Couple with same beliefs or a couple with opposite beliefs?
What should one do when in a relationship/marriage with a person that has opposite beliefs and really desires to be with someone that understands and believes in the same things?
Is it wrong of me to desire a new mate that I can meditate with, talk about aliens and astral projection with, that understands that there is more then we are aware of and dont just think im crazy lol.
I know variety of belifes in a relationship is good to keep it interesting or just for the contrast lol. But how much of each way is..too much?
Surely a couple with similar beliefs would feel more connected, understanding, fun more as if they are a like, together, two ones that go together...conpared to opposite.
Is is okay to want a mate that has more beliefs alike then unlike?
Thoughts please...Thank you :)
My ex and I had almost nothing in common, and it proved to be the downfall of our relationship. I just could not see what was so fascinating about his machine tool work, and he thought I was nuts for doing things like IQ and Reiki training.
No, you are not nuts for wanting more. The thing is, can you build on what you do have? Can you expand yourselves to each other? In my case, the answer was a resounding, "No!", but for you, it might be salvageable.
Think carefully, and tread softly, especially if you have children. You are asking yourself some good questions. The answers lie in your own heart. I suspect that you would have never asked this question if you did not already have some serious doubts.
answered 21 Mar '13, 19:49
My husband and I are complete opposites in many ways. I tend to be introverted, and he has tons of friends. He couldn't care less about astral projection, reincarnation, meditation, travel, or Inward Quest. And I couldn't care less about the sports pools, softball games or the country music that he is interested in. He is a person of action, and I am sometimes too laid-back. I sometimes have a bad temper, he is calm. I like quiet and he loves to blast sports games on TV.
Who does he turn to when he needs to lower his blood pressure for a doctor's exam? Me! Who do I turn to when the sump pump needs fixing or the tire needs changing? Him! We balance each other out and I love it. Why would I want someone just like myself? That would be boring and one dimensional to me. And we do share some loves....our dogs, our families, baseball, Italian food, and keeping our garden and landscaping looking nice.
I can talk about my interests with my sister, my best friend, my Facebook friends, here at IQ and more. I don't need to share every interest with my husband!
My first husband was much more like me than this one is, and well.....we are divorced after many difficult years. Shared interests aren't a guarantee of happiness often times.
Of course, you would not want to be with someone who ridicules or disrepects your beliefs or interests though; that is another thing altogether. There should be mutual freedom and respect always.
If I had questions about all of this, I would read the Abraham-Hicks material on relationships. This might help with your decisions!
answered 21 Mar '13, 21:26
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