Yesterday I posted a question about my body acne and making peace with it: http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/75149/can-i-manifest-clear-skin-without-making-peace-with-acne-i-have-right-now
Today I've been thinking a lot about it and came to a conclusion that I want to clear my skin so I would feel attractive and I want to feel attractive because I want to flirt with girls, have fun (if you know what I mean :D)... So my question is: How can I feel attractive and attract girls just as I am now? I feel like I'm never gonna clear my skin if I so desperately need it in order to feel attractive. So do you guys have any practical suggestions how can I feel attractive right now (even with a little bit of acne on my back)?
P.S.: Some of you may say something like "it's not a big deal" or "don't worry so much about it" which I completely agree with (intellectually) but emotionally I still deeply believe I'm something less, I'm ugly if I have this acne, no girl will want to touch me as long as I have it etc.
I have a lot of strong emotions regarding this subject (it's been bugging me for a long time) and I think this is a major reason for my depression so as always I'm grateful for any help. :)
My advice is to stop focusing on your looks and focus on other things that makes you happy.
It may not get rid of "acne" or whatever, but at least you'll have more smiles, more laughter, less stress (which COULD reduce acne) and you'll have a more attractive energy.
answered 01 Apr '13, 18:03
I was once told by a very plain, but charismatic woman that the best cosmetic anyone can wear is a smile and a confident attitude.
I think she was right. You have to stop concentrating on your bad qualities, or they will multiply like mushrooms. Instead, smile more! Lots more!
Quit worrying. It will get better with time and lots of water, as Nik has said.
answered 01 Apr '13, 04:11
yes this is excellent advise by @arpgme ... i can totally relate to this... i had an issue but instead started dancing as a hobby... i sort immersed myself in that... and that issue faded out and life changed and i had a new exciting path... this is what Abraham says too... when you have something you cant seem to resolve, and if its too much to reverse that belief at this point in time.. then find something else that gives you joy and just go with that... then everything you need will fall into place...
To answer CalonLan's comments... You say being happy is easy. Yes it is quite simple steps and definitely i agree it is supposed to be very easy and natural. So congrats that its been easy for you.
But i can tell for me i had to learn it. When i was young i was quite happy and even later in life for the most part i was mostly pretty happy but i did not know the right way to get back in at times. I did not have a formula or tools. it was more like by accident since obviously i wanted to be happy it worked on and off.. But i would try to get things from outside to be happy.
But when i hit a low and i found spiritual stuff and law of attraction and was open to it, i experimented and used the techniques and found those worked for me. I also hit couple of lows much earlier in my life and somehow those times i did not find the spiritual way or LOA or the right balance even non-spiritually to deal with it. Why? i dont know. I tried just use my willpower and action to go after it which is totally great but worked only to some extent since i missed certain elements like letting go, being easy etc. So to answer your comment its not because they want to sit around intentionally but its just part of growth and everyone do it in their timeline. And sometimes life will force you to get it right!!
When you are pinched off from a situation and are in deep sorrow at that moment you cant get from that deep sorrow to happiness. It takes some time. What helps during this time which i found is a big piece is not just read things alone - reading is great since it keeps re-enforcing principles of Truth but also to apply the knowledge. I did meditations, did gratitude/magic lists eveyday, found hobbies to give me joy, took it easy and relaxed instead of worrying, etc and then found all this made sense. We all are very unique beings and thats why usually they are various tools and techniques. What works for one may not for the other or they resonate better with some other technique. So this is just a forum to help each other out. and learn things from.
Hi what strikes me timmyy is that you say "i still deeply believe i'm something less, i'm ugly ..." Remember that the law of attraction is always at work, this deep belief is certainly making worse, if not actually creating the acne, so i suggest that you use those strong emotions of yours to inverse the current so to speak. Replace the ugly image by a good looking attractive image. Be reassured no one is really duped by physical beauty, what really counts in relationships is how we feel, and feeling is given by the inner vibration, the inner emotion, beauty is just skin deep. Sure we can be temporarily bowled over by a beautiful person but that's just animal attraction and the ego talking, ego has no place in real love.
Here's a text and image that allows your inner glow to shine through, whenever you doubt say these words and imagine the picture;
Everytime i think of you i feel the intensity of loving, like you never could imagine. What i want more than anything is to hold you in my arms and tell you how much i love you and how much i want you in my life.
answered 01 Apr '13, 03:05
From your question, it seems that you already understand that it is all about how you feel because your physical reality will just change to match how you feel. But, I would also like to give you my perspective on things below.
First of all, I think looks are overrated a bit because ultimately, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. The nature of my job is such that I work at different clients with different new colleagues all the time. And, I often work with young men who at first sight, I would say are quite handsome. But, in most cases, as soon as I start to talk to them, their physical beauty just suddently vanishes because I realise that they have no personality at all whatsoever and no depth of character, basically, nothing else really going for them apart from physical beauty and that is not attractive at all. So, my personal opinion is that the person you are counts a lot more than you think in terms of appealing to women.
You have this insecurity about your looks at the moment in relation to attracting women. It seems to me that this just comes from a general feeling of not being good enough. My point being that even if you manage to get rid of your acne and feel attractive, it is likely you will then manifest something else to feel insecure about in relation to attracting women.
So, you really need to make peace with who you are as a person and be more accepting of yourself as I am sure you have a lot going for yourself that you don't even realise.
answered 03 Apr '13, 09:16
Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are: Amy Cuddy. In an emotional part of this talk she stresses that you "Fake till you make it ".about 15 minutes into the video
and coming from a former pizza face myself ..If someone really likes you .It will be the YOU that's inside not the gift wrapping of the exterior you. Spinning a little more on @Jai answer, confidence is a very unrelenting force. and the more you fake it the easier it will be to make it.
answered 02 Apr '13, 03:10
I once met a teacher, and she wasn't good looking or fine. She told the class that so many people were surprised when she acted so confident and chirpy because they would expect a person like her to be all shy. I didn't think much at first impression, but as soon as I got to know her better, I realized she was a funny person and cool to listen to. People were attracted to her because of her way of being. I used to think I was ugly (and I still do) but I got closer to the All mighty, and I realized that "But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”' 1 Samuel 16:7. (He was talking about choosing a king over Israel in ancient times.) Think about it this way, if a girl thinks you have to please her because she has a nice butt or a cute face, do you think she's right?. Do you want your confidence to come from your looks? Or from your heart without needing anything external? "5 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? 26 Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?" Luke 12:25-26. Brother believe me, get closer to the All Mighty and the Lord Jesus and He'll change you inside out.
answered 05 Apr '13, 01:21
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