My boyfriend has had a very rough life, born into a cult where he was not only abused spiritually, but sexually also. The after effects of spiritual and sexual abuse has taken a dramatic toll on his life, understandingly so.
The programming the cult has done, has deeply confused, pained and made him feel nothing but guilt, shame, fear, confusion and pulled in painful directions. His family and father, who died a year ago, are all part of the cult.
To make matters worse, the cult covered up sexual abuse and put him in blame and are now totally manipulating the situation by his vulnerability and are hooking him in with his father's death, stating he will never see his father again until he joins them once again.
There is overwhelming evidence of the lies of this cult, yet their followers are manipulated into any further research outside of the cult's publications, being installed with fear and being told if they research such things, they are turning their backs on God, joining in with Satan, and will be forever destroyed with no chance of resurrection.
My boyfriend is no longer allowed to speak with me even through email. If I attempt to show him all the lies they are hiding from their followers, then I am considered a "tool of Satan's" by this cult and they have been programmed to shun such individuals.
This is all beyond insane and dangerous to me. I am deeply pained and afraid for him and his well being.
Here is where the conflict arises: He was brainwashed and programmed with all of this since he was born. Although he left for a long time, the programming is still within his mind.
I am not a Christian or part of any religious organization. Although, I do appreciate Christs' teachings, however I have different view points of what he really meant.
Am I allowed to pray or manifest using the laws of attraction to get him out of this whole mess?
Some may argue that it is ultimately up to his free will that is pulling him towards the direction of the cult, yet is it really?
I mean, when you have been born into a cult that has brainwashed you and caused serious mental, emotional, spritual, sexual and physical anguish and danger, then how has it ever been your free will when it is the programming pulling you there and not your own clear thoughts.
If I can pray or manifest the outcome for his wellbeing of getting the heck out of the cult, how do I do this?
Thank you in advance!
Hi Mina When you pray & manifest a desired outcome, it does not mean that you do so as a replacement to your prior efforts.
In other words, suppose that you have tried all methods available to you to help your boyfriend and after giving up on these efforts you have chosen to use the prayer and attraction approach as a last resort; well guess what, prayer and attraction exercises will only clarify your preference within the unlimited and unmanifest potential within reality
It won't suddenly snap your boyfriend out of his beliefs without your continued intention and actions (physical actions) that send a clear message to the universe and the creator that you intend to do work towards accomplishing your desired goal.
You still have to do what you have always done, but in your mind you have to shift from a position of ambiguity to a position of clear vision and intention. With this shift, your own consciousness, now because you have given it a clear guidance of vision, will guide you towards what actions you must take that will get you towards your intended goal of vision in your mind.
If you act with the vision "I hope I can convince my boyfriend to leave this cult" you have already allowed a wide choice of outcomes that may not represent your preference.
You have to continue what you do with the vision "God I thank you for guiding me and my actions towards rescuing my boyfriend" making sure that the accompanying vision is where what you want has already happened. Furthermore, since you have mentioned that you are not necessarily practicing a particular religion you can envision the guidance in any manner you want, always making sure that the intention is and action of love and caring on your part.
The important part is that you are always seeing the success of your actions in your mind, for that is your intended outcome and the very reason to take action in the first place. With this clarity of intention within you, you will find that you may change your approach and strategy of action.
After all this what you want may still not come about, if your boyfriend has chosen to exercise his free will to stay.
Remember that we are all brainwashed with the ideas that we live by. We are brainwashed into believing that our point of view is what's best for society, and the cult that your boyfriend is in, definitely is giving him his opinions as well, giving him the illusion that he is free to choose his bondage to the ideas that reign over his free will.
There is no difference between the power of the ideas that control your boyfriend or the power of the ideas that control you. Ultimately they are ideas that have materialized into actualized reality, within which we cast our free will as dice in a theater of life.
In this theater of life, being the hero that rides in on the white horse is obviously more rewarding and enjoyable that playing the character that crawls in the darkness in the cellar, but a lesson of contrast and reward is learned only in the existence of both extremes.
What I'm trying to say is that bad things will always be a choice available to us human beings in this reality of choice and free will.
You character is the loving fair maiden that is trying to rescue her lost prince, who is hopelessly lost in an evil forest. Your princes future in the play is defined by the power of the love of his beautiful future bride shining a light of hope through the trees of this dark forest, always believing that this light of love will guide this lost prince back to safety and happiness. But the choice is his to make. If the light of love stops shining, the choice is already made for the prince, for there is nothing to guide him out, and there is no reward. So the young maiden has to keep shining the light and not lose hope.
But then she logs on to Inward Quest and decides to use the law of attraction and prayer to give her an added advantage. Will it work? well that's the ultimate test of the power of choice isn't it? Can she influence her prince's power to choose?
Here's what I know. Ultimately Love wins over any other power out there. Cults are not very good at providing love, the kind of love where you feel like you are loved and accepted for who you are. The first thing that a cult does is to take that love away from you. But love that you have for him can reach beyond the distance of space. It can reach into the heart very quietly even if there is a distance in-between. If you are sincere in your desire to help him and you do it with love, and with the vision that you are being assisted by the universe, it can definitely creep into his consciousness, especially if there is an absence of this kind of caring within the cult.
Along with this constant vision, you must also act in every way possible, that the universe may suggest to you in the form of thoughts, ideas, conversations, and just plain frustration(at times).
Do everything you can, and you will have no regret Either way you will feel good about your self, and will be in control.
(of-course, I could have condensed my answer to your question to just one word... "Yes")
answered 02 Oct '10, 01:28
Beloved, first you must understand that it is your boyfriend's grief over his father's passing that pushed him back into that familiar environment. In your place I would be the same loving person I always am, let him know of my love, support, and how I'll be there for him if and whenever he needs me. I wouldn't get into any conflict with his group or try to prove them wrong, but rather ask them kindly to take care of him. Realize that although this group is driven by fear, they mean well and they're mainly good people.
Once you've done this, relax, try to imagine your boyfriend and pray "please God guide (here imagine a white light shining from within his head) protect (here imagine a white light forming a shield all around him) and heal (here imagine a white light coming from heaven, entering through the top of his head and filling him all up) him according to his will." Tell the image of your boyfriend "I love you" and imagine kissing him on the forehead, then say "thank you."
This is a very powerful prayer, repeat it as needed. In the unseen, where God works, we're all connected, so your boyfriend will be made aware of your message of love and healing. The rest is up to him and his free will which we're not allowed to meddle with (those who do end up paying a heavy price for it whether they're aware of it or not.)
Best of all,keep on imagining him coming happily back to you and how wonderful it feels the two of you together. Stay positive and optimistic, and know all is well and will be well.
thank you, I love you
answered 01 Oct '10, 08:16
I love how my daily qoute always fit in.
The idea of the crushed cult came to mind as I read the answers and comments. Manifest this cult crushed ,exposed the members brought out of the dark and in to the light and the "leaders" exposed as the true"satans tool"
There must be a former members that will join or have this cause.
answered 04 Oct '10, 06:23
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