I would like to have valuable suggestions for manifesting a future for the new beginning. I live in India and have got engaged recently. If readers are not aware, there are arranged marriages in India where the girl and the guy seldom get chance to know each other. I am going to get married soon and the person that I will be spending life does not know much about the LOA and I am not sure if he believes it or not.

Anyhow, I want a life with proper values and I have written down a few things in my self-talk about the family I want. Now I am not sure if this is enough for life or I should be asking more from the relationship/family/in-laws/career/kids etc. Since I am not so much experienced in life, I would prefer having guidance from the InwardQuesters about what kind of future I should attract and how?

Therefore the questions will be multiple here but simplified as:

  1. What should be an ideal relationship like (between me and my partner to be specific)?
  2. What should be an ideal family like (includes kids and in-laws)?

Being in an relationship is a bit different for me since I am my own person and have taken my own decisions till date. Falling in love is one thing but taking joint decisions is a bit difficult at this point.

I like the way I am and happy with my limitations, but when I am being advised by others to be like them - it is a bit difficult for me. I am not sure on how to tackle all this and so have got two questions listed above - ideal family and ideal relationship. I suppose this should include all.


asked 09 Jan '12, 23:47

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edited 10 Jan '12, 00:27

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Thanks for the edit Barry!

(10 Jan '12, 01:59) Perfection

"the person that I will be spending life does not know much about the LOA and I am not sure if he believes it or not".

If you are Hindu - from what I understand about Hinduism; it seems very compatible with the teachings of LOA - karma - law of cause and effect and for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Doesn't Hinduism teach - "a person's place in this world is a result of their thoughts and actions"? I know Happiness is key; more important than wealth. Mantras? Do you have any Hindu mantras you would care to share with us for abundance?

(11 Jan '12, 08:46) ele

Hi ele, No I am not a Hindu. I follow Islam. But staying in India, I have studied a lot of things about Hinduism including the law of karma. I studied a wonderful science called pranichealing that not only helps me heal others but has uplifted me a lot spiritually. You can know more by visiting http://www.pranichealing.co.in/. Thanks!

(16 Jan '12, 08:04) Perfection

Perfection - Hi! Thanks for the link - I am familiar with Pranic Healing. Best of Everything, Perfection.

(16 Jan '12, 23:49) ele
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I'm sorry, there is NO such thing as an "ideal" relationship or "ideal" family. Everyone is different and what is right for one, could be wrong for you. As for relationship - I would want to be in love with the man I marry and I would want it to be an equal partnership - both of us being equals . Are men and women considered equal in India?

As for LOA - ask him what he believes - after all, you plan to spend the rest of your life with this man.

As for family - that is a decision you need to make with your soon to be spouse - before you marry.

It sounds like you are excited to start your journey. I hope you are able to fall in love with this man; for love is the most important factor in a good marriage. You are very brave; unlike you - I would be very scared. I wish you the best - health, happiness and love.

Don't worry, I think instinctively, you will know what the "right" decisions are. Listen to your gut instincts and your inner wisdom.


answered 10 Jan '12, 00:11

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Thank you so much ele. Yes men and women are considered equal in India.

I am scared as well as excited. Last night I was very much confused about this and could not stop thinking about this question. So first thing in the morning I posted it here. Thanks again for the wishes and suggestions. I feel you all are with me in this journey.

(10 Jan '12, 01:59) Perfection

Respect is as important as love is in a good marriage. Also the ability to listen. You've already demonstrated empathy and understanding - try not to worry so much or over analyze - enjoy your engagement..

(10 Jan '12, 02:38) ele

Great answer Ele.

(10 Jan '12, 03:00) Paulina 1
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Hello Perfection, rules in this area are minimal, the way to live is to "experience and enjoy" as white tiger often says ... feel how things go and adjust accordingly.

As for the law of attraction, even before trying to manifest anything, the very first step is to recognize and acknowledge that it is always in operation, just as the heart is designed to pump blood , so the mind always functions in the same way.

examine this;

  • if i am angry it is i that attracted the situation into my life

  • if i complain, i attract the problem into my life because i'm giving it my attention

  • that which i try to avoid will surely come into my life

  • that which i actively don't wish, will manifest itself in my life because i'm thinking of it

We all work in the same way, the first thing is to realize when and how we are putting this mechanism into motion.

have a great day :)


answered 10 Jan '12, 00:34

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Simple and to the point answer and how true.. I would like to add, the angrier you are and the more you complain - the more things you will find to complain or be angry about....

(10 Jan '12, 00:59) ele

I can understand that it is all about going with the flow. I have never been worried or have questions when I am leaving myself let go with the flow. This time, somehow, I am not feeling comfortable. This is why I would like to hear from the community. I feel I am not feeling comfortable because this is something new and it is about taking joint decisions that involves lot more people/their likes and dislikes especially the one that I am going to marry. So I thought of focusing on what I want rather than what others would expect. Therefore I need to define what is best for me here.

(10 Jan '12, 02:07) Perfection

Perfection - I think you are already ahead - well prepared. Good for you. You're thinking about the two of you as a unit, what's best for the two of you together and how everything will affect the both of you and NOT just how it affects you. He's a lucky man.

(10 Jan '12, 02:33) ele

Blubird I love your answer.

(10 Jan '12, 02:57) Paulina 1

Thank you Ele

(11 Jan '12, 00:26) Perfection
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to answer your two question. i will give you a simple answer.in everything: life, love, friendship, family have faith and love seek the harmony and the truth. experience and enjoy. and you will have a abundance everything will follow. so experience and enjoy.


answered 10 Jan '12, 04:30

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Some books to help you have the ideal relationship are "For men only." "For women only." and "Love Dare."

These three books will make a relationship wonderful, they let each side experience the greatest love but at the same time give each side the greatest understanding.

An excellent movie to see for relationship is "Fire Proof."

With these it can turn even a bad relationship into an ideal one as they bring a great understanding between each and this understanding brings greater love for each other.


answered 10 Jan '12, 18:56

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Wade Casaldi

Thank you Wade!

(11 Jan '12, 00:00) Perfection

It's nice to get advice, but sure to follow you own. Only you will know what to do with each challenge. It's going to be different, way different than you can imagine. You may be at odds with your family and customs, but there is plenty of room for happy relationships. The reason I say to follow your own advice is because people on this site may not know that much. I personally have been married 3 times. So, you can see I might not be a person with all the answers.


answered 11 Jan '12, 00:50

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well tom it is said that we should not mesure someone by what he has obtain but by the hurdles that he add to face in is life. so married 3 time you most have experience alot and face many hurdles.

(12 Jan '12, 01:37) white tiger

Thanks Tom! I will follow whatever my heart says. I still like to hear from those who know more than me. :)

(16 Jan '12, 08:06) Perfection
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