It can be seen everywhere around, something goes wrong and people ask, who or what is to blame. What was the cause. It sure is a good approach if you want to take preventive measures and learn from the mistakes made, but I feel so scripted by this approach I do not know otherwise.

And today, I read following quote which left me wondering. I used to blame others, now I just blame myself, but to see there's more to it I was stunt:

"It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete."--Epictetus, Enchiridion

And, honestly, I cannot figure out what such a way of living looks like. Therefore, pretty straighforwardly allow me to ask, what lies beyond that endless urge for finding a cause and blame?

Those of you who know and perhaps already live in such place, be so kind and share with me your knowledge, because I am hungry for the answer. I know deep inside I'm running towards the answer, but I would be greatful if you could blow me some wind of knowledge at my back, so my steps are lighter. :)

asked 20 Mar '12, 14:16

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edited 20 Mar '12, 14:18

calonlan, try self-righteousness or entitlement. a belief that some have a birthright to what they want, though they believe they are cultured or connected

(20 Mar '12, 21:28) fred

@Calonlan - This is a great question - thanks for posting.

(29 Jun '12, 06:36) Catherine

I love this question too.

(17 Jan '13, 07:15) clearheart

I did more wrong by asking that question than by casting a stone. So sad.

(17 Jan '13, 07:24) CalonLan
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it may be that the universe is ordered
and earth as part is also and then consequence follows action for cause

now, who has the highest rigt
in a disagreement is the court of law
and it judges


answered 30 Nov '12, 23:01

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"Allowing and accepting what is."

I think that would be the simplest way to put it. To me that is the in-between of cause and blame.

I have gone through all three phases so I understand the concept much more clearly that I used too. When you get to a point when you realize that your reality as a human on earth is your and yours alone, you can then better understand the concepts of your question.

If you can understand that whatever vibration is emanating from your being is the exact reflection or cause that you see outside of yourself, then you can understand that there is nothing or nobody to blame.

Blaming yourself for circumstances that happen is almost a way of saying that you shouldn't exist. You do exist and always will exist, so to blame a circumstance for happening or existing is the wrong way to go about the situation.

It's about allowing things to happen.

Being aware of the things that are happening in the moment and accept them for what they are. Become the observer.

Consciously changing the things that don't feel good by changing your thoughts and raising your vibration.

We try to find a cause and a blame in things because a lot of us don't truly know ourselves. A lot of us don't remember why we came to earth at this time and in this body so our conscious physical mind tries to decipher the answer through different filters the best way it knows how to.

We are pure positive, loving, infinite source energy. We came here to work though things such as this. We came here to work through the blaming of others, the blaming of ourselves, and thinking that we have no true power to change those beliefs.

Everything happens for a reason and that reason comes down to where our vibration and frequency are set. We are not to blame for the current setting. We are all just in different phases of finding out who we really are. We are all at a different level of understanding.

There is a worldwide illusion of what caused this and who's to blame no doubt about it, but that's all it really is anyway - just an illusion. That's part of the game of contrast we have been playing here for a long long time.


answered 20 Mar '12, 15:06

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edited 20 Mar '12, 15:09

What you are talking about is switching from being subjective to being objective. This is the aim of Avatar Enlightened Planetary Civilization, to move from always needing to define something and find out why to just observing as it is.

Think of that seat you are sitting on, you have had no thought about it until I mentioned it. No thought about who made it, what it is made of, what it feels like, is it comfortable or not, no thought it just has been existing under you and you gave it no thought.

Anything thought about anything is trying to attach something to it, emotion, thought, feeling, labels. Imagine this that that chair you on sitting on has no labels, it is not even called a chair! It has no identity other than the thing you are sitting on. Look now I called it a thing, I just gave it a judgement, I attached a label to it now it is defined. We want to get to the place of no-definition and not needing any either.

We want to get to the place of everything just IS. No need for blame, no need for judgement, no need for reason, just pure observation of your own mind and noticing the thought that goes by. Is this a label, a judgement, am I looking for a reason or answer instead of being awake?

What is being awake? Well if we look at it, we find that the mere fact we say awake is a judgement, a label. So it is beyond definition because the moment we try to define it, we put it in a box and say, "This is how it is." That is the illusion. But then again, that, is another subjective label. See it can go on and on, until we get to the place of not needing an answer for why, because it just is another thing to get in our way.


answered 20 Mar '12, 15:45

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Wade Casaldi

edited 20 Mar '12, 15:59

Blame is a product judgement, pride and fear. If we can live without judging good or bad, right or wrong, etc... then we can live beyond blame. Pride and fear are products of judgement. No foul no harm. So for personal application, if you find yourself blaming someone you can ask yourself, "What am I protecting? Why am I protecting that?" and go digging for things to clear, and surely you will find and keep finding. Or you can say something like, "None of these things move me," and then do Two Hands Touching until you feel better.

Two Hands Touching- Press the palms of your hands together and close your eyes. Ask yourself quietly in your head, "What do my hands feel like?" Don't try to name the feelings, just feel the answer in your hands. Feel for the heartbeat in your hands. Don't try to think or not think, just feel your hands.


answered 29 Jun '12, 09:16

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Fairy Princess

Blaming or shameing or finding a cause is a protection. It's root is our seeking approval for ourself. The cure is to learn self approval and self love, to keep growing in the knowldege of our own worthiness. cause we are worthy.

here is a bashar video...perfect for uplifting the given-ness of our worth. And for me, I am always learning this more and more.

and also it's about 12-21-12, or anyday of our life :)


answered 27 Nov '12, 00:00

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why do you blame is it not out of judgement? is it to prove your own rightenous? are you blameless? and if you are follow me and walk in my foot step.

Brethren, my heart's desire and prayer to God for Israel is, that they might be saved. For I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge. For they being ignorant of God's righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God. (Romans 10:1-3)

for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

If you really want to be righteous, you can be – Matthew 5:6, 'Those who hunger and thirst for righteousness are blest because they will be satisfied.'

To be counted righteous, you must treat other righteous people very well – Matthew 25:37-40, 'Then the righteous will ask, Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you as a stranger and take you in, or naked and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison, and come to you? And the king will say to them, I tell you the truth, when you did it for one of the least of these my brothers, you did it for me.'

Righteous people are at peace with others – James 3:18, 'The seeds of the fruit of righteousness are planted in peace by those who are making peace.'

You have to be an honest judge to be found righteous – John 7:24, 'Quit judging from the way things look on the surface; judge righteously!'

Most people in the world aren't considered righteous – 1 Corinthians 6:1, 2, 'Would any of you who think you have been [wronged] by another dare to take it to court [to be tried by] unrighteous men, rather than by the Holy Ones?'

get out of those rags and put your white clothes.

Yet you have a few people in Sardis who have not soiled their clothes. They will walk with me, dressed in white, for they are worthy.

Who will not fear you, O Lord, and bring glory to your name? For you alone are holy. All nations will come and worship before you, for your righteous acts have been revealed."

I counsel you to buy from me gold refined in the fire, so you can become rich; and white clothes to wear, so you can cover your shameful nakedness; and salve to put on your eyes, so you can see.

You must be blameless before the LORD your God.

Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

if you want the short version duality,imbalence,self rightenous,darkness in the heart, over flow from the heart,lack of understanding and knowledge of the truth.

learn from your mistake and do not commit them again. go and sin no more. experience and enjoy.


answered 20 Mar '12, 15:47

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white tiger

edited 27 Nov '12, 00:08

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