Does natural control over one's thoughts simply grow from dedication to the process and eventually not require conscious action? Or is there more to the story of opening up one's mastery of their own mind?
I ask because my Id is a monster and my Super-Ego is to the farthest reaches of space what the clouds are to the center of the Earth. (Hope that last part made sense.) I am fine with both of these and embrace them joyfully when I'm by myself, but around others I am more comfortable when I'm able to somewhat restrain my more primal instincts and impulses. I don't mind being a space case or a dreamer around others though, they laugh for better or for worse and I smile, works for me.
Don't try to control your thoughts. Treat them like the clouds in the sky..just let them come and go.
By trying to control them you actually strengthen that which you don't want...where attention goes energy flows.
By watching and allowing them to come and go or just questioning them "can I know for sure this is absolutely true?", awareness itself grows and the thoughts you don't want eventually become disarmed and stop arising
And, with enough awareness, any accompanying dysfunctional behaviours begin to drop away all by themselves.
Edit Mon Apr 15
I'm adding this here in response to Popi's comment.
As Snow rightly pointed out...it's not about ignoring the thoughts but merely 'watching' them, they really do just come and go when we don't add any meaning to them. The thoughts that serve you you'll obviously want to engage your attention with. However those that don't serve your well being ( in other words negative thoughts if they're persistent and you can't merely 'watch' them) by all means question them.By doing this those negative thoughts become disarmed and come calling less and less, and more importantly the emotions cease to be engaged... no longer creating a negative feedback loop.
I think Releaser99 posted some links for The Work by Byron Katie which is a wonderful process for doing just that.
Curiosity is a wonderful thing and the process of self inquiry will take you much further than any self help book. The answers are all within yourself and knowing how your own mind works is the only real key to evolving. Hope that helps :)
Here is a spiritual dynamics newsletter "Be Your Own Authority by Owen K Waters", that clearly explains that once the human mind is free to think for itself, expansion of consciousness can be gained through concentration, reflection and meditation;
"In the 1960s, parents and teachers complained that the younger generation had less respect for authority than they did when they were that age. In the 1980s, parents and teachers complained that the younger generation had less respect for authority than they did when they were that age. In the 2000s, well, you get the picture. Every generation has progressed more in the same direction because The Shift is dissolving the old habit of submission to authority.
Traditionally, organizations were run on hierarchies of authority. In order to work within a hierarchy, you were expected to surrender your willingness to think for yourself and, instead, obey orders without question. Human creativity was suppressed while such a structure encouraged people to be closed-minded when exposed to any new information or ideas.
People with open minds, on the other hand, can think for themselves and therefore become their own authorities. Being open to new ideas, they can awaken to creative, new solutions to challenges in their work and in their lives.
Once the human mind is free to think for itself, these new ideas and solutions can be gained from the three main stages of focused conscious awareness. These are:
Like all skills, meditation requires regular practice in order to become truly effective. A sudden crisis in life can upset a beginner's attempts to find a deep level of awareness. An experienced meditator, however, will have gained the experience to be able to bypass the emotional turbulence and still reach the desired, deep levels of insight in order to find the most elegant solution.
It is very simple to become an experienced meditator. Make meditation your number one priority, each and every day. The Spiritualize technique is one of many meditation techniques you can use, and it is a very powerful one. It can be found at:
As we pass through The Shift into the New Reality, we are learning to apply self-empowerment to all facets of life. Self-education and reflection mean that you can rely upon your own perceptions about what is best for you.
Traditionally, the medical establishment has been the authority on what is best for your health. That is currently being replaced by self-education in nutrition and "alternative," or natural, health care.
Religious authorities are becoming ignored in favor of spiritual self-education. Political authorities have been in a crisis of mistrust for so many years that it will take a complete revival of standards and ethics to salvage the value of political representation.
When it comes to matters of authority, remember: It is better to be your own authority than to follow the crowd, wherever that crowd is being led.
Within you is all the insight you ever need to reach wise decisions about every challenge that you ever face. No one on the planet knows more than you about your needs, your situation and your potential to find joy in all of the aspects of your life.
Basically, it all comes down to these four words:
Be your own authority."
answered 14 Apr '13, 05:02
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
answered 14 Apr '13, 04:16
You are were your thoughts are , life is a state of mind. EVERYONE deals with pressure differently. Shit happens, everyone cleans up different, but you must clean up.
answered 14 Apr '13, 10:55
Popi Bearcat Gibson
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