I know that being lighthearted and enjoying life is a great way to live and seems to work in harmony with universal law.
Despite this I am catching myself taking things too seriously sometimes. I want to lighten up on life more without trying too hard.
Does anyone else have this problem and what do you do to lighten up? :)
Thanks for reading:)
Yes, I find myself taking things too seriously at times as well. It can be a hard habit (or choice of definition as Bashar would say) and may take some real true awareness on your part to change.
On a positive note though, just noticing that you are taking things a little too serious is a step in the right direction. A lot of people don't even have the conscious awareness that they are even doing it. Life goes on and never changes much for them because of this, so give yourself a little pat on the back for the simple awareness of this dilemma.
The ego can sometimes turn the autopilot back on when our now moment awareness fades away. I try to keep it simple when I catch myself taking things a little too serious.
Just stop for a moment and get back into the Now. Once you realize what you are doing, saying, or how you are reacting to a certain situation, just get yourself focused on the now. Even if you have to say to yourself "I need to get into the now moment."
It can be almost like flipping a light switch on and off. It's the same as having a bad habit and doing it over and over again, but here you are sending the signal that disrupts the bad circuit for even a split second to replace it with a new fuse of positive input.
Once you get to that neutral point of awareness, just start telling yourself things that feel better to you. For me it can be simple as saying " there is no reason to take this petty thing so seriously because feeling bad or upset does me no good whatsoever, no matter how much my ego wants to justify it."
It all comes down to how we think after the initial reaction to whatever we are taking too seriously. It's similar to the stop, drop, and roll they teach you in elementary school.
Just the simple act of becoming aware in the moment and changing negative self talk habits into positive self talk habits has worked quite well for me. It does take consistent practice, but isn't that the case with anything you decide you want to improve in your life.
This is an exert from my book I did with my source Treb that really helps you understand why it is vital to stay light.
Exert From Benevolent Hybrid Reptilian Human
Jefferson: Can you speak on the subject of how “relaxing” about a particular idea (whatever subject we focus upon), can help us remain focused, understand it better to inform ourselves appropriately so we can - as a result -, chose a responsible attitude towards life (whatever way it challenges us)?
Treb: Uh.... Yes.... The idea of being relaxed in every aspect of your lives is very important, but when we speak of these subjects of the ancient reptilians, or issues that cause fear in most, the idea to relax is even more important. It is important because it is mandatory that you understand the workings of the non-physical existence and how this feeds into the physical existence. First of all you have to see, that the non-physical existence is made of positive AND negative. It is not bad it is not good. These are labels that humanity has put on these things. It is a label that some races tend to put on these things. It is not that it is positive or negative, it is both a different idea, a different way, a different evolution, a different communication... perspectives of these things. Both of these things are coming from the same ideas! We understand this because in the negative density or the negative entities' eyes, it is not negative at all. They are doing what they do because they believe it is the right thing to do. And as a positive, as you might see this, you see this as positive because it is something you enjoy to do as well. Growing is evolution in both ways. It is very important because the non-physical has negative and positive inside it. So, it is important so that they both play out their own roles. In existence, there must be this balance, of positive and negative. Once we understand this, we can move forward. We have to see that all of these thoughts that we have, when relaxing, when understanding the way reality is built through the physical and non-physical existences, this is just a part of what is supposed to be. There’s no bad or good! There is no positive or negative. It is different sides of the same coin as you might say. So it is important not to put your focus into the negativity. If I speak of the ancient reptilians and things that they do to manipulate... if you are not relaxed in this, or enjoying the conversation just to receive information, it tends to spark up fear. And when you produce fear, you are giving the negative entity what it wants. The idea that they intentionally try to create fear, is for a reason. Just as we manifest our own positivity into food to ingest in our density, it is not a way to give our body nutrition. It is a symbolism that positivity must enter our body at all times. And in the negative entity, it is the same thing; when they create fear, or imbalance among other entities, this is what gives them their ability (to sustain). It is not necessarily because they think that they are doing negative, it is because this is the part of reality that they exist on. This is the part of creation that they must fill. So I would say the best way to relax is to not see things in the positive or negative way. It is to see them in different parts of reality that you must fill to play your part. Because in all reality and all actuality, once the negative entity is done with its physical existence, and once the positive entity is done with its physical existence, we all tend to go back into what you call the non-physical existence, which is negative and positive combined. So when this happens, we are all on the same journey. The soul of a negative entity must have all of the things (experiences) it has, so that it may fulfill its reality, as does the positive. So relaxing helps us understand, giving us the idea of calmness, helps us understand, that there is no true negative, no true positive! It just is! It is just existence. And in seeing this, you understand that there is no true difference in reality, but the preference that you prefer. So if one will think that your preference is negative, it is only because they come from a different point of view. So do not worry! These things are not to be worried about. If your highest vibration is in fear, than what you are doing it adding (creative power) to the things that you do not want. So when you add onto to fear, you are creating the reality of a negative entity, and unless this is what you are trying to do, than you are defeating your own purpose.
Jefferson: I agree with the existence of neutrality within these terms we guide our emotions with; I too believe that people would be much better off by allowing themselves to let go of judgment, to enjoy the diversity of life existing throughout the universe while they allow every single race to be where they are so they too can enjoy the place and time they exist, right? Isn't the midway the best way Treb?
Treb: Yes. It is as I said, even “negative” density entities (as you perceive it), enjoy what they are doing. This is why they do this. It is about not placing judgment. It is the same as religions you have in your planet, different ideals, different organizations, while they all tend to point to each other and say one is wrong and the other is correct. This is an outdated idea and an outdated way of thinking and your mankind is starting to see this! (Everybody is growing slowly to realize the truth about the multiple ways Creation can express itself). The reality is what you prefer it to be; so if you create your own reality, then in turn, what you are doing is creating your own point of view. From the ground... Up! And this is what we want all entities to do: to look inside, to see what is best for you in your heart, in your life, and live in your highest joy and vibration! Whether one sees this as positive or negative, it is not for them to decide (about others). It is for you to decide (about you).
hope it helped
love n light
Judgement I find is a root cause of being weighted down. we tend to judge things and situations thus adding weight to them. A persons says something and you take a stance/pass judgement on that persons statement. you're right ,you're wrong You see something or a person and you pass judgement on that too.
Try not pass judgement .Just be. I know that this is easier said than done, but with persistence it does becomes a habit and you do find yourself
answered 24 Dec '11, 07:34
Each of these agreements I feel addresses important points of being successful in manifestation. I cannot know if you are personally having issues with any of these agreements, (or breaking any limiting or negative agreements that interfere with them) but I can say that they helped me greatly at each step, so I hope that at least one will help you.
To me this step demands an understanding of those around you, as the definition "of behavior, performance, or appearance) In accordance with the highest standards of propriety; faultless." does not imply that you always tell the truth, but it DOES imply that you know exactly what you are saying and why you are saying it.
If we operate under the premise that any time someone commits an act that harms us it is because that is what they felt was right and they definitely had reasons for making that decision that likely had very little (if anything) to do with YOU. Most of the time you will find people who are filled with outwardly aimed negativity are only attacking those around them because they are also filled with inwardly aimed negativity.
If we don't care when someone attacks us or attempts to offend us, we have effectively stripped them of their power. I've been called just about every offensive word that applies to me over the course of my life.
Sometimes it was words like "gringo" or "dego / wop / etc". The former a spanish racial slurr aimed at whites (I was a minority at one of the high schools I attended. Not a very friendly environment, nor a safe one). The latter of course racial slurrs aimed at Italians, which never bothered me because I'm proud of my Italian heritage, not ashamed.
Other times it was even words that did not apply to me, like "faggot" or "nigger". Words intended to be offensive based on premises such as sexual orientation or the color of my skin. Despite being heterosexual (or perhaps BECAUSE I am straight) I have never cared when others insulted my sexuality, because I know what I am and have zero interest in "proving myself" to anyone.
As for the second word, that never bothered me because I have always immediately pitied anyone bigoted enough to believe that word holds any power towards any one unless they want it to, whether they were attempting to use it offensively or were allowing it to offend them.
As you can tell by the longer portion of writing here, this is by far the agreement that I had the most difficulty with personally. Perhaps because I was always picked on throughout my childhood for one reason or another, starting in about first grade and continuing up to the present day and probably for all of eternity. I came to terms with most forms of "verbal" or "mental" assaults from people trying to harm me, but "shutting myself in" like this made seeking POSITIVE relationships very difficult as well, an unforeseen consequence.
I do hope that if you decide these agreements are ones that are right for you and your life, and represent a manner in which you want to live your life, I hope they work as well for you as they have for me. Good luck in finding your answers, wherever the source may be. ^_^
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You have some amazing answeres here so mine will be brief. Music. Yes thats right music. Whenever you catch yourself feeling too serious or down put on some happy music and in an instant your mood will be lighter and more positive. Just make sure it is positive upbeat music and not some sad nostaligic stuff.
answered 24 Dec '11, 08:12
by being the light. but then the real question would be what is the light? then you have to experience it to know it. so experience and enjoy.
answered 23 Dec '11, 21:32
Poetry helps ;
"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams and endeavours to live the life, which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours"
by Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862)
have a great day :)
answered 24 Dec '11, 07:01
What are you afraid of? When you find what you are afraid of, use EFT to tap on and eliminate unhealthy fears and limiting beliefs. Fears could include but are not limited to fear of: being rejected; being embarassed; impending doom; being alone; missing out on something; not having enough; being used by others; not being noticed; etc... In the Bible, it says to Fear not, it says that God is love. If you eliminate fear, what remains is Love. Love for yourself, for your neighbors, for your family, for your friends, for people you don't know, love for life, for nature, love in appreciating what you have. Fear is what disaligns us from God and love aligns us with God. In every situation we have have a choice to experience love or fear. Love is light and fear is darkness. Love and fear are the oposite ends of the vibrational scale. We fear what we don't understand. If we love God, and seek Love, our needs will be provided for. If we fear for tomorrow, we rob ourselves of today. And when that fear creeps up, you can use EFT to eliminate it. Prayer also works, but only if you combine it with faith or belief. Either way the only thing to fear is fear it's self, Love is all you need.
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