting on the escalator. Before I used EFT, I would stand there for several minutes trying to get on, letting others get on as they came up. It would usually be behind other people that I would finally be able to get on. When I learned EFT, I decided that next time I go to the mall, in another town, that I would try the EFT. I did it there at the mall and then went over and got on and then went over to the other one and came back down. Now I just step on every time, no hesitation. Now I try it on everything.
I have shoulder injuries that make it painful to do EFT very much. I recently watched the videoshere where Grant Connolly discusses and demonstrates the Zpoint Process. It seems to bring relief on the things I have tried it on. I just started using it a few days ago, so I haven't much experience yet.
I have come up with a very fast easy technique I call Two Hands Touching. You can do it by its self, or you can combine it with affirmations. Two Hands Touching- Press the palms of your hands together and close your eyes. Ask yourself quietly in your mind, "What do my hands feel like?" Without naming the feelings, feel the answer in your hands. Don't try to think or not think, just feel your hands. Do this for at least 30 seconds and as long as you want/need. Do it as often as you think of it as well as every time you need it for fear, anxiety, stress, hiccups, whatever. Try it on everything, expect nothing and notice what is changed.
I have found that when I get sick and tired of fear it goes away. Here is an example from my dreams. This was the first time I became powerful in my dreams. I was being chased by ghouls in my dream. This lasted a while I just could not shake them they were always right behind me by maybe a few yards. But finely I just got sick and tired of being chased and stopped and turned around towards them. I looked right at them running toward and yelled in a commanding authoritative angry voice "STOP!!!!" You should have seen it they all practically fell over each to stop right in front of me! I yelled at them "Just what is your problem!" One of them spoke for them all and said, "We don't know." I said "why are you chasing me then?" They said, "Because you were running away from us. We thought we were suppose to chase you, that you wanted to be chased." I looked back at them and shouted "No I didn't want to be chased!" They said "We're sorry, we didn't know..." They all looked like children that were caught being bad, these sorry looking ghouls wondering what to do and feeling bad. Then I commanded them "Be gone!" POOF they were gone!
This is getting sick and tired of what you are creating and you choose to create something else. I did this once with depression too, I got sick and tired of being depressed and when I did, I imagined I threw it off of me and BANG it was gone! I choose again a different creation.
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