I have zero interest in holding a job or building a business. The things that excite me cost money which I don't have so basically I have to do something that I find repulsive or unsatisfying to pass the time.

There are millions of people who don't work for money and have ample financial resources (some more ample than others) so I just don't buy the "You can't get something for nothing" argument. This makes it extra-hard to force myself to "endure the pain for the sake of the gain" because deep down I know that I am making a fool of myself while others enjoy the kind of life I desire. Also, I have no idea what kind of pain would actually buy the gain, if that is even possible, so if I am tempted to follow that path out of frustration, I end up getting even more frustrated.

What I want isn't just money, it's the freedom and youth to enjoy it. Trying to build a business in order to have money and freedom reminds me that I am sacrificing what is left of my youth for it. To put the importance of youth for me into perspective, I used to cry myself to sleep begging to wake up back in my teens. If I struggle for the next ten years and end up independently rich, it won't be worth it; so I don't but the time passes anyway.

Can I live as I want by choice or is that option only available to people based on "luck"? How do I focus on feeling good when my impulses are constantly frustrated?

For clarity, I'm adding this

I have in the past thought of becoming a model. By that I mean I felt an immense sense of love/relief believing I could, and would, be one. If there was a way for me to grow to the height professional models are required to have (5'11+), I would pursue it. Problem is that there isn't, unless that can be achieved through the Law. People keep telling me it can't and although I would like to not believe them, so does my experience.

So that has left me with the sense that there is nothing I can do that would really improve my life because I can't address the core things that really matter to me. It has also left me with a deep sense that I am less worthy than other people. I don't mean that in the sense that "I am unworthy because I don't have this" but "I don't have this because I am unworthy". Why would God deny me things (and the opportunity to earn those things) that he grants to others? What does that say about nature?

I know people speak in terms of "Well but you can earn money". Sure, I can. I just can't use it to buy back the youth I didn't enjoy and spent to earn that money while others get to actually enjoy being young. So that to me feels like God saying I am unworthy, less than others, unloved. It feels like being powerless and abandoned.

asked 25 Dec '12, 19:19

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edited 26 Dec '12, 20:33

I am suicidal; I am at a point where I find living almost unbearable. If you don't have something positive to say, don't say it. Discouraging words make me feel physical pain. I already feel like giving up on life. I need something good to look forward to and I don't have it. I know the question and the way I'm phrasing things sounds silly but I am completely serious. What I mean by "playboy" is not "James Bond", it is actually something millions of people have in this world.

(26 Dec '12, 17:13) flowsurfer

please contact me. it is lucabrazzi39@aol.com. my skype name is treb_bor_yit-ne my name is rob. i dont know if i can help u or not, but i can talk to u, we can try to find a way to get u happy. i stuggled with horrid drug addiction for many years and i hope i can help, i know what it is to be in the lowest of lows... please.. reach out. i am here.

(26 Dec '12, 19:44) TReb Bor yit-NE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aiESuF7nWWk watch this, and see if u would want my help, this is me laying it out on the line as i try to help others..

(26 Dec '12, 19:49) TReb Bor yit-NE

@flowsurfer, Rob (@TReb Bor yit-NE) is one of the best people I've ever met, and super-easy to talk to. Great guy, no strings. He can help.

Love you Rob! Thanks for being here! :)

(26 Dec '12, 19:51) Grace

ty sweetheart., love u.. and u choose, i am here if u need, but i have to know more than what this letter tells me before i would sugest or say anything...

(26 Dec '12, 19:55) TReb Bor yit-NE

im gonna get off now, waited for response,, but i do hope u the best and if u need me, i am here, please use the addresses i gave u, skype will allow us to talk talk, and i hope u use it if u feel i could help u. LOVE, Wisdom, Awareness.

(26 Dec '12, 20:18) TReb Bor yit-NE

I've been thinking about your modelling idea and running with that , there are lots of different areas, does it have to be catwalk , how about commercials where height isn't relevant, extras in films, hairdresser models , etc , just a thought .......Love and Light SL

(26 Dec '12, 21:26) Starlight

Find fulfilling emptiness and you'll be blessed.

But talking some sense to a common man, in the society based on superficiality, you'd greatly benefit from simply working out. Seeing your goal is to bang as many young dolls as possible. In a sense you are lucky, because young people are rarely enlightened and wise, and are easily controlled and exploited. But then again almost everyone is.

You could have it all if you knew how to get it. But you must do something to get that understanding.

(27 Dec '12, 05:11) CalonLan

@CalonLan- Do you consider yourself enlightened and wise?

(27 Dec '12, 07:11) Nikulas

I agree with @Grace....@Treb- Rob is an awesome character who has helped many (even people before on this site)

(27 Dec '12, 07:11) Nikulas

@Nikulas, so much I no longer need to turn on lights at night. lol. /sarcasm off

Mountains tops and valley mists. You are born into the mist, you can see it, feel it. Everybody is talking about it. People want to get hold of it and own it. They take a deep breath and say Look, I can hold the most of it...I'm the most "mistful". But mist is heavy to breath. It shortens the vision. Yet people are full of it, and they WANT to be full of it. Like madmen competition who's lungs can hold bigger....

(27 Dec '12, 08:52) CalonLan

....portion of it. And busy competing to grasp the intangible people forgot about the mountain tops, which they can't even see. Some people just get fed up with all the valley's mumbo-jumbo and take a walk, and as they walk they start to climb. Often surprised that things seem different from higher perspective they curiously continue to climb and see more and more. And who knows where's the end of it.

I don't know, and shall never know if I'm enlightened or wise, I just enjoy climbing. ;)

(27 Dec '12, 08:57) CalonLan

@Nikulas, And the higher you climb, the clearer the air gets. Eventually you see the valley in the mist and while were there and know what it's like, you will feel rather detached from it, not being part of it.

So my advice here, to the mistful fella, was to help him catch a bit of that mist. Which is just as valuable (value=null) as trying to explain absurdity of doing something like that. But why not, wanna be catching mist, I sure can help...here, have my special mist catching bag xoxo

(27 Dec '12, 09:09) CalonLan

@CalonLan "You could have it all if you knew how to get it. But you must do something to get that understanding."

What does that mean?

(27 Dec '12, 11:23) flowsurfer

@flowsurfer, there is a system to everything. That's why everything is easy. When you learn about how things work, what causes what, or which consequences is created by what cause.

Everything your heart desire becomes within your hands grasp.

But reading your other answers, you seem not to be interested in study of depths of psychology. You can't exploit people who live, but 99% of people only think they live. So psychology is your best friend here, in this time, on this planet.

(28 Dec '12, 02:50) CalonLan
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@flowsurfer, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so low. Welcome to IQ. :) Many, many of the people here have felt as you do now, including myself. Believe me when I say you are not alone. You will find a lot of good advice by following the links I've pasted here, and the links within them. Pay special attention to anything on this site written by @Stingray.




If you want to learn to manifest abundance, there is a ton of excellent advice:



Keep reading, there is so much here for you!



answered 26 Dec '12, 19:20

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@Grace - Some great links here! Thanks for posting!

(28 Dec '12, 16:13) lozenge123

@lozenge123, thank you. The toughest part is choosing which link to good advice to share.... there is just so much of it here! :)

(31 Dec '12, 15:24) Grace

What do you want to do that takes money? What would you be doing if you had unlimited money? Would you ski all day? Eat all day? Hang out with movie stars? Travel? Learning? If you were in your teens, would that make you happy? Why?

Are you aware that by talking about "not having" that you are perpetuating that state? I sense deep seated beliefs that it takes hard work for you make, or have, money.

There is a "Catch 22" in this. You want money to be happy, but you feel you have to do things that are "repulsive and unsatisfying" to get the money to be happy.

And you are right. Doing things that you don't like in order to be happy will not work. The Journey and the Destination are the same. To break this cycle, you need to find something that you like. Let this replace your focus on what you don't have. Or you will intensify your "lack" state if you keep focussing on "lack."

You have the answer to your question inside you, but you may be making so much noise that the answer can not be heard. Do not feel that you are alone in this, we all have this going on to some extent.

To get the "happy process" started you must find something that you like! Focus the spotlight of your attention on this and doors will open. I will give you a double your money back guarantee!

Personally, I take walks with my dog. I enjoy his open curiosity and fascination for so many things. He is not worried about anything in the future or obsessing over his past. He is super-enjoying his moment! And he and our other dogs enjoy the lifestyle you seem to want.

Take a look at my avatar. She is one of our spaniels. Can you feel her joy? She, like most dogs, lives in Easy World. You can, too.

The bottom line is that things will not make you long-term happy. They may change your state for a short perid of time, but that will fade. True joy comes from connecting with your source.

My greatest successes have come from a "moment", not from problem solving. I suddenly have an inspiration, make a very small movement and enjoy huge rewards.

You and all of us want to live in EASY WORLD!!! Here is a simple, yet very powerful way to do this!

Damn! I am glad that you asked this question! Got me re-aligned with Easy World.


answered 26 Dec '12, 07:19

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Dollar Bill

edited 26 Dec '12, 07:33

The lifestyle I want does not involve spending my days more or less imprisoned in a house and occasionally taking a walk outside while being lead around in a leash. Things won't make me happy? Sure, the thing itself doesn't make me "long-term" happy, it just creates a short-term experience. The freedom to have the experience, that sense of empowerment, is what makes me "long-term" happy. Yes, I want money so I have the option of traveling, hanging out with movie stars, ski, eat, learn, etc.

(26 Dec '12, 12:26) flowsurfer

The thing that motivates me the most is beautiful, youthful women. Interacting with women (including but not limited to sex) is the most rewarding thing there is for me at this point in time. I don't know of any way to get paid to do this and it does cost money (the logistics of it). Being a teen is probably appealing to me because I was naturally in the midst of beautiful, youthful women, where it was natural for me to interact with them; the logistics were mostly taken care of.

(26 Dec '12, 12:33) flowsurfer

Can you ground your advice with a practical example? I like playing games, which is something I can do. When I focus on that, I withdraw my focus from my lacks for a while. No doors open. The things that I most want don't get closer to me and I eventually have to face the fact that even though playing games is fun, it is not all I want out of life and my other needs are not being met. The same happens with movies/tv, except they remind me of the things I lack so it's harder to sustain my focus.

(26 Dec '12, 13:09) flowsurfer

@flowersurfer - You got the wrong end of the leash, maybe.

We have two ears and one mouth. Perhaps listening more might help. You have been given good advice from several people here who are quite happy, yet you don't seem to listen.

Good luck on your quest.

(26 Dec '12, 16:18) Dollar Bill

I listen perfectly fine. I'm telling you what happens when I try to apply this advice (I feel lost), which I have, and answering the questions asked. Does looking down on people from your high horse make you feel good? I'm not just posting because I'm bored. I'm in a lot of pain. I have tried many times to just ignore the pain but it didn't work, the pain deepened. That is why I am asking for help.

(26 Dec '12, 16:43) flowsurfer

@flowsurfer every one is a movie star of is own life. but the way you talk is like you have got hook on the illusion that you need money and you need famous people. mankind made this monopoly game. and it is only there because we fall in the illusion of it and we do not change it. every one know that equality is healt. then why do we accept to go in extreme to make a fee rich and the rest poor.what is the percentage of chance that you will be in the fee rich?

(27 Dec '12, 04:18) white tiger

and what is the percentage of chance being in the poor? eventualy mankind will wake up. for the time being they are asleep.and accept the game.and do not want change.they are all afraid to work together and make this world a better place for every one.

(27 Dec '12, 04:18) white tiger

@flowsurfer - I actually don't like horses. Motorcycles and fine cars are better.

I am not trying to denigrate your pain. All I can offer is what has worked for me. Through this, money and joy have flowed easily to me.

If my advice does not reosnate with you, I wish you best of luck in finding that which will help you to be happier.

(27 Dec '12, 18:00) Dollar Bill

I love the phrase "true joy comes from connecting with source", isn't that exactly what a true playboy does? isn't that what you are @Dollar Bill? someone who enjoys life to the full at each and every moment regardless like a freely adventurous and joyful human. In this sense animals including wild animals can teach us a lot :) when you think about it this question by @flowsurfer brings to light the nitty-gritty, the four common deeply ingrained limiting beliefs

(24 Nov '15, 01:45) jaz

these 4 common core limiting beliefs being; there is only one truth, I can't get what I want, beliefs are not a choice, I'll believe it when I see it.

(24 Nov '15, 02:16) jaz
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Hello there-

I would start with meditation. You seem upset/frustrated with your current circumstances. Sometimes things get very chaotic and we lose sight of the positive when we get this way. The easiest way to begin "untangling" it all, for me, has always been meditation.

I noticed you mentioned earlier that you were having doubts regarding Law of Attraction- so I won't dwell on that. But I do want to point out that the way you think has a major impact on your life. A day of negative thoughts ends up in headaches, stress, and discontentment. You go home wanting to do nothing but lay around- I know, I've been there, and it's not a grand way to live.

I feel the best advice I can give you is to start doing things you feel are going to improve you and your life, even if currently it doesn't seem to work towards a particular direction.

If you feel bogged down by too much negative thinking, try meditating and making time to do something positive, say reading an inspiring self development book. If you don't like your body or health, start working out and eating better. There's several work out programs out there (I personally love p90x ;) and this site is a gold mine for ideas and processes for personal development.

It seems simple but it can really help, especially if you're unsure where to start. Just start with things you know will help and move forward from that point.


answered 26 Dec '12, 19:30

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There is no point getting in shape if I can't afford to go out. I have in the past thought of becoming a model. By that I mean I felt an immense sense of love/relief believing I could, and would, be one. If there was a way for me to grow to the height professional models are required to have (5'11+), I would pursue it. Problem is that there isn't, unless that can be achieved through the Law. People keep telling me it can't and although I would like to not believe them, so does my experience.

(26 Dec '12, 20:04) flowsurfer

So that has left me with the sense that there is nothing I can do that would really improve my life because I can't address the core things that really matter to me. It has also left me with a deep sense that I am less worthy than other people. I don't mean that in the sense that "I am unworthy because I don't have this" but "I don't have this because I am unworthy". Why would God deny me things (and the opportunity to earn those things) that he grants to others? What does that say about nature?

(26 Dec '12, 20:08) flowsurfer

It is a matter of perception... if you feel the only route to being a model is height than you'll miss other ways to achieve your goal. This is why I recommend meditation... these are the types of thoughts that block people from their personal potential- meditation helps clear your mind from it. If you want to be a model, leave the door open- don't close it just because of height. There's tons of actors, writers, etc who were told at one point "you can't because of xxx". They didn't listen ;)

(26 Dec '12, 20:34) LapisLazuli

I understand why you're upset, though. I hope you can find your answer. Everyone else is always going to have an opinion and tell you "there's only one way to become a model." If you allow yourself to believe it, you'll find a new way.

(26 Dec '12, 20:38) LapisLazuli

@LapisLazuli - Beautiful answer. It can be very hard to cut through the fog when you feel bad, and your answer looks like a signpost in the dark.

(31 Dec '12, 15:32) Grace
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An underlying problem is your belief that you are separated from God/Nature/Source.

I don't have this because I am unworthy". Why would God deny me things (and the opportunity to earn those things) that he grants to others? What does that say about nature?

Why would you deny yourself to be separated from G/N/S? You are One with this and never separate. Know that you are part of everything and everything is a part of you.

How do I focus on feeling good when my impulses are constantly frustrated?

Feeling good is something that happens Now .Not when I have or when I meet or when I can...
Start with the small things that are right .A roof over your head ,food in your stomach, family, a working internet connection.
Want more? Be grateful for what you have no matter how small, and you will be amazed how much more you will get.

Another belief that you should think about.
Work seems like a bad word for you . A lot of personal history behind it?
Change your thoughts and change your life (to borrow from Wayne Dyers book title)
Instead of working try; Doing what you love and getting paid for it ! Make that a goal, an intention, an alternative to "work"

Every age in a persons life has its qualities and its drawbacks. Teenage is magical I will agree. At 17 years old the world opens with possibilities. And what did we want as teenagers ? To be grown-up and make our own decisions. What is it about you youth you wish to recapture? The only way you are going to sacrifice your youth is to allow it. Realize that you are always young and you are always old. It is when you choose to be one or the other that you sacrifice the one you do not choose

People keep telling me, millions of people who
You matter not people, its your life not "peoples".
Do you have a lot of "they" in your life? (They say this and they say that and you not following what they say). When you read some of the inspirational material of that is recommended. You will see how unimportant "people and they" are.


answered 27 Dec '12, 07:23

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edited 28 Dec '12, 03:40

"What is it about your youth you wish to recapture?"

Two things. A youthful body and the sense that things would get better. For two examples of both, I didn't think I would be short. If I saw that adults tended to be taller than me, it was just because I wasn't finished growing taller. I was shocked when I started noticing there were many (not just some) women, younger than me, and taller than me. Then I saw my hair was thinning. I had become someone I didn't want to be and couldn't change.

(27 Dec '12, 12:20) flowsurfer

Life then lost the sense of being a progression towards better things, something you work to build up and if you fail you just try again and started feeling like food you have to eat before it rottens; and it had already started rotting and if I didn't eat it now, I would have to eat something even more disgusting.

(27 Dec '12, 12:36) flowsurfer

@Flowsurfer :Good news! Getting older is fun! Now I'm not old yet I was just born a long time ago. Don't let the details of your physical body be a problem. Lots of actors are short Sylvester Stalon, Tom Cruise... http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/news/la-et-short-actors-pg,0,5634255.photogallery and who needs hair to be sexy? http://www.imdb.com/list/lmFqxOef6Hg/ So don't limit yourself .Be happy with how you look `Now

(28 Dec '12, 02:55) ursixx

The best in life isn’t somewhere else. It’s right where you are, at this moment. There is nothing better than exactly that. Pause for just 10 seconds, and notice where you are, what you’re doing, who you are, at this very moment. Notice that you are breathing, and how lovely that is. Notice that you can smile, and feel the joy in that. Notice the good things around you. Give thanks for the people you’ve seen today. Celebrate the perhaps not altogether insignificant fact that you are alive.

(28 Dec '12, 03:33) ursixx

... from http://zenhabits.net/39th/ a good read!

(28 Dec '12, 03:34) ursixx

you are shorth so what nothing is meaningless. sometime shorth is better. and if you learn to use that shortness to your adventage it might serve you in more way then one. look at nature all animal have some trait(small,big thin,large hairless,hair,clawless,claw,etc...) yet they each have somethings that only they can do. or is it that you fell diminish and overpowered? look at the ant it might be small but it can lift 10 time is own weight.do you thing size as annything to do with strenght?

(28 Dec '12, 04:52) white tiger

@ursixx The best in life isn't where I am, at this moment. There are countless things better than that. I know this because I have memory. I know it isn't true, so even if it is just a trick to "shift my vibration" so I manifest better things, it just doesn't resonate with me. Don't misunderstand me. I think it might help if I clarified one thing.

(28 Dec '12, 08:51) flowsurfer

@ursixx @white tiger My pain does not come from being short, or having less hair, or not having a million dollars in the bank, my pain comes from being powerless. Being short just triggers the awareness of powerlessness, as does an aging body. All these "be happy with what you have"/"think of how this is a good thing"/"focus on something else" exercises only amplify this sense of powerlessness. Getting fucked might be fun but I would like a choice in the matter, instead of simply getting raped.

(28 Dec '12, 08:56) flowsurfer

@ursixx- That Zen Habits website is the best thing since IQ

(28 Dec '12, 09:48) Nikulas

@flowsurfer It's great that you are reaching out! It's really great that you are looking for answers! Looking for your power back. You want it back and you will get it as long as you are looking for it. A battery does not full charge as soon as you start to recharge it. Plug yourself in and get recharging! Find the things you do have power over and start to expand from that point! Try smiling! The negative spiral will keep pulling you down until YOU decide you want to go up! ...

(28 Dec '12, 16:54) ursixx

...http://youtu.be/Cbk980jV7Ao smile flowsurfer the sun will rise tomorrow

(28 Dec '12, 16:55) ursixx

This is wonderful, @ursixx. Thank you. Think I'll bookmark this... just in case. :)

(31 Dec '12, 15:34) Grace
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What do you like to do mostly? Are there people that make money doing it? There probably are people that make money doing it, even good money doing it. How many ways could you make money doing it? Do it for the money! You will be really enjoying it and gaining money for it.

Example: I love karate and teaching karate and I get paid to teach it. So on top of it being something I enjoy I actually also make money doing it.

Maybe someday I'll get paid for playing my guitar too. I have been playing for many years now by my self and can really "tear it up" when I want.

It is really about value creating, when we create value for people they happily pay for it. Now here is the best part, when we make others happy it makes us happy.

Think of Sir Richard Branson, he is very happy. He also makes many people very happy. He has Virgin airlines, movies and I believe even records. He spends his time thinking up ways to improve the world. Soon we'll have Virgin space lines.

Joesph Camble wrote:

"Follow your bliss" Unless it is, unethical, immoral, illegal, or exploits your body, mind or talents in any way, shape or form, or is generally just wrong, bad or in poor judgment. "and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."


answered 25 Dec '12, 21:41

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edited 26 Dec '12, 18:25

I can't think of anything. The point of wealth is having the freedom to experiment, to have a variety of experiences without the pressure to profit from them. In desperation I considered prostituting myself. In theory this would be ideal as it would involve me getting paid to be with women; in practice the majority of women who hire men are not attractive and I don't have the body (mostly height, I'm 5'5) to compete effectively in the field, even if I took care of all other blocks.

(25 Dec '12, 23:11) flowsurfer

Prostituting your self!? No, no that is not what I meant at all! Although yes you may be good at that and enjoy it and certainly people make money doing it or being porn stars but take that option off the board please! It drives me nuts when I see my advice twisted to say something different than I meant.

(26 Dec '12, 06:09) Wade Casaldi

I don't think you understood me. I don't see options. Not even prostitution seems like a viable option to me.

(26 Dec '12, 11:20) flowsurfer

Also, if you think that was twisting your advice then please clarify it. Sex is what I like to do mostly. There are people making money doing it, even good money. I just don't think I could make money doing it, at least not in a way that would be enjoyable. Can you suggest something else?

(26 Dec '12, 12:39) flowsurfer
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Hi Flowsurfer , check out this link for fountain of youth ,no products,just ancient knowledge :-)

http://lib.ru/URIKOVA/KELDER/Ancient_Secret_of_the_Fountain_of_Youth-Peter_Kelder.pdf u might

and you might also like this from Abraham to help with changing vibration


Appreciation as always to Abraham and Mr Peter Kelder for their guidance ♥


answered 25 Dec '12, 23:11

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edited 26 Dec '12, 18:16

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Barry Allen ♦♦

I have seen the book before. I have also seen this article by people who practice what it preaches: http://www.t5t.com/articles/The-Five-Tibetan-Rite-s-Benefits-The-Truth-versus-the-Claims so I don't see any point in taking the book seriously.

I'm listening to the clip you linked. I have found relief in Abraham in the past but now it just feels hollow, empty. This may be linked with an increasing difficulty in believing there is any truth to it. I don't know how to remedy that erosion of trust.

(25 Dec '12, 23:47) flowsurfer

Am curious if you read further down the webpage to the benefits that are offered ;-)

I personally don't know how to help you with the trust issue , but am positive that our community will come up with some tools for you Love and Light ......SL

(26 Dec '12, 00:07) Starlight

Feel free to download this paraliminal . Its called the Self-Esteem Supercharger. Its excellent and should help put you in a better feeling state. Listen to it as often as you need. It has 4 tracks to it which play as one recording.

Track 1 http://db.tt/d50O1cbA

Track 2 http://db.tt/CCZvKwQl

Track 3 http://db.tt/GCvKzheg

Track 4 http://db.tt/sy6sbjVU


answered 26 Dec '12, 20:02

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@Satori - Thank you for sharing these, I missed them the last time you did - I think the links expired or something. I am looking forward to giving them a try.

(31 Dec '12, 15:26) Grace


Here is the answer to solving your problems/issues:


I would also highly recommend the following book, which will give you an excellent introduction to, overview of, and explication of a lot of the concepts related to manifesting, and to other important concepts we discuss here on Inward Quest:


Once you start on this path, and encounter any perplexing situations, or any "bumps in the road", just post questions here and you'll get the feedback you need from more experienced folks.

Good luck and all the best.


answered 27 Dec '12, 12:10

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well it depends what you are looking for. you have no choice to be part of the system created by men kind. will this money system make you happy? or can you be happy being your self? and find other people that are happy being them self? yes you will have to work all your life in this men made monopoly game.and you will lose most of your time doing it. why not find something that you like to do and the place with the good condition to do it. sure if you want to have money and buy everything and every one around you and have a false sense of power and joy,there is only a fee that make it in this world.and even those fee are not happy. extremes never make anny one happy. the middle point is always better. as long as all your need are satisfy and that you can be happy and experience and enjoy life in this world. as for what you want often it will not make you happy,you might get what you want and discover that it is not what you wanted,so why put so much effort to get what you want? since when you get it you will not like it.why not know your self and find out what you need and what you want and what is really require? that way you really will get what you need and what you want and is required. it will stop you from making unnecessary decision and move,that will not bring the required fruit.so let there be light,Be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.


answered 26 Dec '12, 00:00

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edited 26 Dec '12, 00:00

There is nothing false about the sense of power provided by wealth. It is not absolute power but it is real. The rest of your answer is hard to read. My main interest is not in extreme wealth but freedom from work (without the associated lack of financial resources).

(26 Dec '12, 00:43) flowsurfer

"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. http://bible.cc/matthew/6-19.htm everything physical in this world will pass away. and you will not bring that money to heaven. you are only passing by in this world. that is why i told you it is a false sense of power. if you do not know your self you live in poverty and you are that poverty.

(26 Dec '12, 18:22) white tiger

when the rich will knock on the door and say let me in,i am rich and have money in my bank to pay my fee here. and god ask him how many of your brother that are poor did you help with that money so that they could also enjoy this life on earth? Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God."

(26 Dec '12, 18:30) white tiger

Who needs the future, when the now is true, who needs a heaven to look forward to? For my whole life through, the God is here and the heaven too.

right? Of course right. :-D

(27 Dec '12, 04:31) CalonLan

@white tiger , you seem to believe people shouldn't be wealthy. Yet Jesus says right after what you just quoted that if the wealthy man had given all he had to follow him, he would become a hundred times wealthier than he was before. Not wealthier "in heaven" or in some "spiritual" way, wealthier "on earth" in the sense of lands and etc. This just says power is in the hands of God, not things. He couldn't give up his wealth because he trusted its power and not his; it is not a value judgement.

(27 Dec '12, 13:10) flowsurfer

@flowsurfer wealth is not the issue. competition that brings division going in to extremes making a fee rich and alot poor,is the problem. how to solve the problem fix the game so every one is rich and can still enjoy the game. what is needed harmony cooperation,to seek answer to the problem and apply them for the good of all. and where does it all start in each individual. but for now mankind is asleep and do not want to wake up. they see the outside but do not see the inside and how it relate.

(27 Dec '12, 18:39) white tiger

they need to find the narrow door and leave the wide door of destruction. you are all ready lost on that wide gate and seek answer. as for believing i do not need to believe i know and see it. "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered."

(27 Dec '12, 18:41) white tiger

"Whoever has ears, let him hear. There is light within a man of light, and he lights up the whole world. If he does not shine, he is darkness."The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it.

(27 Dec '12, 18:53) white tiger
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please... please watch the vid above,, it is this, if u cant handle vids, it is only 24 min of ur life, if it doesnt work... u have lost nothing by watching it, if it does work, have a whole new life to gain... please watch with an open heart and an open mind.. i am here , and here is my personal info again

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answered 26 Dec '12, 20:21

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Ooooohhh, look what I found :) http://soilandhealth.org/wp-content/uploads/0304spiritpsych/030412.Wattle.Getting.Rich.pdf

So much great input here in this thread, I'm sure I will benefit, myself!

Re the age thing, I do have a book recommendation that could be used along with the Tibetan Five Rites. No, you won't become a teen again (I know for me, I wouldn't want to if I could), but youthful maturity, which I consider highly attractive, is well within your grasp. http://www.amazon.com/Turn-Off-Your-Elsye-Birkinshaw/dp/0912800755/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Any kind of forward movement and positive expectation will lift you out of your doldrums and get things moving for you. Also work on acceptance of where you are now. I highly recommend this video, and the others in this series of channelings: http://zingdad.com/video/adamu-speaks/234--acceptance


answered 12 Dec '15, 05:56

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A Playboy, by definition, already has money, and can thus spend all his time chasing women, enjoying his yachts and generally being a very high class bum.

No offense, but I think you need to really get serious about your life. You cannot get there from where you are right now.




P.S. EDIT: I do not know anyone who managed to "make it" without working hard. Unless you change that idea, you will never achieve what will make you happy. You are thus doomed to be unhappy. I am so sorry. Jai


answered 26 Dec '12, 16:02

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(26 Dec '12, 16:07) Dollar Bill

Nothing against boats but my wants are actually quite modest. What do you mean by "getting serious about your life"? The "you cannot get there from where you are right now" wouldn't be so devastatingly depressing if I had eternal youth and could afford to invest time to build a fortune. Right now I feel like my life is slipping away from me.

(26 Dec '12, 16:48) flowsurfer

@flowsurfer- I coukd not have been more clear. If you want to get somewhere else, you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about your life. Grow up. Quit the regrets. I care, but I refuse to pity you. Jai

(26 Dec '12, 20:35) Jaianniah

Do you understand that my concept of "making it" is not "getting rich"? That what makes me happy is not for sale? That money is just one of the factors involved and I am not motivated to earn it because without the other factors, it is more or less worthless? I am not "against" working hard, I simply feel it is futile to do it.

(26 Dec '12, 20:58) flowsurfer

@Jaianniah, @flowsurfer - Although our ultimate goals/desires differ, I actually feel I know pretty well where flowsurfer is coming from. Because I busted my butt for ten years working my hardest, and taking every opportunity that came my way, and basically slept 5 hours per night. And yet NOTHING ever seemed to work out, or lead to anything else. These are often the fruits of an action-based philosophy, when energy & vibration are not properly aligned. Even wealthy action-based "achievers"...

(27 Dec '12, 12:18) lozenge123

...have conceded that it's not how "hard" you work---it's how "smart you work." The world is full of ditch-diggers and garbage men who sweat their brows for their entire lives and only barely stay above water.

(27 Dec '12, 12:20) lozenge123

It is only because I have known so many of these people (some of whom were and are very close to me) that I started searching for a "better" way, which led me to Inward Quest. :)

(27 Dec '12, 12:23) lozenge123
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I'm with @Jaianniah, it's time for you to grow up. Please don't take this the wrong way but it sounds like you just need a good smack on the side of the head to realize you are responsible for your life. If you want to be the playboy with money at your disposal, you have to EARN it! Other people don't. It sounds like you do.

That doesn't mean you have to earn it doing something you hate, but it does mean you pick something that doesn't feel like it's sucking the life out of you and do that like your life depends on it. Maybe you have to hustle and build a business, maybe you play the lottery like a madman. But if you don't know what something that you like doing is, then become more aware of yourself. I do feel sorry for you but I too will not pity you. That, my friend, is probably the LAST thing you need right now...



answered 14 Dec '15, 17:57

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There's tons of info on this site about manifesting "out of the box" of the Puritan ethic...isn't this what Inward Quest is about? Going beyond conventional limits. I do agree he needs to get moving on something in his life, it doesn't have to be a job per se.

(14 Dec '15, 22:38) Delphine

yes @Delphine move onto that which stimulates, first set aside space in your life to allow focusing on that which is exciting

(15 Dec '15, 01:56) jaz

Izzackly :)

(15 Dec '15, 03:21) Delphine

Totally. There's a saying, "All roads lead to Rome"

Pick something and go with it. BTW, original question is 3 years old haha! Come on INWARD QUEST!

(16 Dec '15, 17:09) Luke Wonders
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