To give a little context, my default understanding of emotions, the one that seems to make sense in the world, is that they are guides to action/inaction, created by your mind's understanding of a situation. If you see a big, angry dog and your mind knows it is dangerous, you experience fear to encourage you to retreat. Confusion and anxiety keep you from taking action when your mind can't figure out what to do and senses the wrong action is dangerous. In other words, emotions are just an effect. The only way to change them is to change their cause, which is whatever situation caused them. You can get rid of fear of dogs by coming to the realization they are not dangerous but if that realization is false, the dog will attack and the fear will resurface. You can get rid of anxiety by pretending everything is okay but if it isn't, you'll experience the pain and return to a state of anxiety.
So how do I shift from this view of emotions, which is backed up by my life experience, to one that is more along the lines of Abraham's? Where do I find evidence to support the fact that good things are not just a product of random luck + social dynamics + deliberate action upon the natural world? How do I convince myself that I don't have to worry?
If you've ever experienced the phenomenon, When it rains, it pours, then you have experienced evidence of the law of attraction in operation. In this case, it is in a negative sense, of course. I think we've all been there at one time or another.
If you have ever had the experience of a "good streak", wherein everything just seems to go right for you during the entire day or week, then you have also experienced it. (Maybe this hasn't happened in a long time...but it probably happened to you at least a few times during your youth).
There is also a wealth of historical evidence in the public record, if you examine the lives of certain famous people.
On the negative side, most of the gothic and early horror writers died in strange or horrid circumstances--Edgar Allan Poe (mysteriously disappeared, later found delirious and dying in the streets, wearing someone else's clothes), Matthew Lewis (plague), Anne Radcliffe (madness), H. P. Lovecraft (wasted away from a cancerous illness, much like his doomed characters), Sheridan LeFanu (madness, visions, and strange feverish illness). Nearly all of these authors spent their careers writing about doomed characters experiencing horrid phenomena, and in the first person. So this seems to be virtual proof of these people manifesting what they were conscious of, what they focused on, and what they wrote about in the physical realm.
In the modern day, we also have the example of Stephen King, who wrote a book called Misery and then experienced an accident and circumstance peculiarly similar to what he wrote about.
If you do some internet research, you can find further examples of famous people who predicted the manner of their deaths (by drugs, suicide, etc.) long before it actually happened. Michael Jackson, Ernest Hemingway, and the actor George Sanders are but a few examples. In this case their firm beliefs in their "doom" or "fate" became a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Hope all that didn't get you down...now onto positive examples.
I've already started a post containing a list of evidence, which I add to from time to time. Here it is:
And this answer, farther down on the same page:
It seems to me as though you’d benefit greatly by redefining your ideas about beliefs, emotions, chance, randomness and luck etcetera. I’ll simply offer a few definitions that I know to be true and helpful, based upon my life experience and leave you to join the dots :)
Everything you currently believe is backed up, in one form or another, by your life experience. This is because the very nature of belief is that it will perpetually bring you evidence of what you most believe to be true until you decide to redefine and believe in something else. There is no reality outside of any reality that you can imagine, define and believe to be reality.
Chance, randomness and luck are leftovers from the outdated mechanical (Newtonian) world view. Everything you experience is caused by vibrational attraction, which is determined by your current core beliefs. Changing your beliefs changes your vibration causing a different reality reflection in the Universal mirror of your life experience.
Your mind consists of two parts, a lower physical mind and a higher non-physical mind or higher self. Your higher self guides you to what will best serve you (based upon what you say you want to experience) through intuition, inspiration and emotional guidance. Your emotions are feedback from your higher self that tell you whether or not your current action will best serve you or not. Good feelings mean yes and bad feelings mean no. Always trust your gut instincts :)
To prove to yourself that emotions are indeed caused by beliefs, consider these two statements:
In the first statement no belief exists, so you probably won’t feel anything. In the second statement, due to your beliefs you’ll probably have a massive emotional reaction or response. The point is that your emotions are always tied to your beliefs, so to change them you have to redefine your beliefs and think different thoughts.
The bottom line to this answer is that if it feels good it is good and if not then it’s not in your best interest to follow that line of thought, word and action. 2013 is about transformation, here we go ♥
answered 03 Jan '13, 21:08
These are not quite examples that being happy is enough, they involve visualization. But I thought the hat story was funny.
The story of the boy:
One afternoon a young grandmother, a business- woman in New York, came to see me. She brought along her nine-year-old grandson, who was visiting her from his home in Pennsylvania. In response to her questions, I explained the law of assumption, describing in detail the procedure to be followed in attaining an objective. The boy sat quietly, apparently absorbed in a small toy truck while I explained to the grandmother the method of assuming the state of consciousness that would be hers were her desire already fulfilled. I told her the story of the soldier in camp who each night fell asleep, imagining himself to be in his own bed in his own home.
When the boy and his grandmother were leav- ing, he looked up at me with great excitement and said, "I know what I want and, now, I know how to get it." Surprised, I asked him what it was he wanted; he told me he had his heart set on a puppy. To this the grandmother vigorously protested, tell- ing the boy that it had been made clear repeatedly that he could not have a dog under any circum- stances . . . that his father and mother would not allow it, that the boy was too young to care for it properly, and furthermore the father had a deep dislike for dogs — he actually hated to have one around.
All these were arguments the boy, passionately desirous of having a dog, refused to understand. "Now I know what to do," he said. "Every night just as I am going off to sleep I am going to pretend that I have a dog and we are going for a walk."
"No," said the grandmother, "that is not what Mr. Neville means. This was not meant for you. You cannot have a dog."
Approximately six weeks later, the grandmother told me what was to her an astonishing story. The boy's desire to own a dog was so intense that he had absorbed all that I had told his grandmother of how to attain one's desire — and he believed implicitly that at last he knew how to get a dog.
Putting this belief into practice, for many nights the boy imagined a dog was lying in his bed beside him. In imagination he petted the dog actually feeling its fur. Things like playing with the dog and taking it for a walk filled his mind.
Within a few weeks it happened. A newspaper in the city in which the boy lived organized a special program in connection with Kindness to Animals Week. All schoolchildren were requested to write an essay on "Why I Would Like to Own a Dog." After entries from all the schools were submitted and judged, the winner of the contest was an- nounced. The very same boy who weeks before in my apartment in New York had told me "Now I know how to get a dog" was the winner. In an elaborate ceremony, which was publicized with stories and pictures in the newspaper, the boy was awarded a beautiful collie puppy.
In relating this story, the grandmother told me that if the boy had been given the money with which to buy a dog, the parents would have refused to do so and would have used it to buy a bond for the boy or put it in the savings bank for him. Fur- thermore, if someone had made the boy a gift of a dog, they would have refused it or given it away. But the dramatic manner in which they boy got the dog, the way he won the city- wide contest, the stories and pictures in the newspaper, the pride of achievement and joy of the boy himself all com- bined to bring about a change of heart in the par- ents, and they found themselves doing that which they never conceived possible — they allowed him to keep the dog.
All this the grandmother explained to me, and she concluded by saying that there was one par- ticular kind of dog on which the boy had set his heart. It was a collie.
It's not the situation that has created the effect [of emotion], it's a core belief that creates the emotion. If you truly believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that dogs will attack you, then your emotions are the effect of your core belief that they will; because if you didn't believe that the dogs would attack you, you would not feel anxious and fearful when you see a dog. Don't pretend that things are Ok, because that's approaching it in a way that denies your belief that still exists. For example, if you went up to a dog saying "well lets see if it attacks me", you're still believing that it will, and will use the attack as confirmation of the current belief.
When you mention evidence, it's like you're saying, you'll believe it when you see it, but this is backwards to how you need to approach it. When you believe, you will see it.
When you mention how things are "backed by history", recognize that every situation is not the situation that happened previously. Your ego can only perceive what might happen based on what has happened. Just because something happened in the past, it does not mean it will happen that way again. You are generating expectation based on past events rather than being open to what is going on NOW.
As far as being happy goes, be happy because you prefer to be, because you can be. Don't make it conditional. Why only allow yourself to be happy when certain circumstances are met?
answered 03 Jan '13, 18:29
"How do I convince myself that I don't have to worry?"
What convinces you that you do? :) I mean that seriously, just think - What has worrying ever done for you that is so good you want to keep doing it?
It doesn't help you, it hurts you, in my opinion. Worrying is just a mental habit that you can replace with another mental habit. Instead of dwelling on what's wrong, simply dwell on what's right.
Worrying will bring more sorrow for you to worry about. Rejoicing will bring more happiness for you to rejoice about.
It's something I've learned very recently - just in the last several months. I have kicked the worry habit - and I've been a professional worrier all my life. I am happier, healthier, and more excited about life than I have ever been before. It really does work wonders. Change your thoughts, and you will change your life.
I encourage you; take the plunge. Trust. Let go. Allow yourself be happy, just for the sake of how very good it feels to be happy, and watch what happens. I believe that your own experience will be all the evidence you will ever need.
Wow - lots of great long answers. For me it was simple. I want to be happy but I have all these goals. The answer is to remember that life is a journey not a destination. Enjoy the journey. All the good and the bad.
Also this helps I seek the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.
For me happiness is a by-product of healthy living and the full acceptance of what is ... Gregg Braden gives a deep explanation of this with these words;
"As we mature in our spiritual understanding, that we are part of everything in the world, and that we are capable of creating in our world, the more we believe that it is possible the less important it becomes to change our reality. When we feel we are powerless the ego most wants to change the things in our world. As we realize we have the power to change our reality the maturity that comes with that understanding changes us, and we find ourselves in acceptance of what is with less desire of feeling our need to change the world around us"
Update 17 jan 2013 - the gist of my answer is that in accepting what is, we see things from a different angle and the question, in this case the "need to convince yourself that being happy is enough", vanishes. bb2
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