My counselor suggested this week that I really get a handle on how I manage my migraines. They have gotten worse as I have grown older, and have turned into what is called "basilar migraines"- they come from my brain stem, and render me blind for up to a day or more. My pain has ramped up, too, and is absolutely unbearable. I cannot have any narcotics to control this pain, so I must come up with other solutions. I also cannot have anything like Imitrex because it would shut down my brain stem- not cool. So there really is nothing I can take except for medicine to keep me from constantly throwing up.
The biggest problem is my discouragement. My headaches wreck not only my days, but Wade's, too. This upsets me. I need to really teach myself how to cope with massive pain, and also the feelings that I would like to die when I have this pain.
I am just being honest here. I really need your help with this. Suggestions?
Thank you in advance,
This is a picture of what my last headache felt like.
If you copy the picture, please give credit to Jaianniah- Thanks!
On the surface, I would like to tell you that every time I get a migraine.....and I only get one or two per year.....it is after an outing or sports event when I have not had water to drink for many hours. So for me, they are from dehydration every time. If I don't catch this and nip it in the bud they will go on for a couple of days, so needless to say I avoid this as much as I can. You also need to retain the water you drink by making sure you get enough minerals like calcium, mangesium and especially potassium (bananas, yogurt, or supplements). This works like magic for me in preventing migraines and when I have mentioned it to others it has helped them too. Everyone is different, so try this and see if it helps. I see that ELE wrote about that as well, and I wanted to reinforce that it really does help a lot of people.
The second layer of my answer (sorry, Jai, I have a tiered response today!) is trying affirmations. You would have to be persistent until this becomes a part of your daily thinking. Something like this, "I am never sick or in pain for more than a couple of hours. Thankfully I enjoy perfect health!" You would need to repeat it every morning and never forget. After awhile it does work. I had to repeat it about a million times until it sunk in but even at 53 I am really healthy and when something comes up it is only short-lived. I even believe I get inspired answers to any health problems so that I can combat them easily, like the above case of the migraines. I easily noticed the solution so that I could avoid them.
The third suggestion, probably a dumb one since you have already posted this question, is to avoid talking about the problem, mentioning it, asking about it, or in any way giving power to it. A Navajo friend taught me this and it helps! And if you absoutely HAVE to talk about it, do not say "my headaches, or my migraines really hurt"....avoid the term "MY" and thus deny ownership of it. Instead, say "migraines".
Best wishes in avoiding the headaches. (notice I didn't say "your headaches! LOL)
answered 13 Apr '13, 10:23
Jai, i certainly agree with Snow when he says headaches are linked with chronic stress that you're internalizing and not finding appropriate methods of venting the energy.
As you most certainly know there are two principle energies flowing through our bodies, that i prefer to name the yin and the yang. It seems to me that you're a highly intuitive and introverted person which would suggest that you have an excess of yin energy which is corroborated by your drawing.
For me your picture depicts a central white spot of yang energy smothered by a knotted mass of yin energy, it's no wonder that you suffer from migraines, the yang energy needs to express itself.
Your stresses are probably deep rooted and to liberate these pent up energies suggests doing things counter intuitive, here is an article that may give you a few new ideas;
answered 12 Apr '13, 03:36
A Naturopathic Doctor might have some herbal remedies for you to try. They might have insight as to what is causing it. You may have a defficiency or something.
As far as transcending the pain, I wish I could say that I have transcended pain, but I cannot. I am familiar with pain though. What I find to help me are a few different things. Two Hands Touching really helps to get through things. For example, my SI joint was out and I could barely walk, so I went to the chiropractor. I couldn't even lie down on the table and it was reactive to the touch. He said that the muscles were too tight, that he couldn't adjust me, to go home and take muscle relaxers for a few days and come back. I knew that the situation would only get worse, as this has happened before, several times since I fell. So I was not leaving there without an adjustment. I pressed my hands together and put all my focus on my hands touching, and laid myself down and he adjusted me. I kept my hands together as I moved so he could get other spots. Then he said, "Uh oh, I need you to move your hands, are you going to be able?" So I said, "That's OK, I'll feel my arms." So he got everything. I asked him if he could feel the muscles relax when I didn that and he said, "Well, I wasn't going to be able to adjust you before." So it may get you through something.
Also, it is vital to watch your thoughts and your focus. When I catch myself miserating, or focussing on what I don't want, I switch to thinking of what I appreciate instead. Sometime THT helps with that also.
Find things you enjoy doing that takes your mind off the pain. Like your paintings. I think I remember you saying that you didn't feel the headache when you were painting. I guess it would be difficult if you were already to the point of not being able to see. If that happens, use your imagination, and visualize yourself painting.
Ask your doctor about taking cinnamon for the diabetes. Cinnamon normalizes the blood sugar. Make sure you are getting enough vitamin D. You may want to get your vit D levels checked.
And when I think of the pain being so bad that I just want to die, I realize that 1. I don't want to attract more tragedy with that thought and 2. My son needs me to get better and be here for him.
I might sound very "self-centered" sometimes but here is the thing. I used to see so much suffering in the world and have the desire to make things better until it just overwhelmed me how powerless I am. I cannot save six billion people from suffering; I cannot save even a single person in this world. They speak of modern medicine saving lives but a billionaire with the best medical care that money can provide still dies, and I have seen the very rich dying and they suffer just as much if not more so than the poor.
How can I tell someone that everything is fine when I can't prove it to myself? How can I tell them there is a point when I can't see it? How can I tell them that God loves them and not feel like a fraud afterwards when I doubt that love? Unless I know that everything is alright and life is not as dark as it seems, I can't even comfort anyone. But I can only know this from my personal experience of the relationship between me and God. All else is vanity. All the so-called virtues of man are nothing but vanity. Kindness, compassion, intelligence, wisdom, strength, they are all vanity.
If God loves, God loves us all, because there is nothing any one of us can do to be more or less worthy of his love, because we are powerless. We depend on God for our very breath. God is a slave to us because he has to constantly sustain us and there is nothing we can give him in return. We have absolutely nothing to offer God. Why would God create and enslave himself to us if not out of love? And if God loves, God loves me. And if God loves me, God loves you, and I am free of the illusion of thinking I have to be, or even can be, your savior. I see others suffer but I cannot focus on that suffering because it is not my job to save others. If God loves us, we don't need to be saved, we are already saved. God gave himself to us and God is all that is.
Otherwise, there is no salvation. I don't know the answer to your problem. I only know that you are either saved and therefore don't need me to give you an answer; or lost and therefore there is no answer. You do not depend on me or any other human being.
I know how it is, and I feel for you. Migraines can take over your life. I'm on a quest to find my own personal root cause for them, but in the meantime, I use accupressure on my hand. It's a point on the web between thumb and forefinger.
You have to catch it very early on in the migraine, at the first sign of visual disturbance. Press around that area firmly, til you sense the most effective point. It's hard to describe how you will know, but you will feel it. Then you just massage at that point and keep on it till you feel some relief - something sort of shifts.
This has not always stopped the migraines in their tracks, but it has weakened their strength and can interrupt what I call a "swarm" or a "season" of migraines.
answered 19 Apr '13, 22:56
good post , this is soo much more common than any of us think. What pain are you in ? you didn't share that, the fight is to continue through life with a heart, so many things are pulling our attention to this and that ;that we feel overwelmed <--<< this is normal . I was sharing this thought with my popz today .The bottom line is to have people in your corner that honestly care about your well being. My popz is the hard type in a good way far as getting things done solo , he described his child hood to me and I understand a bit more of why he is who he is. At the same time he is now reaching out to those that he neglected in his youth , these people are family members . There wasn't any beef between them he just did what he had to do and there relationships suffered, I can say that he is in a better place . I'm happy for my popz .
answered 01 May '13, 10:41
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