there is something that i dont understand about the laws of the univers/attraction.
while "they"(abraham, bashar and other channelers) say that in order to find a relationship (when talking to singles!!!!) we have to be in alignment, meaning remove our dark spot from our heart, love ourselves, etc etc....
At the same time "they" keep talking about other people with "Failed relathionship" who got there because they were not in alingnment or were needy or some other thing...
My conflict is - the people with "failed relationships" were not aligned right? so how come they found a relationship that stuck in the first place(???) when the suggestion is that only the one who is alinged will find his "one"/relationship?
(p.s. it doesnt matter for me that their relathinships are "failed" cause maybe in their perspective its very succesful). and i must emphasize that its not me who judge other people relathionships - i really really dont care. its the channelers (abraham, bashar and more) who talk about them, talk about the masses and how we are the "leading edge" well - maybe i dont want to be in the leading edge - how do i do that? i dont get that
there are way to many conflict for me latly.
(for example - i think that every step on the emotional scale can defined as being alinged if you are in it and not just the happy part. i feel really good when i accept my fear for instance. when i accept each and every part and emotion in me and not ignore the "bad" feelings.
thanks to any answer.
Remember how Abraham said that you wonder why you attracted green when you asked for yellow and blue?
Well, yellow is your positive relationship, and blue is your negative belief about relationships, and green is the mix of the two- the relationship that just didn't work out.
The first step to get over it is to no longer look at the failed relationship as a failed relationship- look at it as a wonderful opportunity to redefine who you are in relationship to certain aspects of yourself. Also, look at it as a clarifying experience, and be grateful. Then, get the hell out of there.
Note that "get the hell out of there" can mean both physically leaving the person or clearing yourself until the relationship improves (because your clearing yourself brings you towards a more positive version of that person).
In both cases the bad relationship was a excellent focusing tool that prompted you to improve the beliefs you hold about yourself.
answered 27 Feb '17, 06:38
They found themselves aligned at first...
As I was with my ex-husband... for a brief while. But I should have guessed that a guy who grew up an "Airline Brat", and spent his youth traveling anywhere, for free.... and then two years on ships, courtesy of the Merchant Marine Academy, going all over the world, would find life in a small house with four children, and all their mess and pets (and the pets' messes) confining, and even terrifying. The bills poured in, and I think he expected me to become a "career woman", like the perfectly-groomed women he was meeting on the road Monday through Friday.
But my bliss, and my responsibility (I felt) was to our four children. They were ALL gifted- and I mean gifted... my youngest wrote her first computer program when she was four. These kids ate their dim-witted babysitters for lunch... and they needed somebody to be there, 24/7, and their dad was not home much. He went back to the life he knew as a kid....
And we became different people, with different goals and needs and desires. We "outgrew" each other.
We changed, each do to our experiences. I begged him to talk with me, to share things he felt with me, but he couldn't do it. Not sober, anyway.
That's what happens sometimes.
I was always spiritual...always. He is, at best, agnostic. God was really important to me. My body began to fall apart; it wasn't built for the back-breaking job of a housewife without help. I couldn't help that. I did not know I had CFS or Fibromyalgia, nor did I know I had an immune disorder that kept hitting me and hitting me. I spent hours reading Emmet Fox, and writing, studying spiritual stuff, deep stuff written by people like William James. That stuff put him to sleep. His weekends started becoming catching up on housework, shopping, etc....More and more, not what he signed up for. He liked traveling, and the kids and I hated that he was gone a lot.
People grow apart, and then become new people who attract different people, and they end up married to other people. I "met" Wade learning an advanced Reiki class, and we began a long friendship that transferred to right here on Inward Quest. We married October 17, 2015. It was the happiest day of my life- but life is grandly happy nearly every day with Wade!
That's how it worked for me, anyway. I am glad John found someone who makes him happy. I am so sorry now that I made him unhappy. I really am.
But life is like that. You gotta love it... And roll with it.
Things come together when you are in alignment and they end when you are no longer in alignment. You are creating your daily life each day when your energy connects to Universal energy, this would also apply with relationships. So as Jaianniah already mentioned, they were in alignment when they first started in their relationship, but then it changed and they grew apart and had different priorities. So they were not in sync anymore and didn't want to be in sync anymore, so the relationship ended.
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