I have been thinking about this particular topic for some time now. I would like to have better relationships within my family. I have had a kind of falling out with them but i want to take it to a place of harmony, love and acceptance.
I have become better at appreciating my family members. However, I am experiencing a stumbling block. Like I would be thinking about good times spent with someone and how much love, care and adoration I received from them and this would make me feel really good, but, the very next moment I would remember how we are no longer talking and how they must loath and hate me now.
How do I stop stifling my happy moments with beliefs like this? I do also think that more than anything else these are my beliefs about how they must be feeling towards me, though I dont know how to flip it around. Their beliefs about me seem to me 'Real' and I feel hesitancy about trying to change my beliefs about their beliefs, it makes me feel it would not work as I can not change their beliefs and also it feels wrong some how as in I am trying to get them to like me when its not their desire.
I am not trying to change them, but still it feels as if I am trying to when i feel happy by remembering good times. Its this confusion that is causing me discomfort.
I hope you guys would be help me out of this one, all suggestions and insights are so very welcome.
Yesterday , I watched Bashar's Brick Walls Beliefs , here's the link to the first video you'll see the others as you go on , I watched up to and including 13 , they are all around 9 mins duration a few shorter .
I believe these are more than worth the time invested in watching them as you are given a tool to understanding how beliefs have power over us and so to either continue on as is or make new choices .
Once you understand the mechanism it is the open door to freedom , there is no turning back from this knowledge .
My thanks to the fellow member who had the link in another question , I will be eternally gratefull to you my friend for this awesome gift ♥♥♥
answered 20 Jan '13, 21:33
simple move from belief to truth and love,a heart not made of stone(a heart that does not judge) you received love from them what do you give them? to get them to like you,you should like your self first. did i told you the truth? and if they are the one judging they should do the same. if that is the case and they do not want to stop judging and being the darkness and wanting to have the good role and wanting to control everything and blaming you for their own action and making inequity you have free will to still try to help them,make them wake up or tell them you will not see them anny more.i never knew you.
First of all remember that you can't really change anyone. It's an illusion. You cannot even change their desires or beliefs. But you can attract the part of them that feels good to you.
Almost nobody is always friendly or always mean. But you can attract the friendly part (say of your family members) just as the mean part of them. It's your choice to attract what you want through your thoughts.
Recently i wanted to bring my car to an autoshop. So i asked 2 friends of mine if they could recommend one. They both suggested the same autoshop but said that the repairman was very annyoing and choleric. So they warned me. But i decided that i wanted to attract his good self. So i neutralized my prejudices with the sedona method and thought of some positive aspects of him and expected him to be nice and ultra friendly.
There was not the shadow of a doubt in me that he would be anything else than friendly. And actually he was very polite and amusing. We talked and even enjoyed ourselves very much :). I realized that he would talk differently to other people. But to me he was nice. So you see you can always attract the best parts in people.
If you think that your family probably hates you then probably you will attract that hating part of them if there is any. But even if there is any part that hates you, you don't have to attract it. No one is one-dimensional and has just one trait. Choose what part you would like to attract.
Try to change them. Really try it! - You will realize that you can't! You can just attract the part of them that you like.
So here is what i would do. Clear your fears and wants with the sedona method and then think of positive aspects and happy moments with them.
Afterwards keep thinking of happy moments with your family. When there is something negative left, clear it. You can also use Faster EFT instead of the sedona method.
answered 22 Jan '13, 10:59
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