My wife and I spend 24 hours a day, seven days a week together. We are very close and we like it. We like the same things and enjoy being with each other.
But she lives in a different, sometimes better universe.
I have mentioned before a scene when visiting her in-laws. Her sister smokes one cigarette after another. It is hard for us to be around her smoke. We wheeze and gasp. Yet I saw Anne sitting close to her sister and carrying on a lengthy conversation. The room was so full of smoke that I could not enter, yet Anne was unaffected.
Later, I asked her how she was able to be so close to her sister's cigarette smoke. Anne looked at me wide-eyed and firmly said, "She was not smoking!" I experienced her smoking, but Anne did not. Anne experienced no discomfort. And this went far beyond denial.
In my universe, her sister was lighting one after another. In Anne's universe she was not smoking -- until I pointed it out and then, later, Anne was not able to be around her sister and her smoke.
I think that I shifted Anne's universe in a negative way.
Another example. We have several small spaniels that we adore. They have free run of our home and usually use the doggie door to go outside when they need to pee or poop.
Yet recently one of them has taken to pooping in our bedroom. As I am going to bed, I step in it. Barefooted. I turn on the lights, clean it up. Wash my foot and do some complaining. Yeah, I guess I am creating dog poop! I was not expecting it in the beginning and am trying to think about other, better things when going to bed, but boom! It happens again.
My Anne has never stepped in it even though she follows the same path into the bedroom as me. Well, never stepped in it until I began getting mad about me stepping in the poop.
Am I creating dog poop and smoking sisters in Anne's universe?
I think that, in many ways, she is better than me in maintaining a happy universe. So I carry a small flashllight and quietly pick up the poop, but it is still, too often there.
A final example, though there are many more. She is driving. I am in the passenger seat. She goes through a yellow traffic caution light for which she could have stopped. I cringe because in Georgia, going through a yellow/amber traffic light can get you a ticket and many of the lights have video cameras and later, you get a ticket in the mail.
In warning her about this, she responds, "It was only a yellow light. If it had been red, I would have stopped!" Yeah, I am a backseat driver..... But I am trying to help!
In her universe it is ok to run a yellow light, but not in mine. She is a very good and safe driver. Always obeys the other traffic laws.
Does my trying to caution her, to point out unhappy things (in my universe) cause her universe to have dog poop? Smoking sisters? Traffic tickets?
Am I manifesting dog poop where it does not need to be?
EDITED ADDITION @Nikulas - while I appreciate the humor associated with the responses, further clarification is requested. As our lives intersect with each other, we have differing perspectives. Some feel better than others. Ignoring some may cause bad feelings.
From my perspective going through a yellow light equals strong possibility of getting a traffic ticket. But in Anne's universe, she does not see this as a possibility. She has never gotten a ticket for going through a yellow light. I have.
Her universe = no tickets My universe = getting a ticket
She is happy in her universe going through a yellow light. So, do I "warn" her about an event that does not seem to have relevance in her universe? And thereby make it a possibility that she does get a ticket? Obviously we do both agree on not going through a red light, but here is a grey, or yellow area.
I am asking for responses to the overall question, not about yellow lights and dog poop.
Let me try to state it more simply: Anne has a reality from her standpoint that works for her. Where, at what point do I have the right or responsibility to try to alter her reality?
Yes Dollar, dogs are spiritual beings just like us and mirror the image of their masters
your dog is surely saying
"wuf, follow the path of duality and you'll always come across shit, wuf"
answered 02 Jun '13, 02:39
Two people can share a physical reality and have the same physical props.
All those physical props do is serve as tools to pinpoint what belief systems you hold onto. The physical props allow you to experience joy equally as much as frustration, like stepping in dog poop. An actor can use a prop in whatever way they desire, as a human can experience a physical event in whatever way they desire.
As well as belief systems, I feel is comes down to your accustomed emotional fixed range.
One of my many jobs deals with customer service. Whilst all I encounter is happy, friendly and interesting customers, I find it very amazing how other staff members encounter quite the opposite; rude, unfriendly, no manner style people who piss off the staff. The interesting thing is that we work in the same environment, and sometimes its funny how the perceived 'bad' customers they deal with are the exact same 'good' customer I deal with. When it comes to interacting with other people you only attract behaviour out of them that resonates with your beliefs and/ or current emotional set point (the behaviuour is actually irelevant. Its how that behaviour makes you feel). I am aware of this because sometimes the other staff will tell me about their experience with, what the would define, as rude customers. The customers aren't concretely born rude, but they will absolutly operate in a seemingly such way that the staff member views them to be.
Likewise, sometimes they are shocked as to how I never have an issue with any customer; again, quite the opposite. As a quick story several of the customers have actually offered me jobs leading to higher income growth because they resonate rapport and strong bonding with me; the exact same ones that piss off other staff.
So I would just ask, "how does stepping in dog poop make me feel?" Often that feeling and circumstance is joint a beacon directing you to other things in your life that make you feel that way. The solution is to clear them up, find solutions and be on your way. Belief changing usually happens in the process.
So yes, you are most certainly manifesting dog poop where it need not be. And yes, even if its so unbelievable how another person can live in the same house and life an entire different life.
Please ask for more clarification if need be Dollar Bill <3 xx
If it is in your belief system that going through an orange light will give you a ticket (or you have a high risk associated with getting the ticket) then your belief system will construct that reality for you, and yes, you will get caught.
What I can point out here is the feeling- correct me if I'm wrong, but you would feel a strong repulsive emotion somewhere in your body that is telling you not to go through the light.
Your wife, on the other hand, lives by different belief systems (however she managed to pick them up is irrelevant to the question) and thus can do the identical action and get different results. It may sound astonishingly hard to swallow, but this is true. This is how, thanks to LOA, strange coincidences can occur in explicit synchornicity or lacking of immediate physical logic for things to occur the way they do.
You see this all the time when it comes to food, as in one person can eat a certain food and get certain results from it, whilst another will eat the same food and get completely different results. Really it stems down to initial belief properties associated with the selected food.
So, should you warn your wife about an incident as such, and how do you go about it?
I would still warn her. You're only explaining to her your belief system, and if it's within her belief system (to any degree) she will listen to what you are saying and probably slow down at the orange light when you warn her.
However, if it's certainly not in her belief system whatsoever, she won't buy into it and thus won't probably even hear you. I'm sure she listens to you in the style of manner "yeah yeah, whatever..." There is not much you can do, nor do I even feel there is anything you should do. What for? You two may both be in a monogomous relationship, but at the end of the day everyone has their own belief systems and it's probably within your best interests to just let them be.
Does than answer your question? I'm not trying to answer your specific taffic light/dog poop problem but I did need to use an example to scaffold my ideas around. Again, Im more than happy to ellorate :)
You are creating the dog poop for the Anne that is in your reality. There is also an Anne in another reality who is not experiencing the dog poop. There is also a reality where Dollar Bill doesn't experience dog poop either. If you change your emotional response, you will change the reality that you perceive or experience.
Edit per your edit. Very good question. I wonder that myself in raising a son. The Bible says not to put anything evil in front of your eyes. Some churches interpret that to mean to not watch TV. The Bible sayings have more than one meaning. I think one meaning of that is not to look at what might go wrong. On that note, it is different to tell someone learning to cook, not to touch the hot stove, because people could get burned if they touch hot stuff, than to tell them a whole story about you or someone you know got burned with all the details. So a warning without extracting an emotional response would not cause them to attract the situation being warned of.
Dollar Bill you and Dollar Ann need to work together and manifest a rolled up news paper! Loosely rolled, it is sound and feeling not pain.
One bad dog wallop and problem solved. I know dogs, we (my, mom, dad and I) had a few growing up.
The horse whisperer knows horses, I know dogs. :-)
@dollar bill for the cigarette your wife might be used to her sister smoking so it does not bother her or she endure it to keep the peace. are you able to keep the peace? And is your sister able to keep the peace? why not open a window And solve the problem that way the peace will be made and your wife and you will not have to suffer and your sister will be respected in her choice. As for the Dog complaining will not change anything, Did you open the door for the dog so he can go outside and did you not give him food for night time so he will not poop in the house? if you did all this and the dog still poop in the house take the dog by the skin of the neck like the mother of the dog would do shake left to right saying no putting is nose in it and send him outside. If the dog usely do not do this then something changed is it you or the dog? If it is the dog he might be sick or have eat something that does not suit him. The dog is your responsibility and is imparted to you so that you take care of him. when you talk to the dog keep it short yes, no, sit etc... if you give the dog a speech in the dog mind it is like this (?). As for the yellow traffic light it is saying to you that it is going to turn red and you should stop if you are able to. If you do not have the time to stop you should pass it. Do you judge that your wife add the time to stop? If you would be driving would you have the time to stop? at 50 km per hour you need 12 meter to stop the car + reaction time that vary from one person to the other between 1 to 5 second that will give you even more distance.1 second at 50 km per hour is 13.8 meter per second.so at 1 second it gives you 25.8 meter needed to stop at traffic light and at 5 second 91 meter. and the more someone is preoccupied or stressed the more long is the reaction time. I will leave it to your discernement to do the right things.
Let there be light, Be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.
wow, i dont know, really? I mean really, really? wow, i just dont know. Hmmm, well no, i just dont know
answered 02 Jun '13, 15:24
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