I think I've worked out that one of my main challenges is that I'm just afraid of tomorrow, not only the bad, but also the good. For example, I want to meet 'the one' - but not today, later... later sometime when I am feeling well, looking good etc... but today is not the day... I'm busy with other things. I want to get a better job, but today I'm happy to just do the things on my to do list .. . I guess it could be put down to a fear of failure or success that many of us share. But I'm wondering if there is something else fundamentally underneath this that makes me many of us afraid of going forward.... is it just the 'subconscious' wanting to keep things in status quo... or some fundamental fear of life? Has anyone been able to overcome this challenge and see big shifts in their outlook and approach to life? I'm sure many have, but would be grateful for any views on how to overcome this 'fear' of change and of moving forward. Is it just dealing with the fear and resistance as each comes up or addressing something more fundamental?
As long as you say to yourself, "Tomorrow I'll get what I want" or "I'll get it later," then it will never manifest in your current reality. The only moment that matters is right now. Do you feel good right now? Do you have a positive expectancy of your desire right now? Are you doing things and thinking thoughts that generate the feeling of having what you want right now?
It is not possible to "keep the status quo." Everything in the universe is made of moving energy. If energy stopped moving, then nothing would exist. Change is always happening for the good of you and everyone else. Everything we attract to ourselves is good because it causes us to learn and grow. So, there's no need to fear what lies ahead of you. Every life circumstance or situation you attract is for your benefit.
To release that fear/resistance you have, I'd suggest doing the resistance release exercise on this site. I think it will help you uncover the reasons why you're afraid. A belief is just a habitual way of thinking, so you just have to practice thinking about your life as you'd like it to be. This may seem difficult at first, but try it for about a minute and you will attract more like thoughts and feelings with ease.
answered 19 Jun '15, 09:48
Drops of Jupiter
Instead of overcoming the fear it would be much simpler to allow it to surface without judgment so it can dissolve on it's own, as there really is nothing to ''deal'' with, you see, we must be ready [allow] for what we wish to experience in our physical reality, and at the same time we must ''trust the timing'' of the manifestation knowing that it will be made physical at the appropriate time and place. It may take some time for the resistance to dissolve should you ''allow'' it, but to judge it as it surfaces will only reinforce it even more, delaying the desired reality. It is natural to be afraid of change and it's a process of allowing the fear to dissolve by itself without judgment [resistance] and this cannot be done by focusing on the future, only ''now'' matters. As being in the present becomes your dominant focus you will dissolve the [fear] resistance and come more from a place of relaxed joy/relief as well as ''embrace'' the uncertainties [changes] that lie ahead, allowing the shift to occur thus manifesting your desired reality. Sooner or later we'll stop fighting the stream and move ourselves into the flow of it, then everything would just take care of itself, but in the meantime we'll complicate the process, [I've gone through this myself] and that's okay, we are human and this is a learning process, and eventually we'll let go of the need to question and control the outcome, allowing everything [desired realities] to unfold in their own perfect time.
answered 21 Jun '15, 13:24
known being replaced by unknown,
answered 19 Jun '15, 20:51
Wanting to delay the future is one indication that you are learning live in the moment. That is quite an accomplishment. In a sense, you are not really delaying the future; You are simply allowing it to present itself in the present. Learning to live for today in the most genuine terms, however, requires that you let go of the past as well. That can be much harder to achieve.
When you are able to release yourself from both past and future concerns, then all your attention and 'the power of intent' can be focused on whatever circumstances you are dealing with right now.
answered 22 Jun '15, 19:35
SHE LET GO .... without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear.
She let go of the judgements.
She let go of the opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the "right" reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn't ask for advice. She didn't read a book on how to let go. She just let go.
She let go of all the memories that held her back.
She let go of all the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of all the planning and all the calculation, about how to do it just right.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
A smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her.
And the sun and moon shone forever more.
Written by Ernest Holmes (1887 - 1960)
Love, Grace ;)
answered 23 Jun '15, 12:30