@Ursixx in his reply to Jai on 'the mind of god what is hell truly like should you be worried question answered that - The fear of harm to loved ones is hard to escape. I'd like to collaborate on this in separate question, because I want to address FEAR itself, not so much what the hell is like or Satan himself.
I completely agree that 'satan' can only pull out strings on your fears. Where there is no fear there is no torment. What it was Buddha said - "The secret of existence is to live without fear".
To let go of a fear, any fear, one must understand how fear is created. When you are afraid of death, it's because you think it's IMPORTANT to live. Where you create positive judgment of importance, you automatically instill possibility of fear on the opposite side... If A is important to you, then you create possibility of fear if A is endangered.
Then there would be question, what makes you assign any degree of importance to anything. It's done through beliefs, beliefs are based off definitions of things.
Change the definition -> beliefs are changed too -> way of life changes -> fear disappears.
I know the idea that your loved ones might be hurt may not appeal to many. Especially if the self-created prison of life's preferences and one's reality is given high priority as well. And I'm gonna brutally honest and straightforward here...It does not matter if your kids or other loved ones die, they are gonna die anyway, one day, some way. What makes people think that NOW is not the right time, that a minute later would be better. Everybody on this planet is ALONE. ON THEIR OWN. No family, no friends, no followers, no leaders, no community or society or group of people shall comfort you. Once people understand their are on their OWN, always and forever. They will become free. Depend on no-one and have no-one depend on you. Then it doesn't matter what happens to anyone else. Your loved one died? And so what? Thousand people died, if you cry for the one you loved and not the other thousand people, what that makes you ? People say, but those others didn't matter to me, because I didn't know them. They have their freedom so close and don't see it. - NOTHING MATTERS. Not your loved ones, not strangers half the world away. There's the freedom - in understanding that NOTHING MATTERS.
They create their own fears through liking of their illusory realities. Who thinks that survival of human spiecies matters and stick to it as the only truth is only fooling himself. Self-importance of human race is sicknening in a way. The universe does not care, does not judge, it just is One day, the Sun goes boom, the earth gets incinerated - so much the universe will have cared for us.
They have it other way around, they think reality first, the source afterwards. It's source first and only, reality doesn't matter. And if you want some reality to matter, feel free to make it important, but realize that you must not cling to it, you MUST NOT LET IT IMPRISON YOU IN ITSELF THROUGH POWER OF FEAR.
If one wants to protect their kids from being hurt or dying. That's all fine. But should they get hurt or die anyway, one must not fear that option. Understanding it doesn't really matter, but you choose it to matter anyway, you get back to what I said in the beginning.
asked 16 Aug '12, 03:34
I attended the funeral of a neighbor and good friend to my wife's family thursday I knew the man and liked him .He had a good life and was almost 80 active and fit. Afterwards was discussing my funeral with the Mrs. and said that "No way do I want to go like that" (was a nice service) Just rent a hall and put my ashes on the bar.I asked my wife she wanted and she said she didn't care ..because she was not there .The funeral is for the grieving not for the dead!
TAO TE CHING - Chapter 50. Death
Men flow into life, and ebb into death.
Some are filled with life;
Those who are filled with life
answered 18 Aug '12, 08:14
@Cal- You said, "Once people understand their are on their OWN, always and forever. They will become free."
But we are not alone. To exist like this is to exist in a self-created vacuum, without care or feeling for anyone or anything.
This is total APATHY/. And I say that the opposite of love is not hate, it is apathy. To exist alone, in your own self-created bubble, not caring, really, about anyone or anything, is apathetic. It is unloving.
And ultimately, very lonely and unfulfilling.
Jesus said that we are to love God (1) and to Love our neighbors as ourselves(2). These two commandments guarantee that we live not for ourselves, but for our fellow man. It is in this way that we find peace...not in a cave like a hermit, but in love.
You present a very bleak picture; the picture you paint sounds depressed and lonely.
I would not want to not care about my family and to exist in my own mind...Alone.
P.S. How could you write so beautifully about love here and then write this???
Wow I am so sorry to read this, CalonLan are you back in depression? Maybe you should call Rob again, he can help you back to caring again. Don't feel that nothing matters, I know how that is myself I get like that and lately Jai has as well but there is a lot to life worth living for and enjoying.
We can get to that point where we feel valueless and so is everyone else even life, what's the point feeling. Things will turn around, this will pass and one day again you will value not only your life but all others as well so much so you will feel back to holding on to it happy.
Give it time and don't give up. :-)
answered 17 Jan '13, 21:49
Yes such a beautiful question CalonLan, the strange prisons that we create for ourselves ... for example humanity designed the automobile to get to places faster and further away, nowadays we spend more time generating traffic than the actual time that we're saving, a kind of auto clogging :), and this phenomenon is generally true in all domains of technology, the more things we create the more problems we create, like being caught up in a negative loop.
So what is preventing us from opening our minds and taking that quantum leap that leads to genuine freedom?
The main reason is fear, of going against the established belief systems, our minds and brains like to maintain a kind of coherent reality conform to group beliefs, anyone that challenges the limits of those beliefs is put under pressure, excluded or ignored by a large part of the group, especially those already established with a reputation to live up to, this phenomenon is evident in all groups, even here on IQ.
answered 13 Apr '14, 04:58
Fear as only power if you let it have power. there is nothing to fear but fear it self. there is a lesson to learn from fear. you need to overcome it. as for prison of reality. first what is the reality? in this world you always learn new things and this world is in mutation. from a beginning to end to new beginning. stuff from the past stop to exist and new stuff exist in the future base on what is happening now. What if I told you that in reality you are the awareness going through this life like a passer-by? and the real place that does not change is the kingdom of light where we all came from before coming in this world. that kingdom of light is a place of awareness where people communicate at the speed of light. where there is no shadow and no lie. because no darkness can enter light.
it is written in your bible.
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
who alone is immortal and who lives in unapproachable light, whom no one has seen or can see. To him be honor and might forever. Amen.
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.
Jesus said, "From Adam unto John the Baptist there has been none among the offspring of women who has been more exalted than John the Baptist, so that such a person's eyes might be broken. But I have said that whoever among you becomes a little one will become acquainted with the kingdom, and will become more exalted than John."
Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.
answered 15 Apr '14, 17:13
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