Hello to all,

What a wonderful place this is! Filled to the brim with wisdom, knowledge, practical tips and what not! And the most important thing: people ready and willing to assist! that in and of itself is a treasure... For quiet a few months I've been reading answers in IQ to questions similar to mine. I have never attempted to answer one though because in my mind I came here to learn and not to teach. Besides I don't consider myself as articulate as many of the good people in here; I do not have a talent in accurately expressing what I think, I guess.

Anyhow, the reason for my first (very simple) question here is the pondering about something that - to me - seems be the foundation of a better life in general: feeling good! Now here is my question: How can one go through life feeling better or even happy without having that feeling being dependant on the world around them, the circumstances, the people, the things?

The answer to my question lies within me, that I know. It surfaces sometimes in the form of a feeling and then goes away again as quickly as it came. Other times it comes in the form of a half-sentence thought that fades before it gets whole! That's why I decided to ask it here. Would you pour some wisdom my way?

Thank you in advance,

P.S. Please excuse any language mistakes, English is not my mother language.

asked 28 Sep '12, 09:12

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@Pano- Welcome! Your grasp of English is tremendous. There are many people in my country (USA)nwho could not have written what you did!

(29 Sep '12, 09:30) Jaianniah

Hi Jaianniah, I didn't notice your friendly comment at first. Thank you kindly for your compliment!

(29 Sep '12, 09:55) Pano

"How can one go through life feeling better or even happy without having that feeling being dependant on the world around them, the circumstances, the people, the things?" ... realize that the learned labels of the tangible outer world can be separated and thus rendered independant from inner feelings

(04 Jun '15, 03:18) jaz

I feel absolutely astounded that just a handful of active members on this site seem to be interested in the question

"Happiness inside, regardless of what goes on around you?"

Perhaps someone could enlighten me;

"why it seems to attract so little interest?"

Should I start drumming it myself?

(24 Jun '15, 13:46) jaz

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Security level; Top Secret

Sorry you guys but I have to take this document home and open it in private ... see you later

(25 Jun '15, 01:25) jaz
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Welcome to IQ!

"Circumstances don't matter, only state of being matters" - Bashar

Check out Bashar (website and YouTube). I think you will gain an interesting perspective and insight on being happy regardless of circumstances :)



answered 29 Sep '12, 09:30

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Thanks Figure8shape, I will check the link you gave tonight.

(29 Sep '12, 09:47) Pano

verily verily i tell you if the children would accept the truth for what it is from one opposite to the other they would not be stuck in their own darkness and do what they hate,what they hate is the same thing that other people do and propagate the darkness around them,so learn from the truth with a spirit of truth,peace,love,understanding,discernement and mercy. why do you do what you hate?if you judge you will be judge to the same mesure,if you live by the sword you will die by the sword,if you do evil and wicked things to other they will be done to you because they do the same.you have free will would you not like to experiance and enjoy this life with out being stuck in darkness? it all start with you find the living one that you are then you can see the living one that are around you each to their own level on the way of truth and life.so let there be light,be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.


answered 28 Sep '12, 10:30

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white tiger


@white tiger: thank you for taking the time to answer. When I read it yesterday, I must admit that - at first - did not really know what exactly to make of it. You spoke of a truth that I also believe in, but I could not connect it to my question. It did give me a push though, so to speak...:

Now I think I can answer my own question: feeling good, being happy is a prerequisite in order to change one's life. En to go through life without being affected by what is going on around you, you have to have faith. Faith in you and your true divine nature. Being aware of what really matters and what really gives form and substance and meaning to your world: YOU! When contemplating the notion/fact that in essence we all are one, I couldn't help but feel close, feel love – no matter how brief it has been in my case – even for those who fall outside my preferences! Contemplate and don't rush it, don't push it, let it come on its own accord and it will. I am starting to feel and know this.

White Tiger, the essence - as I understand it - of what you told me through your answer is in my own answer as well.

IQ has given me a lot, your answers have meant a lot, they helped bring about the final turning point in my life. Maybe I am speaking prematurely right now; you see, one has to keep on at it... but I am saying what came to me just five minutes ago, without really thinking consciously about it and that is a new experience to me!

Thank you all for being...

Excuse me for making this longer than it already is, but it's a sort of urge to write down what comes to me. Even though it feels somewhat incomplete...

To break my answer and the premise laid out in my question about feeling good being the base: Before feeling good comes FAITH. Faith keeps you going – you see results – you feel better – faith grows – more results – feeling even better – faith starts to turn into knowing. Knowing that YOU are the cause of it all.. till you reach a state where you do not NEED someone or something to make you feel better... It is a circle, a spiral.

Hope this makes sense to someone...

(29 Sep '12, 08:24) Pano

Pano, we write to people who have answered in the comments section, rather than posting an answer. Juat trying to help! :)

(29 Sep '12, 09:32) Jaianniah

Thank you Jaianniah, I will bear this in mind.

(29 Sep '12, 09:42) Pano

pano meditate and find the living one inside your self the spirit the real you that does not die, then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.because you are only learning from the outside right now. you need to be born of water and the spirit. then everything will be complete. you will see that all those things that you are not responsable of are not your free will,and it should not make you unhappy or not at peace with you self. for the one that are responsible of that-

(29 Sep '12, 10:42) white tiger

they should change their way of wickedness and darkness that cause harm and problem for other but they do not see or hear. so will you lose your peace and be unhappy for people that do not see or hear? let them be until the time of the harvest.

(29 Sep '12, 10:47) white tiger

the outside world is full of people stuck in belief, error ,ignorance and darkness. let me ask you this why be the same as them and keep the cycle going? seek the truth from a pure heart. if you know what is good for you; you will know what is good for other. but if you do not know what is good for you you will not know what is good for other. and if you are trap in the cycle you can try as you want to do what is good for you and less good for other to gain your desire.-

(05 Jun '15, 17:45) white tiger

but eventually the outside result come back to you and make you not happy. also all those that are trap in that cycle do the same so if you do not have mercy for your self how can you have mercy for them and not fall in the same cycle? you interact with the outside and other people and are not the only one to make choice. if you are able to understand what is the truth and the error for all the circumstance of those choice. then you will have understanding and can help your self and other.-

(05 Jun '15, 17:49) white tiger

just being aware of this should help you out and you will have the option to make the choice to help other people that are still stuck and not aware. many are not ready for this but if you do it for your self and can help a fee other that are ready while passing by is it not worth it enough? you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.

(05 Jun '15, 17:53) white tiger

When you make the two one, and when you make the inside like the outside and the outside like the inside, and the above like the below, and when you make the male and the female one and the same, so that the male not be male nor the female female; and when you fashion eyes in the place of an eye, and a hand in place of a hand, and a foot in place of a foot, and a likeness in place of a likeness; then will you enter the kingdom." that is the way back up out of this world. the problem is not the-

(05 Jun '15, 18:07) white tiger

world since we are the one making choice in this world it start in and go out and come back in again to the interaction of all of us do your part so the in and the out becomes one in truth. as for the error correct them if you can if you can't and they do not belong to you they are not your responsibility. would you take on all the problem and error of the world? is there not enough problem in a day to solve for your self? if you cannot trust your self with the little things how can you trust-

(05 Jun '15, 18:11) white tiger

your self with the bigger things? you see even complex things are made of simple things but if you do not know those simple things how can you know the more complex ones?

(05 Jun '15, 18:47) white tiger

yes @white tiger there's the outside world, a world of people, things, objects, it's also the place where your body appears to be ... the inside world is the space that appears to exist inside, you can't see it or touch it and no one else can either, but it's perceived as a huge space inside you where thoughts, emotions, feelings and bodily sensations appear ... the only thing that really matters is actual experience; the first step is to close your eyes and be aware of the vast inside world

(07 Jun '15, 14:24) jaz

@jaz if you can't see it; it might be because you are sleeping open your eyes. the first step is to open your eyes and fix a spot in front of you that is not there. stay aware and experience. Thirty spokes share the hub of a wheel; yet it is its center that makes it useful. You can mould clay into a vessel; yet, it is its emptiness that makes it useful. Cut doors and windows from the walls of a house; but the ultimate use of the house will depend on that part where nothing exists. -

(08 Jun '15, 08:19) white tiger

Therefore, something is shaped into what is; but its usefulness comes from what is not. can you find that center? those words come from the tao. http://www.egreenway.com/taoism/ttclz11.htm if you can find that center and stay over 40 days in it and make image in the place of the image so two become one then you can go to the kingdom. When you make the two one, and when you make the inside like the outside and the outside like the inside, and the above like the below,-

(08 Jun '15, 08:26) white tiger

and when you make the male and the female one and the same, so that the male not be male nor the female female; and when you fashion eyes in the place of an eye, and a hand in place of a hand, and a foot in place of a foot, and a likeness in place of a likeness; then will you enter the kingdom." http://www.gnosis.org/naghamm/gthlamb.html

(08 Jun '15, 08:33) white tiger

yes @white tiger I get the picture

(09 Jun '15, 08:54) jaz
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That form of feeling that surfaces indicates you are heading in the right direction, you have set things in motion and you will only progress from there, this is because your higher self lives in a constant state of joy and non-judgment, and H.S. knows you've consciously made the intention to become more aligned to that state, of being if you will, by asking the above question here on the quest. Circumstances don't create us, WE create them, we are co-creators with Universal intelligence and internalizing this one simple truth will put us on the path to live a life of our own preferences, and our own design. Being happy inside should come before anything intention-wise with the practice of deliberate creation because that's all we're after anyway, stuff or no stuff, so putting inner happiness above everything else first ''allows'' more unexpected surprises [above and beyond manifestations] and builds more positive momentum. As I've mentioned in other answers on the quest, letting go and allowing can assist you tremendously when your main goal is inner joy [happiness] despite the unwanted circumstances, this is because as you practice the art of letting go and allowing you are letting go of attachments as well as addictions, addictions such as negative thinking, telling those same old stories, thus creating those unwanted circumstances that keep repeating their presence in your physical reality. As with the practice of allowing, you learn to allow people and circumstances to be just as they are, with no judgments, no negative reaction, you develop a certain ''neutrality'' about everything around you in the physical reality, hence, unaffected by your environment, as the higher self already is. Being in a constant state of allowing brings all the things that you want and more, and while this occurs guess what? more inner [joy] happiness, then you begin to find yourself living in a positive cycle, resulting in positive outcomes as well as building more positive momentum, making that inner happiness your dominant focus and vibration, [energy] and law of attraction will bring everything that matches that dominant energy.


answered 04 Jun '15, 09:31

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Nice answer, @Kreatr

(05 Jun '15, 14:38) spacemetalfantasy

@kreatr - thanks for your helpful answer, but will "neutrality" bring you manifestations? It's one thing feeling "neutrality" although that is also challenging, but feeling "joy" is altogether different. There was a time in my life when I could feel "joy". Now the best I can do is "neutrality". It's almost as if my brain/body is fixed at a set-point which can't be shifted. Perhaps not everyone can realise this if they haven't been through a traumatic event.

(07 Jun '15, 20:59) Inner Beauty

Sheryl Sandberg after the death of her husband: "When people say to me, "You and your children will find happiness again," my heart tells me, Yes, I believe that, but I know I will never feel pure joy again. Those who have said, "You will find a new normal, but it will never be as good" comfort me more because they know and speak the truth." Can it be that some of us will never be able to feel that pure joy at least in this world?

(07 Jun '15, 21:07) Inner Beauty

Yes, neutrality allows manifestation, it is a more balanced state.

(07 Jun '15, 22:22) Kreatr

It occurs naturally after letting go and allowing, and becoming detached, desire feels more ''normal'' or natural to you, as for the joy it feels more relaxed, but it's still there.

(07 Jun '15, 22:30) Kreatr

Swinging back and forth, [feeling good, having desire, feeling bad, not having desire] countless times, over and over, we finally settle at mid point and stop swinging until we reach the neutral zone and become more relaxed and unattached.

(07 Jun '15, 22:37) Kreatr

If we want to feel pure joy we can as often as we choose to, no matter what the circumstances are, all we have to do is ask, then allow pure joy to flow ''through'' us, as higher self IS pure joy.

(07 Jun '15, 22:52) Kreatr

dear @Kreatr, That's really helpful. I'll focus on trying to be non-reactive to situations.

(08 Jun '15, 06:03) Inner Beauty
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What goes on around you is a reflection of your vibration/energy. It is connected, so find reasons to be happier and appreciate and life will be happier.

We are Creators because we are made in the image and likeness of The Creator (Source/God).

As you create happier energy, it spreads.


answered 04 Jun '15, 17:41

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edited 04 Jun '15, 17:42

Being happy is a decision we make at every moment of every day. We decide to be happy, despite our circumstances.

Let us say that my car breaks down. I can choose to kick the tires, or I can choose to think, "Maybe God is trying to protect me here. Maybe if I had gone out in my car today, I would have had a terrible accident."

You see, it is always about your attitude and deciding to just be happy.

It is really quite simple, but very hard to do! :)




answered 29 Sep '12, 09:38

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A nice, simple and true answer, thanks for this. As to "...but very hard to do", I would agree with you up untill yesterday (reason I posted my question). But since today (if you read the edited section of my answer to myself) I find that it happens on its own - when I let it!

Thank you.

(29 Sep '12, 09:46) Pano

You are very welcome! ♥

(29 Sep '12, 10:07) Jaianniah
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