I was visiting my favorite aunt for a few days. She's 76, agile, independent, almost perfect eye-sight (doesn't need glasses!) and in great health.
Since as far back as I remember, as a housewife, she has spent her entire life taking care of her husband who is no more and now living with her son and grand kids. She is fun and has great life-affirming spirit...
She's more likely to defend herself with something like this:
Like all households, her house has all working people who are constantly 'electronically busy':) with The Internet, laptops, tablets, smartphones, TV and what not. Otherwise its a normal and loving family. She knows she is loved as well.
Since both of us get along great, she always tells me she feels disconnected from the World.
She is tired of reading books, can't relate to anything on TV, is intimidated by computers (actually the dead-end is at the start of the learning curve with...THE KEYBOARD:) and I guess generally lonely.
On top of that, these days, she brings up heavy (for me) subjects like 'purpose of life', 'legacy', 'reincarnation' as well as 'what's the point of all this?', 'doubting heaven' etc. as well as there is this huge regret of not being able to adapt to the changing technology. A feeling I get is that she wanted to be young during these exciting times as she wants to be able to use some of this technology. She seems to be feeling missing out (as entire bloody World is on them 24x7)
She is one of those old school upbringing types who probably decided that there were (for example) five (indisputable) truths in life and that's what she has followed all her life. It's not to be questioned and no room for more! From my perspective her life has turned out great but I sense that there's no scope for 'spiritual' talk.
One of her classic lines was "They've started delivering Facebook in our town these days, you can send me letters now":))) delivering FB like a newspaper:) That was when her grandson showed her what it was.
Although, I have a feeling this is what she wanted to say instead:
I feel so ill-equipped to counsel her or should I say console her! She seems angry at the World (not with her life)
I am completely lost as to where to even begin to help her!
Your favorite aunt is no doubt being helped just by the fact that you are there, and that your care enough to be asking this question. I would venture a guess that you are probably her favorite, too.
I think that you are already doing what can be done. She sounds like a wonderful, strong-minded lady who is frustrated and maybe a bit frightened by where she finds herself.
I don't think you can fix her, Xoomy. Just love her. Help her enjoy what she can enjoy about life, maybe steer her away from the things that are getting her down. You are a very encouraging person, and your enthusiasm for life is, I know, contagious. Bring your own light into the room, that is enough.
I'm holding strong, healthy, happy, peace-filled and loving thoughts for you both.
answered 20 Jul '12, 13:40
If this helps....
It would do you all good-young, middle-age and old alike- to forget the number of your years, because in your culture so many beliefs are limiting in those ways. Youth is denied its wisdom and old age is denied its joy.
In your terms your point of reality and power is, once more, in your current experience. A realization of this would allow you at any age to draw upon qualities and knowledge that "existed" in your past or "will exists" in your future. Your ages are probable (simultaneius).
It may seem to you that you are a given age, that within your subjective experience it must be paramount, that regardless of your age you are to some extent closed off from the experience being any other age. In some simultaneous existences you are very young, however, and in others very old. Some of your physical cells are brand new, so to speak- the regeneration of fresh life is physically within you; Identify then with the constant new energy alive within you in this now of your being and realize that on all levels you are biologically and psychological connected with that greater identity that is your own.
Source: The Nature of Personal Reality (A Seth Book)
she may be asking appropriate questions
this earthlife is finite and
our intuitive perceptions influence our
answered 24 Jul '12, 06:23
When she brings it up to you, help her to see how she has been creating her reality her whole life. Since you know her, you will know specific situations you can bring up. You can ask her if she has noticed that when she is really happy, things show up for her. You can look around her home and ask her how she got different items she has. I am sure there are many 'manifestation stories' around her house, she just hasn't noticed the connection. The more people realize they create their own reality, the more interrested we are in changing it. Don't get her all caught up in proving it, just teach her that good things flow in when she is happy.
answered 24 Jul '12, 10:16
Age has little to do with quality of life. Chronologically I am seven years younger than she, yet I feel the physical joy of being about 35, coupled with a freedom and joy that I have never felt so powerfully before.
As far as the Vortex, I feel like a dolphin who jumps into the air (Vortex) and then reinvigorated splashes back into the Ocean of Physicality.
We are here to enjoy -- what a great word! "En Joy" -- ; "recreation" "re-create" -- in concert with my Source and personal Non-Physical being. And explore the Nature of this incredible space-time school. A Place where I can pit my muscles against gravity. A place where movement causes me to slosh around in this body and where this body can play with duality-laden objects!
And when I tire of this sport, this dolphin body, I will transfer my consciousness to a place where there is no duality, no gravity, no need for muscles.
But, I still see this Grand Adventure as a vacation. My real life, my integrated Self is having fun swimming around this Ocean, and perhaps, like I believe the Dolphins do, splashing and swimming with a permanent smile of Joy!
For an exceptional treatise on "old age" check out this movie. "Secondhand Lions," Somehow I feel very much like these two uncles, played by Michael Caine and Robert Duval.
When the two uncles meet some teenage hoods in a bar
"Hood 1: Hey, who do you think you are, huh?
Garth (Michael Caine): Just a dumb kid, Hub. Don't kill him.
Hub: (Robert Duval) [to Garth] Right.
[Grabs Hood 1 by the throat] Hub: I'm Hub McCann. I've fought in two World Wars and countless smaller ones on three continents. I led thousands of men into battle with everything from horses and swords to artillery and tanks. I've seen the headwaters of the Nile, and tribes of natives no white man had ever seen before. I've won and lost a dozen fortunes, KILLED MANY MEN and loved only one woman with a passion a FLEA like you could never begin to understand. That's who I am. NOW, GO HOME, BOY!"
And later he speaks softly, but firmly to the chastised young men,
Hub: "Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love... true love never dies. You remember that, boy. You remember that. Doesn't matter if it's true or not. You see, a man should believe in those things, because those are the things worth believing in."
It is passion, love, focus and eagerness that keeps us alive.
Chronological age is irrelevant.
There's a branch of psychology called Human Needs Psychology which states that we all have some basic needs (certainty, love/connection, variety, significance, growth, and contribution). We make decisions based on what need we're trying to fulfill but we have to go through a transition when circumstances change for us.
From what you said, it sounds like love/connection is good for her but I'm wondering if your aunt no longer feels significant now that her husband has passed? Maybe you could help her find another way to feel important?
After my mom died last year, my dad no longer felt important. One thing I did was just write him a short snail-mail letter every Thursday. He lives in a community and finds significance by showing other people the weekly letter.
Wishing the best for you both.
answered 25 Jul '12, 08:42
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