Hi Everyone- I have been struggling sometime about a negative belief that I keep trying to banish. The belief is that "I can't make a living doing what I love"- my life seems to set it up to support that belief and its very painful and conflicting. Even being aware of the belief doesn't seem to do much. I feel like I have tried nearly everything, unless there is some method I am missing or surrender. Sometimes I just think I am not ready but I know I am.

Have any of you struggled with that same belief? How did you step into your new world/new belief?

Even though I recognize the flase belief, the how/next steps about going into that new reality belief are what stop me up. (Like what systems do I set up? How could I actually make that work and have faith I'll be supported? Etc.)- its like a rabbit hole chase.

I would love to hear if anyone else has gone through this process themselves personally!

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asked 28 Oct '12, 15:29

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edited 28 Oct '12, 15:30

@Kanda You sound as if you are on the right rack in the main although I don't think you should think in terms of "banishing" a negative belief - more empowering and focusing on a wonderful new belief.

(30 Oct '12, 05:25) Catherine

Close the door to night, open them to day. Behind the closed door night will still remain. Division like the door standing in your way. Abandon the door, embrace both - night and day.

(28 Dec '12, 01:38) CalonLan

Is this belief - "I can't make a living doing what I love" - causing too much problem? So then just let go of the resistance to it, and admit it. Maybe you can't make a living doing what you love.

I want to fly a spaceship all across the universe, but I don't believe I will. And maybe I just won't! ...

Want is a way to fill emptiness within you, give you the piece you thought you were missing. Embracing the emptiness will turn it to fulfillment and the want will disappear.

(28 Dec '12, 01:49) CalonLan

I was taught to think "that may have been true at one time, now I believe my new story where I believe I can". No harm in reminding myself again and again when that thought comes up. Reframing the thought really helps me.

(28 Dec '12, 04:35) clearheart
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I know what you mean Kanda, ive experienced this. In fact i had a major negative belief that bugged me for 20 years.

I saw a lady on U Tube recently ( wish i could remember her name...sorry ) who claimed that by the time we were only 6 ! years old we had already installed 99% of our fixed beliefs! now i cant guage whether this is true but she went on to explain that most of our lives and consciousness,our experiences etc were and are controlled and influenced by events,information and experiences that we learned ( consciously or sub consciously ) up to the age of six years.For some of us this was 4 decades ago.

I suppose most on this site believe that belief is at the back of all of the things that life seems to throw at us, and that ultimately core beliefs need changing before a change in circumstances follow.

How to banish limiting beliefs, thats the 64000 dollar question. Ive found from personal experience that this has taken me some time.

My nephews a carpenter, he can knock a huge nail in with only a few blows of the hammer, i cant, it takes me about 8 blows, but eventually the nail still gets driven home.

Keep driving the nail,im not saying it needs to be a struggle, were all different, but it is the way things have happened in my own experience, and thats all i can personally comment on. If it doesnt WORK i wont share it.

I had two big limiting beliefs( there are more in there im sure ) these beliefs have altered, the results have followed!

How did these beliefs change? by gradually replacing what i had learned from a very early age.By renewing my mind, bit by bit using whatever i had at hand to do it. Theres more than one way to skin a cat. Use whatever you can and if you find a method that works for u exploite it.



answered 30 Oct '12, 05:02

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Monty Riviera

edited 30 Oct '12, 05:17

I also have a history of this. In my journals, I'll sometimes have a breakthrough as many as 3 or 4 times before it finally sticks. It always does eventually, but just takes a while--especially if it's a really old, deeply ingrained belief.

I'd say, as to advice, that you might be struggling with another belief that you have yet to discover. Just keep searching, and stay in touch with the divine, and you're sure to get it eventually.


answered 29 Oct '12, 21:19

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A daily quote to ponder over:

If your dominant intent is to feel joy while you are doing the work, your triad of intentions—freedom, growth and joy—will come quickly and easily into alignment. See your "career" as one of creating a joyful life experience. You are not a creator of things or a regurgitator of what someone else has created or a gatherer of stuff. You are a creator, and the subject of your creation is your joyful life experience. That is your mission. That is your quest. That is why you are here.

--- Abraham

and give Stingrays Manifesting Experiment1 a read and a try. It worked for me


answered 28 Dec '12, 01:41

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This is an answer that is in no way esoteric. It has nothing to do with energy or EFT or any clearing method. It just is an honest down to earth answer.

What do you like to do most? Do a Yahoo search just on that topic. Are there any people making money in any way from what you like to mostly do? Are there lots of people making money from it in many ways you never ever thought up?

Now the biggest question, what makes them better than you? Nothing, if they did it you could too! Go for it!

That is unless it is immoral, unethical, illegal, poor judgment, unlawful, wrong, bad or exploits your body mind or talents in any way of course.


answered 27 Dec '12, 20:31

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Wade Casaldi

edited 27 Dec '12, 20:36

That's because you cannot "banish" a core belief, much as you might wish you could. You actually need it in balance with a positive core belief to deal with life's issues. If you would like a copy of my free pdf book about how and why it is good to balance negative core beliefs with positive ones, rather than banish them, please let me know at:


and I will send it to you. No cost.No obligation.

or go to my website www.core-beliefs-balance.com

from John B Nutting BA (Psych) University of Queensland; MQCA (Clinical); PACFA Reg.20969 State Register - Clinical Counsellor - Queensland Counsellors Association (QCA) 230-80156; National Australian Register - Psychotherapists and Counsellors Federation Australia (PACFA) 20969;


answered 27 Dec '12, 20:05

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