What are some practical methods for developing the type of poise defined below?

poise -

  1. a dignified, self-confident manner or bearing; composure; self-possession: to show poise in company.

  2. steadiness; stability: intellectual poise.

To me this means more than just confidence. It is more of a deep inner knowing and strength that stands strong in many different types situations.

asked 30 Nov '10, 19:04

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edited 02 Dec '10, 01:15

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You develop poise by vividly imagining yourself being the type of person that has poise.

Of course, it helps to know what you are talking about. If you are secure in your position, and clear on your facts, you can be confident in the discussion without being overbearing in your attitude.

For general gatherings, the best way to make a good impression is to be a good listener. Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People explains this with remarkable clarity.


answered 30 Nov '10, 19:32

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Thanks, great information.

(30 Nov '10, 19:43) Back2Basics

I learned a fun technique recently for reclaiming composure recently: in the moment of stress, imagine yourself ignoring a ringing phone ;)

Here's a comic that may offer some help feeling poised in many situations, including in strange company:



answered 06 Dec '10, 08:31

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Hu Re

Awsome cartoons!

(06 Dec '10, 08:37) daniele

Ringing phone, interesting!

(06 Dec '10, 17:50) Back2Basics

It's the hardest thing for me to do, ignoring a ringing phone! lol Sounds very interesting and I'll try it though. Thank you! :)

(07 Dec '10, 13:17) BridgetJones09

that is funny hu re today i have ear the wind making something make noise and it bother people around here and i said to my self i do not need to let that bother me and the wind was still going on but the noise as stop.

(27 Jun '11, 05:44) white tiger
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From my experience: meditation. Just sit for 2 hours straight without doing anything and see what happens. In about 6 months you will have plenty of poise to share with others.


answered 30 Nov '10, 21:30

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nice, lots of work but from the less frequent meditation I do, i can see how it would work.

(30 Nov '10, 21:47) Back2Basics

Wow, 2 hours? Wouldn't that make us cramp up? :D

(02 Dec '10, 01:38) Pat W

2 hours is not as much as it seems. At first I was scared too. Turns out, if your posture is right you're balancing sort of like when riding a bicycle therefore no cramps. Plus, you should make a one minute walking break every 39 minutes.

(02 Dec '10, 13:04) zvolkov

Did 1 hr 20 minutes the other day....probably got 25 minutes of actual nothingness but I building up those "muscles".

(06 Dec '10, 17:52) Back2Basics

Wow, very cool!

(06 Dec '10, 18:12) zvolkov

yes meditation can help alot on different level of self.

(27 Jun '11, 05:47) white tiger
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carrying yourself the best way possible in any occasions and in any kind of situations.


answered 01 Dec '10, 00:50

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do you mean just physically?? can you elaborate?

(01 Dec '10, 01:00) Back2Basics

I think you'll find the chapter of this book on the PsiTek site really interesting! I am looking for the same 'poise', carriage or bearing as you do. It explains how actors do and it works for anyone. :)

Personal Magnetism


If you will practice being fictional for a while, you will understand that fictional characters are sometimes more real than people with bodies and heartbeats.

Richard Bach

Hope it helps!



answered 01 Dec '10, 13:13

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edited 02 Dec '10, 14:10

I developed poise while taking ballet classes. Our instructor told us to imagine a line that is holding us up from the heart to high heaven. That's physically, mentally, I am always reminding myself that every one I meet is a divine being and that I should treat them as such.

Thank you, namaste


answered 01 Dec '10, 19:57

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very good way to be daniel.

(27 Jun '11, 05:48) white tiger

have faith and grace. be in harmony.or become Tathāgata (Devanagari: तथागत) in Pali and Sanskrit) is the name the Buddha of the scriptures uses when referring to himself. The term means, paradoxically, both one who has thus gone (tathā-gata) and one who has thus come (tathā-āgata). Hence, the Tathagata is beyond all coming and going – beyond all transitory phenomena. He is one who has found the truth.


answered 27 Jun '11, 05:55

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