The longer I live, the more I understand, the more deeply I love -- the more time I spend crying and praying for those who suffer...
I find no alternative in this dilemma, but to humbly and contritely surrender all that I am, to the service of my fellow sufferers.
But I still ask: when will the pain go away?
asked 05 Jan '11, 14:52
Maybe you are going through some period in your growth when you are particularly empathetic, or perhaps you are just a really empathetic person by nature.
If it is becoming overwhelming, there are some strategies for dealing with the intensity. A suggestion I have is to visit the website link text. Best wishes.
answered 06 Jan '11, 05:04
You cannot help the poor by being poor yourself, no matter how poor you get. You cannot ease the suffering of others by suffering yourself.
If you are inspired by helping the poor, your strategy should be to teach yourself how to be a wealth magnet (in whatever way you define wealth or abundance), and then give that wealth to others or, better yet, teach them how to be wealth magnets also.
This is what Bill Gates did (although I don't imagine that he envisioned it in quite the way that it has turned out). He built a large company, amassed a lot of wealth, and now uses that wealth to run the Bill and Melinda Gates foundation, dedicated to helping those less fortunate live productive, healthy lives.
He didn't do it by living in a grass hut.
True Love feels no pain because it sees through the illusion of suffering to the reality beyond it.
A person operating from this place will feel compassion, and will help and serve others by empowering them, so they too can see through the illusion, without disempowering themselves by falling into the trap too.
answered 06 Jan '11, 03:02
I LOVE feeling the pain of living.. the pain of struggling.. the pain of feeling connected to All That Is, the Universal Father and than losing it again and again, just like that..
It's exciting! It's exciting to feel anything! Why would I be bothered by seeing people 'suffer'? How do I know that they are truly suffering? ANd to take it further Neil, how do You know they are? Who gave You the right to judge what is right and wrong, what is best for everyone?
My experiences are of meeting people 'handicapped' and imprisoned in their own body, not being able to sit by themselves, or touch themselves properly, but I don't feel pity for them! I feel admiration for the role that I believe they have chosen to play here before they were born into the life they live now.
Sure, we can go all day long, trying to chase our own tale saying "Oh, you're saying this and that and that is not spiritual, or not compassionate enough, you should change!"
Well I say to that "Screw You!" I'm not a self-indulgent fuck that is saying that 'I'm the shit!', but I'm also not a whiny bitch who wants others to cry for my challenges or expect others to solve them for me.
I'm responsible for how I feel and who I am, period and so is everyone else. If they want to put up an armor of whinning 'oh, i'm not good enough' or 'oh, i can't take so much love' than so be it! Everyone has their own way and time on which he wants to change and chooses to do so.
I choose NOT TO get involve in a discussion with you Neil on a subject "When will the pain go away?" because it's not the pain that is the problem here. The problem is the attitude towards pain. I love pain because it makes me grow, makes me push myself further and faster to a time when I believe I will stand in the presence of my Father in heaven and come 'home' after a long and exciting sojourn.
And until that time comes I have to comply with glimpses of that final experience and I'm okay with it. I'm learning everyday not to chase those ecstatic and profound experiences of feeling oneness of the whole universe and to actually LIVE my life the best way I can, being an example for EVERYONE who is being put at my way, even you.
Do waht you want, feel what you want, but for Gods sake, be ALIVE and feel..
answered 05 Jan '11, 22:58
we all create our own world
answered 05 Jan '11, 15:26
I dont think contritely surrendering for the good of humanity or any fellow sufferers will do you any good Neil.
Your not Jesus mate. Your not meant to suffer
The best way you can really and truely help anyone is to be stable and happy yourself.
I hope you get to the state soon Neil
answered 05 Jan '11, 15:37
The pain will go away when you want it to. Right now you want to feel the pain and that is very OK.
answered 06 Jan '11, 00:55
When you are committed to the ones you love the pain will never go away permanently, because every time someone you care for feels pain you will also feel the pain, but not as real pain per se’, but pain you feel for someone you love from the heart!
And once you can see the love beyond the pain, you will come to realize that there is no pain, only love, true love for the ones you love, and there will never cease to be a place in your heart to love, and care, and share, and give! A big heart you have, filled with love, to share someone pain, if not for love, and to surrender to all!
answered 06 Jan '11, 07:59
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Enjoy the struggle. The pain is a part of Love and can not be separated. Suffering for the sake of suffering is a form of control by extending ones emotional bubble. It is okay to acknowledge suffering, but this can deplete your energy greatly. I would recommend helping people in need. Maybe this will give you a sense of accomplishment to see that people are grateful, and to shift that focus to some positive and needed actions to solve suffering.
answered 06 Jan '11, 08:10
The Knights Alchemy
I have been there. It started during a year of intense yoga and meditation. I just had to allow it. It peaked w two or three intense sessions of just allowing every emotion of pain to be met w empathy. I know it had to do with cleasing my energy and that I was inspiring better for them.
answered 05 Jan '11, 19:13
Probably by this summer (July), if you work at it.
Create a plan to overcome this.
Start with 20 minutes meditation everyday, start the focus wheel, notes in a box, prayer, rigorous exercise, helping others and choosing to be happy. Then to help all this, pray for a spiritual awakening that will never leave you. Increase each every work. Keep notes.
My question to you is - How bad do you want it?
It is a lot of work but can be done.
Somethings just don't "go away", we have to handle them...
Neil, I have been where you are. I know the feeling, I can still taste it if I let it. You see, we all have to go through this stage. It is quite painful, I know. What snapped me out of it and helped me move on to the following stage, active compassion, was my immediate family. To make a long story short, my family felt I was so emotionally fragile that I was in serious need of professional help, that besides their insistent demands of me doing more for each and every single one of them personally instead of for some strangers. Thus, my family's push for me to serve more of their needs first and foremost accompanied with the looming threat of having to be locked and drugged up in the psyche ward, helped me to pull myself together.
What about the pain? I pray for guidance daily, and was able to find the missing pieces of the big picture. The stage you're in, you see and feel the suffering of others and it seems senseless. Later you get to understand where the suffering comes from and how it is one of the tools used to help us appreciate and evolve. Once there, you start serving others with your heart full of love and compassion for them and a deep appreciation for the struggle they're undergoing. You'd be there to help when asked and or whenever the need arise and you're called upon. I love you brother, it will get better. Thank you, namaste
answered 06 Jan '11, 11:19
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