Dear fellow seekers - I have been crying a lot lately. Mostly about me not feeling happy with situations in my life, being disappointed with how things did not turn out how I envisioned and generally feeling lonely.
I believe in the LOA and keep consciously reminding myself to think happy thoughts or get to a feeling of relief, and most times I succeed. But despite that, I still end up crying a lot. Will the crying have any adverse impact on my spiritual growth? I have been told that crying is an effective way to vent and makes one feel better - and it does, till the next tear-burst takes over. I cry a lot when i'm alone, at night before going to sleep.
I realise that while crying i divert a lot of energy towards undesirable ideas and feelings, and probably am attracting more reasons to cry. Does anybody else face this situation, where you know something is not good for you, but you are so overcome with emotions that you just cant stop?
Does this make me weak? Does anyone have any tips / affirmations / mantras that can help when the urge to cry refuses to go away inspite of all the loving self-talk?
Let me start by telling you what kind of spiritual impact I think crying has... then I'll follow up with how my relationship to crying changed after I began to consciously release resistance (i.e. begin all this LOA stuff)
What kind of spiritual impact does crying have? It lets you feel relief.
Let's take a look at the emotional guidance scale:
From your description, it sounds like you are crying while exhibiting 21 (Unworthiness) or 22 (Depression).
You'll notice after you are done your crying session, you will be somewhere higher up on the emotional scale. This isn't always the case, because sometimes we cry and hold it in (i.e. don't let ourselves truly feel relief) instead of pouring it all out.
Hale Dowskin (teacher of the Sedona Method) put it very nicely when he said that we as humans were born with a number of natural ways to release resistance that we normally forget about as we grow up and listen to society's message of turning off our emotions... crying is one of them.
So give yourself time and just let yourself cry... don't worry about diverting energy to negative things. You are actually moving your subjects to better-feeling places which is essentially what vibrational work does.
Now, you may feel like you are stuck in an endless loop where you continue to cry week after week and see no end. The good part is... this isn't an endless loop.
At first, when you begin to do vibrational work, you become more emotionally sensitive. This happened to me, and I managed to cry myself like a baby in situations where I could usually keep a straight face.
However, as I continued to do vibrational work and clean up my bad-feeling thoughts, my habitual emotions became more positive.
So if you continue down this path, you may start crying some more in the beginning, but eventually, you'll come to a place where crying isn't the norm, its the exception.
If you want to go down this path faster, all you need to do is ensure that you are following your emotions and constantly aiming to be happier. This can be done by consistently focusing on good-feeling thoughts, or (what I recommend) consciously releasing resistance.
To get started, whenever your bad-feeling emotions come up, just tap them out with FasterEFT:
FasterEFT is extremely easy to learn, and once you get the hang of it, you'll notice that you can let go of any bad feelings in minutes.
Also, I recommend the following links for further reading to get some ideas on working your way through your situation, they've helped me a lot for sure!
answered 06 Feb '14, 22:57
I agree with @WeRadiateBeauty that crying helps you move up the emotional scale sometimes.
IMO crying is a sign that you are emotionally overwhelmed, no matter where you are on the scale. And it often happens very down or very high on the scale.
Sometimes you feel so much relief from depression and unworthiness that it overwhelms you. Other times you feel so good that you can't put into words how beautiful everything is.
Crying is a sign that your belief system is overwhelmed by too much relief (so that you can't appropriately handle it yet). So you just have to cry as an "abreaction". It is all just too much for you. But as you stabilize your vibration eventually, crying becomes the exception. So crying can only be a stopover - and never the destination...just like blame.
I had a few times where I was very high in my vibration, somewhere around joy I guess. And I couldn't handle it because my belief system wasn't ready yet for so much beauty that, with certainty, exists in everything that is.
I'm often in situations where the ones I'm with cry. It usually is a during a conversation of personal loss and can come during a time depression. I find that during these talks that there comes a bit of releif to the person crying. .
answered 07 Feb '14, 14:37
I'm just the opposite, Jai says I have a little boy in me someplace that needs to cry. I say no, crying solves nothing, solutions solve things.
It just feels better to say forget about it! She says every time I do that, I an slamming a door shut in my mind packing all these emotions behind a door I don't want to open.
So is crying better or stuffing the problem behind a door better, neither one seems to solve anything. But shoving it behind a mental door at least makes you forget why you were upset. It is sort of like saying this never happened.
There is like some big emotional electrical switch and when things get out of my control emotionally, I just pull that emergency shut down switch and poof, I'm back to feeling fine with no memory or no emotion to the previous subject.
Sometimes I know I was mad or hurt but after the shut down it seems like distance and I don't even know why I was mad or hurt except in a logical way of understanding.
Crying is the sign of attachment, which is against spirituality. Spiritual person will always be stable--equi-poised, which is called supreme devotion is some scriptures. Having a higher perspective would help us to have this attitude: Things (and relationships) come, stay for some time and disappear after a while--this is fact. Why go in conflict with unpreventable fact and waste your energy.
Things happen "because" that is the way it should happen. Why worry about an effect, or a cause? There is no need to discover the "cause," when the consequence is the child of that cause. The self-attested truth is that ONE-THING-LEADS-TO-ANOTHER--and this is the immutable, impartial, impeccable, inexorable, and omnipresent rule (and the TRUTH behind all happenings). It has been happening, and it is happening, and it will happen. (Ecclesiastes 1:9, 10)
Knowing this SIMPLE truth sets you free. Because you know, from experience of yours and others, that if you want GOOD results, you need to choose GOOD action. (Isaiah 3:10, 11) You might have observed being moderate is beneficial, whereas extremism is not beneficial. This is something we can see proof in our own bodies. When moderation is adopted in sleeping, eating, working, entertainment and thinking, our bodies' vital organs respond pleasantly, otherwise they malfunction, and may even simply shut down! That means one can choose to drive his life either to comfort or to calamity--it all depends on the choices one makes!
That is the beauty of life--though we cannot reverse what has been done, we can see it, understand it and take lesson for the future!
Hence, say goodbye to the past, Enjoy the present, and Welcome the future!
answered 06 Feb '14, 23:52
T D Joseph
Crying is natural and God gave us those tears and emotions for a reason. Don't ever feel bad for being a person who can cry or a person who has emotions. They are there to express how you feel inside. if I was going through a situation in life the was hard and needed help I would be wanting someone who can also show emotions and cry to help me as I could relate to them much more. I could bond with them much more. I get weary of people who repress there emotions and cannot or do not cry as they seem to robotic to me and unnatural.If you cry all the time and cannot find a legitimate reason for it then that is depression and of course you need help with that. Don't feel bad if you have depression either as it is just your mind needing some healing for something just as if your body needed healing for something. The bible says God counts our tears...and throughout the bible stories many are said to cry out to the Lord day and night ! It is OK to cry and doesn't make you weak spiritually. People who cannot cry are not necessarily strong people ! I know a lady who personally cannot cry or bring herself to cry in any situation as she was taught not to spiritually. She confessed to me that she wished so much she could cry ! I actually feel sorry for her ! Training yourself not to cry is just another way to repress your true feelings and can make you appear cold to others. Crying when you have a reason to cry is normal ! You can cry and show emotion and at the same time being telling yourself it will all workout somehow...crying will not affect your spiritual life in that way. It might even make it deeper ! Don't try to stifle what God gave to you to express what you feel inside ! If you find yourself crying for whatever reason..use the time to get closer to God. read comforting scriptures even while you are still crying and after a while of reading them you will feel His love over you and His peace will come to you. Cry out to him and imagine He is there with you letting you cry on His strong and willing shoulders and telling you lovingly to let it all out and that it will all be ok ! Then let God do His thing in your life and trust Him ! This s much more spiritual then repressing your tears or crying to appear strong. When we are weak God is strong for us ! God is there for those of us who cry and he notices you ! I believe those of us who do cry we are very special to God's heart and at those times he is very, very close to us ! But remember that if you are crying all the time for not real apparent reason then you need medical help for that because that means something is off kilter ! I cry often if something makes me feel sad or touches my heart in some deep way and I cry if I feel scared and alone or hurt. All normal and this shows you are HUMAN ! No one wants you to be sad all the time so if you do feel the need to cry about something use that time to really get closer to God..visualize Him there with you...read scriptures that are related to what you feel for comfort and imagine His voice speaking them to you personally to you. We are all different individuals, no two alike. Some cry and some don't so don't feel bad or guilty if you are one the cries ! personally the fact that I am like this make others who have problems feel they can come to me for help and they feel comfortable with me and connect with me. They are more willing to listen to my advice and more open to share with me. If God gave it to you it is there for a reason ! Tears could very well be a gift from God and it all depends on how you look at it !
answered 07 Feb '14, 12:42
@Wade ad @All- When we cry, it is a release of emotion. They have studied tears, and there are actually chemicals in our tears that are excreted from the body, which helps balance the brain and other glands- it gets things back to normal.
But if you find yourself crying over and over, or for hours at a time, I recommend that you-see a doctor, psychiatrist or counselor. Crying all the time is not okay. It is a big sign of clinical depression- which many Americans have gone through, and it does pass with proper treatment. Forget the stigma of the word "depression". It just means your brain is out of whack. If you suddenly broke out in hives for days at a time, you would; probably see a doctor, right? So crying is like you are is sort of the same thing.
You are grieving and sad. You will feel lots better if you seek professional help. Believe me, I know.
I will pray for you---right now, you really need to get your mind clear of depression before you try to work the Law of Attraction- OK?
answered 06 Feb '14, 19:40