And yes, I mean a younger body. The thought that I am growing older makes me terrified of wasting time, which makes me anxious about whatever I am spending my time on, and it also makes me have an extremely short "time preference". Even something like going to college seems like an absurdly long investment that is just not worth making. I have debts that cost 6% a month in interest and I can't feel it in me that it's worth paying them off. I cannot see myself as a 30 year old and that is just a couple of years away. And that is 30, not even 40, 50 or 60. When I remember that I am growing older, everything that once gave me joy loses all value, it either becomes grey or outright hurts. The only thing that makes me feel good is youth and I don't care about anything at all if I can't have that.
asked 11 Apr '13, 20:01
Age 20-21 was a milestone for me. I realized I was now a legally responsible adult.
My best friend had decided that all life, for him, would be over at 26. He consistently mentioned that he was going to suicide on his 26th birthday because it would all be "downhill" for him after that birthday. We lost touch when he was in his mid-50s, but he was still going strong.
Age 30 another milestone for me, but a bigger one was 33. I thought about how much Christ had accomplished by that age and how little I had, comparatively, accomplished.
But the financial basis I was growing was beginning to bear fruit.
Age 40. Personal power was dramatically increasing.
Age 50. Felt an additional boost, after that birthday. Mature ability and power continuing to grow. After a few starts, found the relationship of my dreams. Still going strong. After four previous marriages, kept looking and found her. We have now been married for longer than the total of the first four.
Age 60. Stronger yet with the additional benefit of "not giving a crap about what other people thought." Hadn't cared a lot before that age, but by then it was solidified and consolidated.
Facing age 70. Great physical condition. Doctor 25 years younger than me told me I was "disgustingly normal," and in better shape than him
Yesterday loaded 2500 pounds of roofing tar in 50 pound pails. Felt good. Today will drive my completely restored 1956 Cadillac Coupe de Ville to the chiropractor. Might drive my 1959 Cadillac convertible instead. Ah, the difficult decisions!
Not bad for a kid that grew up on a farm with a four room house, a coal stove for heat and an outhouse. I also had serious bronchitis and almost died from complications that led to pneumonia.
As a child, we were given a school assignment of what we expected to be, to have as an adult. My paper was about a 50 year old Bill. Though I listed only about 1/3 of the things I have accomplished, my teacher turned the paper back to me and told me to rewrite it. She said that she was not interested in "fantasy" but wanted me to be "realistic," or I was going to get an "F" on the paper. How could a sickly child from a dirt-poor family even think about these accomplishments?
I handed it back to her and told her, "I am going to do and be these things. I am not giving up on my dreams." I got an "F". Since I had never gotten below a "C+" on anything before, I showed my paper to my mother, and told her what had happened.
She completely supported me. Though she never said so, I think she had a talk with that teacher because the teacher's attitude changed. I still got the "F" but I really did not care. I had my dream and I knew that seed would grow. It did.
I appreciate that you keep coming back and asking for answers. Also that you do explore the responses given by other IQ Members. You are trying and I honor that persistence. It is the hallmark of all great people.
The seeds you are planting are growing. You will certainly have the joy you wish and whatever manifestations you desire.
Maybe some of the suggestions given here will help. Maybe you will create powerful techniques that will not only help you, but many others.
For now, my wife and I will continue to see those seeds unfolding in you. Will continue to see you as a powerful man unfolding in joy. The joy that you came here to experience. The Joy that is yours. A tall man with great skin!
Happy Birthday @flowsurfer and many more.
answered 12 Apr '13, 08:43
Aha! Now we have the crux of the problem laid out before us...Aging, approaching thirty...What to do? What to do?
Darling, I wish with all my heart that I was twenty-something once again. It would be wonderful!
Why did God design such a world that all upon it seem to be on a conveyor belt of time? All heading towards...
If I became twenty-seven again, here is what I would have to give back to Life. Here is what I would have to return to time:
Do you see? You trade your youth for love. You trade your youth for experience. You trade your youth for accomplishments, and most of all, you learn to live God's Will and not your own.
Surfer dude, it's time to say so long to your childhood and become a man.
You will not be sorry you did it. Not at all.
Hi flowsurfer, i consider this question to be about "fear", the bit about "how do i grow younger" is just an extension.
Having said that, fear is a learned emotion, we are not born with fear, it is something that we learn by experience, thus it can be unlearned. It's as if you have built a carapace around yourself to protect yourself from your own inner fears, and it's stifling in there.
There are of course authentic fears, in the case of real physical danger we can experience legitimate fear that dissipates once the danger is gone.
The greatest fear for most people is death and the desire to grow younger is a way of delaying it. Life, if we describe it as being the period between birth and death is our most precious "possession", however "life" cannot be isolated and put into a bottle for all to see, it is that indefinable quality that manifests itself spontaneously.So we cannot possess it, life is not ours to possess, we can only wonder. All attachment is source of pain, life then becomes a learning process during which we learn to let go of it, through unconditional love.
I love lists they assist me in remembering the essential points, here is a short list of how to overcome fear;
1 Analyse your fear - recognize your fear it's the first step towards controlling it - describe what your fear is all about that way you put it in a container - imagine the outcome when you conquer the fear.
2 Take control - expose yourself to small doses of your fear - meet your fear head on - persevere in beating it.
3 Change your way of seeing things - see it as an interesting opportunity to progress.
4 Allow yourself to face fearful situations and celebrate your victories over fear.
"The best way to conquer fear is to consciously move toward the feeling and breathe. As you do this the fear dissolves. Fear is just a feeling; it cannot hurt you. Don't be afraid of your feelings. Just continue to feel and move forward." quote - Christine Day.
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answered 12 Apr '13, 19:26
I am not old,I was just born a long time ago. Getting old is a state of mind that you base on time. You know about living in the NOW. It's been talked about here before. Have you read the book yet? (The power of Now) . Your never going to be older than you are right now. It's that Ego based fear of the future, that drives these questions and your fears.
Please relax, open your mind, turn off the ego defenses and listen to the 2 clips. Read the book or I think even better listen to the audio book. Do some searches on YouTube ,Power of Now and Tolle's discussions.
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