I have zero interest in holding a job or building a business. The things that excite me cost money which I don't have so basically I have to do something that I find repulsive or unsatisfying to pass the time.
There are millions of people who don't work for money and have ample financial resources (some more ample than others) so I just don't buy the "You can't get something for nothing" argument. This makes it extra-hard to force myself to "endure the pain for the sake of the gain" because deep down I know that I am making a fool of myself while others enjoy the kind of life I desire. Also, I have no idea what kind of pain would actually buy the gain, if that is even possible, so if I am tempted to follow that path out of frustration, I end up getting even more frustrated.
What I want isn't just money, it's the freedom and youth to enjoy it. Trying to build a business in order to have money and freedom reminds me that I am sacrificing what is left of my youth for it. To put the importance of youth for me into perspective, I used to cry myself to sleep begging to wake up back in my teens. If I struggle for the next ten years and end up independently rich, it won't be worth it; so I don't but the time passes anyway.
Can I live as I want by choice or is that option only available to people based on "luck"? How do I focus on feeling good when my impulses are constantly frustrated?
For clarity, I'm adding this
I have in the past thought of becoming a model. By that I mean I felt an immense sense of love/relief believing I could, and would, be one. If there was a way for me to grow to the height professional models are required to have (5'11+), I would pursue it. Problem is that there isn't, unless that can be achieved through the Law. People keep telling me it can't and although I would like to not believe them, so does my experience.
So that has left me with the sense that there is nothing I can do that would really improve my life because I can't address the core things that really matter to me. It has also left me with a deep sense that I am less worthy than other people. I don't mean that in the sense that "I am unworthy because I don't have this" but "I don't have this because I am unworthy". Why would God deny me things (and the opportunity to earn those things) that he grants to others? What does that say about nature?
I know people speak in terms of "Well but you can earn money". Sure, I can. I just can't use it to buy back the youth I didn't enjoy and spent to earn that money while others get to actually enjoy being young. So that to me feels like God saying I am unworthy, less than others, unloved. It feels like being powerless and abandoned.
@flowsurfer, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so low. Welcome to IQ. :)
Many, many of the people here have felt as you do now, including myself. Believe me when I say you are not alone. You will find a lot of good advice by following the links I've pasted here, and the links within them. Pay special attention to anything on this site written by @Stingray.
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answered 26 Dec '12, 19:20
What do you want to do that takes money? What would you be doing if you had unlimited money? Would you ski all day? Eat all day? Hang out with movie stars? Travel? Learning? If you were in your teens, would that make you happy? Why?
Are you aware that by talking about "not having" that you are perpetuating that state? I sense deep seated beliefs that it takes hard work for you make, or have, money.
There is a "Catch 22" in this. You want money to be happy, but you feel you have to do things that are "repulsive and unsatisfying" to get the money to be happy.
And you are right. Doing things that you don't like in order to be happy will not work. The Journey and the Destination are the same. To break this cycle, you need to find something that you like. Let this replace your focus on what you don't have. Or you will intensify your "lack" state if you keep focussing on "lack."
You have the answer to your question inside you, but you may be making so much noise that the answer can not be heard. Do not feel that you are alone in this, we all have this going on to some extent.
To get the "happy process" started you must find something that you like! Focus the spotlight of your attention on this and doors will open. I will give you a double your money back guarantee!
Personally, I take walks with my dog. I enjoy his open curiosity and fascination for so many things. He is not worried about anything in the future or obsessing over his past. He is super-enjoying his moment! And he and our other dogs enjoy the lifestyle you seem to want.
Take a look at my avatar. She is one of our spaniels. Can you feel her joy? She, like most dogs, lives in Easy World. You can, too.
The bottom line is that things will not make you long-term happy. They may change your state for a short perid of time, but that will fade. True joy comes from connecting with your source.
My greatest successes have come from a "moment", not from problem solving. I suddenly have an inspiration, make a very small movement and enjoy huge rewards.
You and all of us want to live in EASY WORLD!!! Here is a simple, yet very powerful way to do this!
Damn! I am glad that you asked this question! Got me re-aligned with Easy World.
I would start with meditation. You seem upset/frustrated with your current circumstances. Sometimes things get very chaotic and we lose sight of the positive when we get this way. The easiest way to begin "untangling" it all, for me, has always been meditation.
I noticed you mentioned earlier that you were having doubts regarding Law of Attraction- so I won't dwell on that. But I do want to point out that the way you think has a major impact on your life. A day of negative thoughts ends up in headaches, stress, and discontentment. You go home wanting to do nothing but lay around- I know, I've been there, and it's not a grand way to live.
I feel the best advice I can give you is to start doing things you feel are going to improve you and your life, even if currently it doesn't seem to work towards a particular direction.
If you feel bogged down by too much negative thinking, try meditating and making time to do something positive, say reading an inspiring self development book. If you don't like your body or health, start working out and eating better. There's several work out programs out there (I personally love p90x ;) and this site is a gold mine for ideas and processes for personal development.
It seems simple but it can really help, especially if you're unsure where to start. Just start with things you know will help and move forward from that point.
answered 26 Dec '12, 19:30
An underlying problem is your belief that you are separated from God/Nature/Source.
Why would you deny yourself to be separated from G/N/S? You are One with this and never separate. Know that you are part of everything and everything is a part of you.
Feeling good is something that happens Now .Not when I have or when I meet or when I can...
What do you like to do mostly? Are there people that make money doing it? There probably are people that make money doing it, even good money doing it. How many ways could you make money doing it? Do it for the money! You will be really enjoying it and gaining money for it.
Example: I love karate and teaching karate and I get paid to teach it. So on top of it being something I enjoy I actually also make money doing it.
Maybe someday I'll get paid for playing my guitar too. I have been playing for many years now by my self and can really "tear it up" when I want.
It is really about value creating, when we create value for people they happily pay for it. Now here is the best part, when we make others happy it makes us happy.
Think of Sir Richard Branson, he is very happy. He also makes many people very happy. He has Virgin airlines, movies and I believe even records. He spends his time thinking up ways to improve the world. Soon we'll have Virgin space lines.
Joesph Camble wrote:
"Follow your bliss" Unless it is, unethical, immoral, illegal, or exploits your body, mind or talents in any way, shape or form, or is generally just wrong, bad or in poor judgment. "and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."
Hi Flowsurfer , check out this link for fountain of youth ,no products,just ancient knowledge :-)
and you might also like this from Abraham to help with changing vibration
Appreciation as always to Abraham and Mr Peter Kelder for their guidance ♥
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answered 26 Dec '12, 20:02
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answered 27 Dec '12, 12:10
well it depends what you are looking for. you have no choice to be part of the system created by men kind. will this money system make you happy? or can you be happy being your self? and find other people that are happy being them self? yes you will have to work all your life in this men made monopoly game.and you will lose most of your time doing it. why not find something that you like to do and the place with the good condition to do it. sure if you want to have money and buy everything and every one around you and have a false sense of power and joy,there is only a fee that make it in this world.and even those fee are not happy. extremes never make anny one happy. the middle point is always better. as long as all your need are satisfy and that you can be happy and experience and enjoy life in this world. as for what you want often it will not make you happy,you might get what you want and discover that it is not what you wanted,so why put so much effort to get what you want? since when you get it you will not like it.why not know your self and find out what you need and what you want and what is really require? that way you really will get what you need and what you want and is required. it will stop you from making unnecessary decision and move,that will not bring the required fruit.so let there be light,Be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.
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answered 26 Dec '12, 20:21
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Ooooohhh, look what I found :) http://soilandhealth.org/wp-content/uploads/0304spiritpsych/030412.Wattle.Getting.Rich.pdf
So much great input here in this thread, I'm sure I will benefit, myself!
Re the age thing, I do have a book recommendation that could be used along with the Tibetan Five Rites. No, you won't become a teen again (I know for me, I wouldn't want to if I could), but youthful maturity, which I consider highly attractive, is well within your grasp. http://www.amazon.com/Turn-Off-Your-Elsye-Birkinshaw/dp/0912800755/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Any kind of forward movement and positive expectation will lift you out of your doldrums and get things moving for you. Also work on acceptance of where you are now. I highly recommend this video, and the others in this series of channelings: http://zingdad.com/video/adamu-speaks/234--acceptance
A Playboy, by definition, already has money, and can thus spend all his time chasing women, enjoying his yachts and generally being a very high class bum.
No offense, but I think you need to really get serious about your life. You cannot get there from where you are right now.
P.S. EDIT: I do not know anyone who managed to "make it" without working hard. Unless you change that idea, you will never achieve what will make you happy. You are thus doomed to be unhappy. I am so sorry. Jai
I'm with @Jaianniah, it's time for you to grow up. Please don't take this the wrong way but it sounds like you just need a good smack on the side of the head to realize you are responsible for your life. If you want to be the playboy with money at your disposal, you have to EARN it! Other people don't. It sounds like you do.
That doesn't mean you have to earn it doing something you hate, but it does mean you pick something that doesn't feel like it's sucking the life out of you and do that like your life depends on it. Maybe you have to hustle and build a business, maybe you play the lottery like a madman. But if you don't know what something that you like doing is, then become more aware of yourself. I do feel sorry for you but I too will not pity you. That, my friend, is probably the LAST thing you need right now...
answered 14 Dec '15, 17:57
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