This question stems partly from a conflict I had with another IQ member. I was very uncomfortable with the whole comment made about what I wrote, and I realized that what I had written had nothing to do with making Peace. So I deserved what I received- which was more controversy.
I spent my childhood trying to keep the Peace in my family. My Dad had a drinking problem while I was young, and it often fell to me (being Daddy's girl) to calm his rages, to get him to sleep, to keep him from beating my Mom or my sisters. I grew up craving Peace, and I finally have found it within my relationship with Wade. This is the first Peace I have known.
I used to sit for hours in closets, in the dark, away from everyone, trying to soothe myself. The pain was awful, and when I get myself in trouble due my temper, it makes me very mad. I hate, hate, hate that I want Peace and yet get mad and lose my temper.
I sometimes stay away from IQ because I dislike being sucked into controversy (even if I bring it onto myself). I wish IQ was a bit more calm, and that the people here did not always jump all over each other.
I leave you with a painting I did of one of my alters. It explains how I felt as a child, and how I feel when I am not at Peace. I have posted it here before, so I apologize to those who have already seen it.
"Peace" is the very fabric of the Universe. It exists in every moment in every thing. So, why make Peace a goal when it is always available to you ? Live your life and just become aware of that ever-present Peace whenever you want to feel it.
Also, you seem to have a strong attachment to your "past" which isn't serving you.
Ask yourself this question: "If I let go of my "past" right now who would get hurt?
The answer: No-one would. :)
"If I let go of my past who would benefit from it?"
The answer: You would and everyone around You :)
It's futile to try and physically create the conditions for peace if your not already feeling it first.
Find ways to feel peace within you first and then that peace must reflect back to you in your physical reality. Be aware that the obstacles within you to you maintaining that peaceful vibration will also reflect back to you.
to be a peace makers it is simple get to know yourself clean the inside of the cup and love your neighbor as your self.
if you know your self you can know other, but if you do not know yourself how can you know other?
look at the Pharisees they considered them self righteous and where praising them self trying to look good on the outside but on the inside they where full of darkness poison and dead bones.
they said we would not make the error of our for father and where judging them to praise them self and see what they did, did they not do the same?
Did they properly split that pieces of wood and lift that stone?
was it not said to be better then the Pharisees?
follow the word, and the word is truth, I testify and swear by the kingdom of the peacemakers and the pure of heart that I am telling you the truth.
Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.
If you had not experienced the conflict, you would not have desired peace more intensely, so, in essence, it has been a positive thing. Disagreeing with other people's opinions is not a bad thing, because if we only surround ourselves with people who only think EXACTLY as we do, we may as well just be alone. The reflection on the contrast between what we desire and what is happening now is how we clarify what we truly desire, and we can use the contrast to show us the path to achieving our desire. You desire Peace, BE PEACE.
That doesn't mean being a doormat for others, either. You may have a better answer, and you don't have to agree with everyone. Look at the examples of great peacemakers throughout history, such as Gandhi and Martin Luther King, to name two. Neither of them shied away from controversy, nor did they agree with the status quo, but nevertheless, did not deviate from their goal. We can see how they changed the world!
Forgive yourself, make peace with yourself, and LOVE yourself. Love is all there is. That's the path to peace.
Thoughts of peace, particularly in the middle of chaos, take great energy. People who can ignore the physical evidence of wars and purposely think thoughts of peace will triumph -- but in your terminology the word meek has come to mean spineless, inadequate, lacking energy.
Source: The Nature of Personal Reality (A Seth Book)
By being at peace with yourself first.
It may sound paradoxical, but that peace cannot be dependent on anything outside of yourself. So when you say that you were the peacemaker in your family, what that means is that you were always trying to keep the peace, at the expense of your own internal peace.
But the only way that you can change anyone else is to be a model for that which you want others to follow, and hope that they choose to follow your example because it is attractive to them. Alas, many people will still choose the conflict, because that is what they want. And that is their choice; you have to leave that choice with them.
answered 12 Nov '13, 18:04
There are many great answers here I voted for but here is mine.
Being in karate and knowing there is no first strike in karate I decided to see if this could extend to life. In other words in life there is no first strike. This meaning that any attack or lashing out is in self defense, no matter who does even the bully.
The person lashing out is in pain, worry or fear. Something more than you is bothering her/him.
This person is trying to stop feeling pain, even if it means getting into fist-fights to drown out the pain, depression, anger, confusion, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of inadequacy. So when someone puts me down yes it hurts but that person putting me down is hurting and that makes me have compassion for him/her. This compassion makes me react in a peaceful way.
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