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If you could go back to yourself as a young adult and have a conversation with yourself what would you tell that younger person about life.

asked 03 Mar '10, 22:38

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Its better to be happy than right


answered 05 Mar '10, 21:07

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Now that's a big one. If the mass of humanity learned this, the world would transform overnight

(06 Mar '10, 07:19) Stingray


(31 May '13, 04:33) ele

very similar: focus on a feel good solution rather than a solution you want in your particular way.

(31 May '13, 08:53) Nikulas

You touched a lot of sore spots there @ursixx... judging from your up votes

(31 May '13, 19:31) MoonWillow

Now that ursixx, is a bloody good answer!

(01 Jun '13, 04:14) Monty Riviera
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That really matters, because something only has meaning when we assign meaning to it... and that meaning should never be based on what others think but on our own inner guidance.


answered 28 May '11, 22:49

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(31 May '13, 04:50) ele

Do the things you want to do more that make you feel good and care less about what others think.


answered 04 Mar '10, 22:37

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Pink Diamond

Perfect pink diamond

(31 May '13, 08:51) Nikulas

Trust yourself.


answered 04 Mar '10, 08:33

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The Traveller

That would be my answer also.

(31 May '13, 04:53) ele

To keep my mouth shut and listen with my heart.


answered 05 Mar '10, 11:47

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beautiful @Roy..

(31 May '13, 04:34) ele

My angels and spiritual guides are here to help. All I have to do is ask.


answered 03 Mar '10, 22:42

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edited 08 Mar '10, 15:32

To understand the power of love. To understand that it is not what I can receive from others, but what I can give to others. To understand the power of forgiveness.


answered 04 Mar '10, 22:52

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i would tell my self to trust my feeling more and to stop trying to help people that are not ready to be help!each things happen when it is the time for it ot happen!


answered 28 May '11, 17:18

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white tiger


Yes. "stop trying to help people that are not ready to be helped." That's a big one.

(31 May '13, 08:50) Nikulas

Live, Love and make the most of everything that comes your way.
Take a big breath when the going gets tough and hang in there, it will pass. Be grateful for when the going is great, this too will pass. Death just affects the body, you are eternal, take risks.

And most important of all... whatever it is you want out of life, you must give it first. The Universe is generous to generous people.


answered 03 Mar '10, 22:44

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I really resonate with "take a big breath when the going gets tough." Ive adopted this into my mind and i find that if i take big deep breaths when im feeling terrible, solutions come to my mind very rapidly.

(31 May '13, 08:49) Nikulas

The Law of Attraction


answered 04 Mar '10, 00:27

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I would tell myself to trust my inner feelings... to not feel like I had to fit in anywhere... and to take note of all the little miracles that occurred, because with time we can forget that they ever happened.


answered 08 Mar '10, 15:59

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I have gotten so much out of life through following these principals. It has helped me feel more confident. It creates better, stronger and more positive relationships with everyone and transformed my entire life around.

  • Be honest. Tell zero lies, or, to start with, reduce the amount of lies you tell down to 50%. Why do you feel the need to lie? Do you feel unworthy or inadequate? Do you really love yourself? I always make sure to speak my mind and am in a habit of saying exactly whats on my mind; it has yet to get me in trouble, ironically, it is yet to not give me miraculous results with positive relationships. My definition of being honest can be viewed as the wishy washy saying "just be yourself." (women are attracted to this guys. I am a ladies man ever since cultivating this). I'm not sure if this is correct, but if you are totally honest in your life you also dont care what others think.
  • Paradoxical to being honest comes the virtues of acting with integrity and respect. At a dull level it translates as "be nice."
  • To realise that bad feelings never last forever, and bad feelings always arm themselves with the illusion that the bad feeling will never go away. I often have to remind myself, when I'm in the vortex, that I will always come out of bad emotions (I grumpily wear that advise when Im feeling bad, and so far, it puts me through). Rule: don't contemplate life, problems, or attempt to find solutions when you're feeling shit
  • To understand that every "problem" is nothing but a future gift of learning. I view it as necessary emotional pain, similar to how I believe it's necessary to feel pain in a gym in order to grow stronger the next day. This may sound superficial but it's yet to prove me wrong: If I have a "problem" and adopt the mindset that the problem will get solved, and I will advance as a person through feeling the pain and allowing it to be there, I always get payoffs and benefits within the next couple of days. A perceived "problem" always gets solved in my life within 24 hours these days since I go in with that mindset all the time, no matter what.
  • Relationships always change and transform. Like everything, they are always evolving and changing. This helps me to accept the humble pleasure that bad relationships always transform into good ones (or no longer exist because that person isnt around any more, once Ive learned my lesson and evolved)
  • My feelings are the most powerful communicators, more than physical reality and circumstances. My feelings (even the bad ones) are my best friends.

I can't think of anything else but I feel Ive got my most worthy points across. I thought this was a good "express yourself" style question.


answered 31 May '13, 08:46

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edited 31 May '13, 08:48

Wise words from a awesome fella....

(31 May '13, 18:57) ele

@ele- Respect

(01 Jun '13, 09:22) Nikulas

"Keep doing what you are doing, it all works out and keep having fun!"


answered 28 May '11, 17:46

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That my family sucks and especially that my Mother was never, ever going to "see" me. I have wasted a lot of time trying to get these people to acknowledge me, and they never will.

There are and have been so many other people who have deserved my complete love and attention. I am sorry that I did not focus on the positive people in my life, but chose to live in the negative.

The moral: Learn to appreciate what you do have, and let go of what you do not have.




answered 31 May '13, 08:29

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edited 31 May '13, 08:58


When are you going to start practicing what you 'know'?

(31 May '13, 18:58) ele

@ele- whenever I finally have processed the extreme damage these people have inflicted on me...ele, you just have no idea...It is not living in the past. Rather, it is having to rebuild your own psyche from the ground up. I have 29 personalities and despite years of good treatment, when stressed, they do pop out...I "know" what to do, but I cannot always do it. I have tried to let go etc., and the truth is--I think that perhaps my soul is beyond repair. Go easy, okay? Thanks, Jai :)

(31 May '13, 22:23) Jaianniah

@ele- Look for my new question ...Thanks for inspiring it- Perhaps I will get some answers there.

(31 May '13, 22:25) Jaianniah

@Jai If you realize one of your alters wrote this answer, why don't you edit it? You are a great teacher, a very wise woman w/a huge heart & I KNOW you "know"; hence the conundrum. You have suffered damage to your psyche & heart; but your soul is NOT damaged. Isn't your spirit stronger?

(01 Jun '13, 00:30) ele

@ele...I see you and I think if Jai is willing to truly look, she will too :-)

(01 Jun '13, 00:52) Michaela
(01 Jun '13, 04:51) ele
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