Life has decisions to be made. Some of these decisions can be made unemotionally, yet others drag at us with huge concurrent emotional baggage that can cloud our being able to make good choices. We blow a relatively trivial event far out of proportion and make it much harder to deal with. Why?
A lot of us have been conditioned to "work hard" at things and think that "there's no easy way to do this."
These thoughts come from conditioned habits, family upbringing, and societal brainwashing. The day we were born was the beginning of the belief that we weren't good enough, or strong enough, or smart enough, or pretty enough, etc. I'm not saying all people were brought up this way with these exact details, but this is just an example of why this situation may be occurring in some peoples lives.
A lot of us were never taught that our emotions were a guidance system. We grew up thinking that emotions just kind of happened. When your emotions get used to running wild and out of control, your reactions towards things become a habit. That habitual way of reacting continues to show it's ugly head every time a particular emotion is triggered.
We take life way too seriously sometimes instead of be grateful for this experience and appreciating the variety of circumstances and situations that come our way.
It comes down to making a conscious choice of being neutral and aware in the now moment, or letting the programming of the past get in the drivers seat and take control.
There was a time when I used to make Mount Everest size mountains out of molehills. Now I'm just content in looking and being aware of that molehill and pretty much just letting it be what it is, a molehill.
We can take the hard grueling trek up the ever dangerous mountain, or go the easy route with what's right in front us and calmly, with our full in the moment awareness, explore the simple little molehill.
Once we become aware of a bad habit, it then becomes a simple choice of which route feels like the better one to explore.
answered 30 Mar '12, 14:22
Hi Dollar Bill, the first thing I would say is that "choices" never have to involve "judgements". When life presents us with situations that we don't want we often have an emotion arise which requires a reaction or choice on our part. What I have found personally is that when I watch that emotion arise and watch the part of me that wants to make an automatic reaction or choice but instead I choose to respond in a different way I make mind boggling progress in my own growth process, and the next time that emotion comes calling it no longer has the same power to elicit an automatic reaction from me.
I think firstly we have to determine that we're not going to allow the automatic reaction the power that we've given it and secondly adopt a spiritual practice that supports that. For me nothing has worked better than daily meditation and it costs nothing and points me in the only direction that can give me answers, and that is within my own being.
As Cory, so rightly pointed out, those reactions are merely habit but like any habit they can be changed. Although for most of us it doesn't happen overnight, but usually requires the desire to do so combined with the determination of the will and the allowing of that Universal Principle that drives it all, when the desire is True it will always render the required results.
answered 30 Mar '12, 20:56
because of ego there is something that you do not understand and think it is important. but in the end it does not matter. eventually you will find the truth and realize that. you have free will and other people also have free will. use free will wisely stay in the truth in harmony. you are responsible of your free will and so are they. be a peace maker with a pure heart. experience and enjoy.
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I have found something that works for me. I think that I make mountains out of molehills when I lose my connection with Source. I decide that I (with a very large "ego I") am going to make something happen!
Forget about my partnership with God. Me, alone, am going to shake the tree until I get what I want!
One of my clients was a high level manager with about 200 people under him. I went to see him one Friday afternoon. There were other issues that brought me to him that I can't go into. As part of my interview I asked a standard question, "What is your biggest challenge?" I get all kinds of answers, and am often surprised.
He thought a minute, grew red in the face and said, "My ten year old daughter!"
I said, "How could that be? What does she do that makes you so angry?"
He yelled, "She won't close the front door when she goes through it!"
I said, "What upsets you about that?"
He yelled, "First of all she has no discipline! She will die in the gutter!" He continued, "Also! Vermin will get into our house and infect our food and we will all die from food poisoning!" "That is unless robbers and rapists don't get into our home before that and kill us all!"
He lived in a very good section of Atlanta, I couldn't quite see his problem, but it was a hell of a mountain. I knew better than to try reason when someone is unreasonable. So I asked him how he was feeling? He said, "My gut is on fire! I don't know what to do when she does that!"
He related a few of the punishments he had used to try to get her to change, to no avail. I listened because I wanted to understand, and because I am required, despite confidentiality, to report behavior that could result in child abuse, but he did not go that far as to abuse her, but it was a bad situation.
"If you don't know what to do, I will challenge you to try something. When you feel that 'fire in your gut' what would happen if you stopped for a few minutes and asked Jesus what to do?"
He replied, "I don't believe in God. I think there is a Universal Mind." I said, "I don't care what you call It, will you accept the challenge?" CEOs love challenges!
He agreed. I saw him a week later. He was strangely quiet. "What happened?" I asked.
He replied, "After we talked, I drove home and there she was, pretty as a picture, playing in the front yard with the front door WIDE OPEN! I jumped out of my car, threw my brefcase on the ground and walked quickly toward her. My gut was on fire. I suddenly rmembered what you had said and I stopped and said to myself, "OK Jesus (not Universal Mind, interesting) What the hell do you want me to do?
"I heard a Voice clearly say, 'Let it go.' I replied, but 'I'm RIGHT (CEOs will argue with God). And the Voice said, 'Let go of being right!'
"I dropped to my knees in front of her, held her tightly and said, 'Honey, it is up to you whether you close the door or not. I won't say anything more about it.' Then we hugged each other and both cried for a while."
"And the really weird thing is that she has not left the door open one time since we talked!" There is more to the story, but not right now.
My point is that when we make a mountain out of a molehill, we are acting **ALONE! Disconnected from Source.**
Sometimes I feel really proud of myself. I am 68 wealthy, healthy and powerful. But when I am disconnected from Source, I am nothing. I keep thinking I have it together and then, boom! Recently, I made a mountain from a molehill, a very big mountain from a small molehill.
I asked this question here on IQ and now I remembered an easy answer: Ask God, Jesus, Source, Universal Mind, Pan, the Goddess, Allah, The King of the Fairies, Whatever you want to call It. "What do you want me to do? Then shut up and listen. I always get and answer, I just have to remember to ask, then to shut up and listen.
answered 03 Apr '12, 19:24
Fear. Fear of judgement by others or self. Fear of loss. Fear of retribution. Fear of disease. Fear of death. Fear of getting hurt or hurting someone else. Without giving a specific example, I can only generalize.
answered 30 Mar '12, 08:52
We're all humans and we make mistakes.... Sure it's best not to make mountains out of molehills (just like making a mountain out of the habit of making a mountain out of molehill! haha) Anyways I believe we naturally overestimate things because of our ancestral genes. They had to overestimate trouble in order to live. It's better not to take those risks against those lions and tigers...Then adrenaline kicks in if our mind overestimates to get out of the situation. But it looks like evolution/genes don't adapt as fast to our new more safer times. We may be able to evolve and bypass this one day. But in the meantime, don't be so hard on yourself. It's only natural... seriously..
answered 03 Apr '12, 04:11
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