Recently I made the decision that I was only going to accept offers of work that I felt passionate and enthusiastic about. This decision came only after years of taking on unpleasant tasks due to the false premise that I thought I needed to take on any opportunity that came my way for the sake of eventual success. That former approach wasted my energy and I decided to be done with it, relying instead on my emotional guidance system.
When I made this decision, I felt great about it, and told a spiritually minded friend about it. He supported me in this new approach, and I was filled with a renewed feeling of vigor, energy, and freedom.
The very next day, a colleague emailed me about a business venture that we had been involved in, but that I had not heard about for some time. This colleague asked me to take on an unpleasant task, doing someone else's time consuming drudgery, for the carrot stick prize of eventual profits. I told him thanks, but no thanks...I wasn't interested. I felt great about matching my actions to my decision, and thought the matter was done.
The next day he emailed me again, and this time tried to get me to reconsider. He also played upon my sense of responsibility and obligation, which felt slightly manipulative. We have mutual business partners and friends, who could be informed of a different version of this situation, so I do not feel comfortable being as blunt as I would like to be with him. But I still held firm in my decision. Nevertheless, this last experience left an unpleasant taste in my mouth. I immediately countered with EFT and a focus block.
My question is, why did this happen? Could be an amazing coincidence, but I really don't believe in coincidences any more :)
Rather, it seems likely that my decision was some sort of trigger for this event. I wondered if this was LOA giving me a chance to reenact my decision through action, but why did it repeat until it became unpleasant, when I had only felt good about it up until then?
A year ago, I might have thought the Universe was "testing me", but based on my new understanding of things, I really don't beleive in that sort of thing anymore.
Does anyone know what is going on? Is this something related to clattering? Thanks.
Yes, it does sound like a clattering-type experience.
But it doesn't sound like anything to be concerned about to me. It seems like par for the course for a vibrational change of this nature. The previous belief you held regarding taking on unpleasant tasks is being forced to operate beyond its limits (because of your new deliberateness about it) and you are still feeling the effects of that increased focus as a result of that decision...and will continue to do so until your new belief becomes habitual.
The fact that you can now clearly feel the manipulation of another, whereas before it may have gone unnoticed, does suggest that a vibrational change in attitude is definitely on the cards.
Another way of looking at this is Bashar's idea of "The Test" that occcurs when the vibrational status quo is altered.
I also don't believe in coincidences so when an experience like this catches your attention, I would also give it some consideration (as you have done) to analyze what's behind it. I've personally learned alot about how my life works (vibrationally) by looking out for these meaningful "coincidences" and spotting the underlying patterns.
answered 04 Aug '12, 06:17
As Sir Paul McCartney so eloquently said, "...Love is such an easy game to play".
Allowing is a hard discipline for some of us.
To actually allow your colleague's point of view, without judgement, to co-exist in contrast to your own desires requires you to have no resistance to What-Is. That is an important part of Allowing.
One of the difficulties we often have with LOA is that we often fail to acknowledge that there may be contrasting points of view, which can be equally valid. How do we cope with this phenomena?
We have no justification for invalidating anothers desires. But when we do invalidate another, our resistance can equal "Clatter".
To be clear: You certainly are not required to do that for which you have no affinity.
However, could there be some way you could have soothed the fear of your colleague? Without doing it their way?
How would you know if what you believe regarding this situation were NOT true?
Static on the line, "clatter" and/or any other general dis-comfort, perhaps, implies some resistance on your part. Or a mis-understanding?
Did you agree, at some time in the past, to do whatever was possible to help get this deal done?
Do you have a hidden desire or need to control or manipulate those you percieve to have a desire or need to control or manipulate?
Unselfish Love doesn't mean you have to be someone elses door mat - but, it may mean that you may have to get out of your own "comfort zone" in order to become truly free.
"...Love is such an easy game to play". If we actually can "Allow" What-Is.
Bottom line? It was your "dream". Only you know the answers. Or the questions.
This was simply composed, In Love, - jogjr
answered 05 Aug '12, 01:34
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