Since writing out my desire for a relationship and putting it in my manifestation box, I have enjoyed seeing many vibrational matches. They always feel great and unmistakable to me, and I've been loving it. I have had some success in manifesting other desires, and though I've had ups and downs, this has been a wonderful learning and growing experience for me.
More than 20 years ago, when I lived in a city about 15 miles from where I am now, I was in an abusive relationship. Physical, sexual, mental, and emotional abuse. It went on for two years before I finally got myself out of it. It has left some scars, but for the most part, I got free and never looked back. I really don't think about it, except when the subject of abuse comes up, and then it's only to feel glad that I know I will never go there again, that I know so much better now than to ever allow anything like that again, grateful that I survived. I haven't seen or heard from him in all this time.
Yesterday, on my way to get coffee, I saw him walking down my street. When I was on my way back home half an hour later, there he was again, walking down my street in the opposite direction.
What do you think of this?
There are no vibrational "mis-matches."
When you focus your consciousness upon an objective, such as getting into a new relationship, everything related to that focus within you also becomes activated.
So every "good" (according to your definitions) belief and corresponding evidence for it related to your desire becomes activated and it will have corresponding manifestations in your life.
But, so will every "bad" (according to your definitions) belief and all the corresponding evidence for that belief be activated and manifest in your life.
What I'm going to describe next and in the picture below (which isn't very good but hey it took me a couple minutes :P) isn't true at all, but it's a "convenient lie" to help you conceptualize.
Consider your desire/request the center of a big "web", which is greatly simplified above. It is in fact a "generator" and supplies energy through a grid to other thoughts (desires, beliefs, evidence for beliefs). When you focus on it, it is activated and then remains activated.
The "positive" is blue in the picture. They generate energy after having a "jump start" by your desire and supply their energy back to the desire. In this way, the help the desire to appear in your life. The "negative" are red and they drain the energy from the desire. In this way, they slow down your desired manifestation. Some of these have larger "pipelines" and thus constitute a bigger drain (or support) for the manifestation.
Soon enough, from your activated center point, the other points will have enough energy to manifest themselves in your life. Regardless of whether they are "good" or "bad" - when they have enough energy you will get vibrational MATCHES. They may not match your desire, but they do match what is within you and linked to that desire.
This is a good thing, because it means you DO NOT actually have to go digging around inside you to find out "hidden" limiting beliefs that prevent your manifestation, or worry that you will not "clear" all your issues. The way this works doesn't allow that, if it is prohibiting you in some way, it will manifest for you to see.
And you don't have to worry about missing it, if you miss it at first no problem - it'll just keep getting bigger and bigger for you until you see it. It will start as just a small feeling, then something small will happen like someone will say something that triggers the feeling or a memory. Still ignore it and something else might happen, with a much stronger feeling...like say seeing or hearing about someone else being abused...and then being abused yourself.
So long as something is connected to the "grid" of your desire - it comes along for the ride in some form. It has to. Our feelings are our guidance system. But your feelings are also LIARS. They tell you that if you let go of fear, what you fear will happen. If you let go of guilt, you'll be a sociopath. If you let go of anger, people will walk all over you etc. When in fact, the very opposite is true.
As an example from a few months ago in my own life. I had something I DESPERATELY wanted out of, and after some time I made a very firm decision that I was going to get out of it. But when I told this to another, they "convinced" me to stick with it (through guilt tripping).
But because I made a very firm decision about what I wanted...it HAD TO manifest. And it found a "crack" in me through which it could manifest; I had for almost a year an "odd" concern about becoming paralyzed which started when I watched one of the X-men movies. Needless to say, I didn't deal with any of these feelings and kept "putting them off". After exactly two weeks from making my decision, I broke my back and was told I had to remain on bed rest, because the doctors feared I could become paralyzed as one of my vertebrae was pressing my spinal canal. I also got out of what I wanted to get out of - and no one was going to try and guilt trip me for my reason.
It was not "an accident." I had plenty of warning signs. I even had an inkling of exactly what would happen. It was another very successful (blended) manifestation. :)
That's the sort of stuff that can happen if you have a very powerful desire, but also have stuff in you that you don't clean up - it comes along for the ride like I said. It has to.
You said you felt your "skin crawl" when you saw your ex. That means, something about him is DEFINITELY plugged into your grid. To get something unplugged from your grid, you have to genuinely let it go. Otherwise - it's along for the ride.
So my question to you is: Do you want your ex along for the ride in your new relationship? (metaphorically speaking)
My perspective is that if it is not clear what an "event" means in your life then it means nothing at all...for now, at least.
I get interesting synchronicities happening in my life on a regular basis and I just treat them as casual "oh, look at that" type incidents, as you might do when driving somewhere and noticing some momentarily interesting sight or landmark along the way through the car window.
If there is something that your Higher Self wishes you to notice, the "message" will keep reappearing in your life in different ways until you finally get it. And, even given that, there's nothing to stop making you making a vibrational request for the Universe to clarify to you what the incident means if you really feel it means something.
Yes, you could mentally analyze the incident to death and start speculating that it might be an indication that past vibrational attitudes about relationships need cleaning up...but that seems like far too much hard work to me :)
It seems so much easier (and fun) to just do a casual "oh, look at that", let it all go and carry on enjoying the journey of your now life :)
The Universe always has backup plan after backup plan even if you do manage to miss something important :)
answered 01 Jul '12, 00:36
Be careful, first of all. I always think of stalking when I hear of these things...but don't be too worried...just be careful, okay?
I think it is a coincidence, more then likely. It may be that you are ready to see how far you have come, and how you have grown. I do not know; ask your heart.
Do not start any relationship with him. Just remember what was done. And be happy that you are free!
Rejoice! You are free!
answered 30 Jun '12, 21:41
@Grace-This "Could" be a good sign Grace.I say could in Quotes because it's just a theory:)
As we start deliberately feeling good old emotions and repressed memories start to surface also.As everyone in our experience is energetically connected,for a short time this can cause us to attract people from our past into our reality for a short time as the old emotions are processing.Doesn't mean we have to interact with them. As I say Grace this could be a sign you are putting the past behind:)
It's a bit like when people start meditating for the first time.What people read into as pain from sitting can actually also be old repressed aches and pains from past injuries etc coming up to be released.
But I would totally take Stingrays advice and not read into this too much and treat it as part of the passing show.Focus on what you want.Keep it simple.Enjoy the Now moment:)
It is a vibrational match and not a mis-vibrational one.
Today I came across Abraham quote on Facebook, which talks about default creating, which I am suffering rarely as I am working with my mind on manifesting something and only its opposite are shown, well there are good things that are manifested I am good in creating but this time I am stuck and anxious just a little a bit, back to Abraham, they said:
The incident of seeing him passing is a good sign that your vibrational matches regarding relationships subject, your target your point of attraction are so high, that your higher mind is reacting manifesting and you are on the track you are there with your thoughts, and what is good is you manifested seeing him passed, he didn't talk, shout or come across you, he didn't abuse you and that means you are over this relation
But you might ask why I attracted re-seeing him and not meeting my new man and that because your thoughts are about getting a new relationship without abusing, still thinking about abusing so you saw him the one who abused you but as your old relationship partner so congratulation you are creating now move to next chapter of creating your big day of meeting your new man which will happen I guarantee. BUT now just thinking about my new relationship the good, healthy and that will make happy, no thoughts about abuse or even good thoughts no judgments or conditions I mean just a thinking about the relationship that is coming and will make me happen, not will (I don't use future phrase in my affirmations since it will be always there in the future) is making me happen.
The thing that when we are working on something new to create, its opposite or old opposite memories about it as in your case doesn't mean we are creating the opposite we are just creating the other active side of our thoughts and we shouldn't fight that just relax and deal to turning the image to its opposite our real target as we succeed on creating the negative then we will succeed on creating the positive.
Note that I am suffering the same regarding a manifestation related to business so what I like about IQ is that someone ask your question you cooperate open your mind and answer both of you, us :)
I have never understood people being abusive in a relationship. I just don't get it, but I do know its very real and happens all the time. Know that such human beings have not evolved above their own excrement and they should further disappear into it. It just boils my blood. There's absolutely no justification for abuse. It shows the worst side of human psyche and should be treated with Zero tolerance.
Also know that its a way of the weak to forcefully project/take out their own shortcomings onto others, usually the people closest to them-spouse/partner.
You are brave you got out of it and you must feel empowered (yes, even after 20 years), don't dwell on it, but use this incidence to remind yourself of that breakthrough. I don't even think reconciliation should even be an option. There's history there, probably great, good, bad and ugly, but usually if I close a chapter in my life, I tear off the pages and burn them just so I cannot go back to it again. Self preservation. If at-all you are even thinking in that direction that is...
As for him showing up, treat it as an incidence, a coincidence. Be thankful that you noticed him rather than not notice him lurking around. Now you are aware.
It probably means that you have risen so much vibrationally that it is JUST serving its purpose of showing that to you (a sign in physical world, a proof so to speak). It's the last gasp, a final bye-bye before that whole issue is GONE from your life. You know how in movies, at the end, when the Villain is shot multiple times and falls into the lake, has submerged into the water, and we think the movie is over but just then the villain's hand will come up from the water. Aaah, he is not dead! but then it slowly goes under again. Now forever!...Something like that:)
Be careful, if you feel nervous in your gut or if this 'incidence' happens again, you should, in real life make a log/diary. Tell this to a co-worker, best friend from the same neighborhood, send yourself an email with as much details about you spotting him. His name, history, where and when, how many times etc....daily if you have to. Also send same thing to your phone via text/sms.
I don't mean to freak you out, these are common precautionary methods. I remember I used to do that when driving by myself out of town for a meeting, or on a blind date, concerts etc. (no shame in admitting, being a guy doesn't change the precautions)
I don't know how much weird you think of this incidence, but don't let it overtake your life. Keep us posted:)
answered 01 Jul '12, 00:06
I don't want to go into big explanations , just to say in my experience , if I "think' ergo focus about someone I haven't seen in a while , they either ring me or show up . There are no coincidences , we are attracting by our vibration/thought/feelings all day every day .
Wishing you love , light and happiness :-)
answered 01 Jul '12, 04:52
Maybe you have unresolved issues from this relationship, or that attracted it, that you need to clean up before you embark on a new one. I wouldn't go digging, because you will always find more and more. I would examine your beliefs about yourself, relationships, men, that man that was abusive, your family, whatever beliefs you have that are attracting the kind of men who are abusive or that you don't want. Then work on changing your beliefs to support your highest good.
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