Well the title pretty much says it.
I have a huge desire ever since last year to completely change my Life but so far it seems very little has changed. I find it very challenging.
I am 27 years old, and I don't have any friends or people I can talk to (I'm the only child, no siblings), well it's always been like this ever since my freshmen year at college.
As far as relationships goes, just getting a date seems very hard for me. How do I get a date if I don't know anyone? Or how do I even get a date in the first place?
Well, a huge problem is that the lack of social interaction seems to have affected, and is affecting other areas in my Life. I can't never seem to focus on the task at hand. Or a lot of people say that they will just focus on their careers instead and I find it hard to do that. I've taken a couple of tests last year for a programming job and I failed miserably, simply because I couldn't focus and prepare. I really wanted to prepare and do well of course but inside me I did feel very frustrated and lost as to why...things are the way they are. Yes I know I attracted this situation to myself but I definitely didn't do it on purpose, that's for sure.
So basically my primary desire is to make some friends, get some dates and just hangout and have a good time. But because I don't know how to make it happen, and the fact that nothing happens, it makes it hard for me to focus on other things in my Life.
And as far as LOA goes, for the past few months I really wanted to manifest a friend or something (in real life, not internet). So for every month I would set a desire to meet a new person who is a kind enough person to be a good friend. Well so far there has been nothing, I haven't met anyone, I would visualize and feel good, and write new stories and stuff but it hasn't happened yet. So I pretty much just surrendered and gave up. However it's still affecting my ability to focus on more important job-tasks it seems, actually it's more like I could care less about my job-related stuff. I guess being isolated can make a person more and more apathetic.
I would appreciate any advice to make my life match more of what I desire.
Yes I know I have to make peace with where I am, I am trying to do that for the moment as well.
Helping others helps yourself
answered 07 Jan '13, 04:38
Hello Evolutionary High
I have lived through what you are living, in fact things got to a point where i was totally alone, living in a foreign country, no job no future, at this point i turned to stealing just to stay alive ... why? because i felt rejected, i rejected everyone, i felt angry and fearful. In what way did this situation give me pleasure? ... it made me feel strong and fearless ... for me all this is now assimilated.
We all function on the principle of pleasure, whatever we do we always do because it's the best way to feeling alright in a particular situation at a particular point in time ... once you have realized how being lonely, isolated and more and more apathetic serves you, then will have taken the first step in moving onto something better ... so my answer to you is in the form of a question " in what way does this unresponsive attitude give you pleasure ? " ... blu
So you don't like to go outside much? You could stay in your room the whole day? You can quickly point out mistakes in other people? You have a serious issue with Luck and God? Do you feel you are not worthy? How do you sleep at night? How many hours?
Write to me back my friend, I can help you to get over the issue permanently.
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