This is a pretty "Deliberate Creation 101" question, but I'm curious about what other peoples' experiences with this are:
My understanding of how I create my reality is that I launch a desire, the Universe creates that thing/experience/etc., and as soon as I am up to vibrational speed with it, I am able to perceive it. That is, the creation is instant, but I can't see or experience it until I have achieved a matching vibration. The "achieving the matching vibration" part is where our work is, often by talking ourself into alignment.
In reading this question: "Time from visualization to manifestation", I realized that I frequently have a very easy time creating things I am not that invested in. For instance, once I started practicing it and got a couple of successes under my belt, believing that I will find a parking spot is pretty easy to do, and so I am usually able to find one. Or, as in the example I noted in my comment on the above answer, I have found that if I get cheerful before I go to the grocery story, I almost always have a pleasant experience and run into cheerful people.
I would like to attain a deeper understanding of how I am doing those things, and hopefully be able to transfer some of those ideas to things I am more invested in, which I tend to get very "I MUST MANIFEST THIS GRRRRRRR" about, even when I know better. Here's a silly example: say I am eagerly waiting for a specific book to be published. I love the author and I am really excited about his new book. I think about how great it will be to read the book. Basically, I have some energy moving on this topic.
Then I do something funky and start to become mildly obsessed with WHEN the book will be published. I keep checking Amazon. Today? What about today? Surely now? Still not? Then I realize that I am becoming tense about it, so I try to relax. Naturally, "trying to relax" often just makes a person more tense, so it doesn't really work that well. Then I almost inevitably think "Maybe I can use law of attraction stuff to feel better about this", but because I am approaching it from such a place of "I am trying to make something happen", it is, um, less than successful. After awhile, I get frustrated and give up. Eventually, the book is published.
So that's a silly example, but it's very similar to how I feel about "bigger" topics, too, like career and life things. I definitely repeat the pattern of strong desire>increasing resistance>trying very hard to use LOA to reduce resistance and feel better>more resistance>finally giving up>manifestation.
What I would like to do is feel more about these things the way I do about parking spots, or running into cheerful people: less like I am gritting my teeth and trying (and failing!) to make things happen through force of will, and more like I am just gently leaning in that direction. How can I want something very much and stir up a bunch of energy about it and still feel fine in the time before it manifests? I totally get that what I want is the feeling-good more than the manifestation, I am on board with this.
However, my assumption is that the reason I can do this pretty well about stuff I don't care that much is that, well, I don't care that much about parking spots. Not that much energy is flowing, so my potential for resistance is relatively low. So this feels like a paradox I can't figure out, to me. How can I care less about things I care a lot about? Is that the wrong question entirely?
To put it another way, I'm confused about the difference between, as I recently heard Abraham say, "Om-ing your way through life" (which is where I think I am about parking spots - that general feeling of well-being and pretty low energy flow, quite non-specific) and the energy flow that is generated when you are making specific decisions and focusing your attention toward specific preferences. I assume that the eventual ideal is to be able to be very non-resistant (a la a parking spot) about very specific preferences, but I don't think I get how you bridge between those two ways of being yet.
I hope this makes sense to someone out there! I'm really eager to know if this resonates with experiences others have had, and how they eventually came to understand this stuff.
It's all about emotions. That GRRRR feeling is not a good feeling. And the more GRRRR you put out there the more GRRRR. You're going to get back. So when you park your car in a good spot observe that feeling. Memorize it. That's the feeling that works.
I can give you an example of something I manifested that I really wanted. I walked away from my career (willingly at that time, so it was my choice) to relocate with my then-husband to an area off the country where i could not get a job in my chosen field, so I didn't work for about 10 years. This wasn't a problem until we divorced, and I had to look for work. Since there was little use for my skill set (manufacturing engineering) in the area I was living at the time, I tried a string of other jobs, with very little success, I was unhappy in these other jobs, I felt like a failure, but I resisted looking for a job in my former career because I thought I was now unqualified due to my long absence from the field. I read a lot about LOA and practiced raising my vibration. Finally, after another 4 years (now it was 14 years since I worked in my field, I got angry with myself and asked myself what the hell was I doing? I have a BS, I had a decade of experience in engineering, why am I working in a call center making a fraction of what I could be making as an engineer? (frustration level) I think this was my call to action, sent by my Higher Self. I knew I would have to move, but I was OK with that, since I really didn't like living where I was, besides, the rest of my life was not going well either. Somehow I found myself at hopefulness, and started sending our resumes. I soon got a vibrational match: a recruiter rewrote my resume to make it more marketable at no cost, and did a fantastic job.
Next level: Optimism. I then began seeing myself working in engineering once again, being successful. I think this step, Belief, is what propelled me into a manifestation within a month. Within 6 months of my "call to action," I landed a fantastic one year contract position 1,000 miles away. I knew no one there, but I took the leap of faith. I was very successful and was earning what I would have had I worked continuously in my career, but most importantly, I LOVED it!
I knew I wanted to move elsewhere, so I began looking for another job at the end of my contract, but they kept me on after my contract expired until I got another job (500 miles away). I now live where I want to be at this time. I have friends here, I have another great job here as a consultant engineer, and I'm making more than enough to support myself and my family comfortably and send one child to college.
Did I really want this? Oh YES! It took me six months to move from frustration to manifestation, but it seemed like six days while it was happening.
That's my story.
answered 16 Feb '14, 18:18
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