I just wonders myself - every time I start doing something the first thing that comes in my mind is suspicion and doubt about the success of the event to be carried upon - and when it involves other people as well, I feel so pessimistic about the success of the event. I know that they are not big deal to carried upon - and even small effort can be more than enough to achieve, my feeling toward the successful execution is always suspicious!!!!!!! Is it limiting belief?? or just negative belief?? How can I come out of this??
Hi ZD, I used to be like that many years ago.
I am by no means an expert at this but thought I'll give it a try here...
This is how I overcame it and maybe it'll be helpful for you. First of all I convinced myself it is okay if I had these doubts/pessimism as my 'first thought'. I accepted it. I called it my conditioning without labeling it (it just is) and moved on. I let them pass through me. For example: Just because the road I am driving on has heavy traffic doesn't mean my goal for reaching home changes, so I would let the thoughts of broken A.C in my car, low on gas, FM playing bad songs (all negative in this example) pass and eventually I would start thinking how great it'd be to take a hot shower once home, maybe order in my favorite food, watch that sports game on TV (all positive) and soon enough the traffic would 'seem' to be moving faster.
I think by doing this, I make all the 'unwanted thoughts 'irrelevant'. It does not mean they do not occur to me, just that I know they are not part of the equation. Like adding a zero(s) to a sum.
Our mind is a chatter-box, thousands of thoughts are running at a time, some of them not even identifiable by our own self at that moment. It just is. What makes some people seem okay with it (calmer, more 'composed' etc.) is because...they are okay with it. Meditation helps a lot and it becomes easier to bring focus faster.
As a side note, I'd like to add following which maybe further useful for over-all strategy.
There is no right or wrong, there is no 'limiting belief' there is no optimism/pessimism. These are labels we put on things (mostly understandably)but don't let them weigh you down. I believe it to be so, so it is for me. I actually keep reminding myself of a dialogue from a film:'you can't bend the spoon. That's impossible. Only try to realize the truth. That there is no spoon.' I have come to believe that outside of my mind/heart everything...everything, is what we call physical/external/material and that includes my body, my spouse, my parents...everything. That means, I only have to nurture my mind/heart and everything else falls in place. Let me be clear here, this does not mean that I disregard/dismiss other people and their rights. The laws of this physical World still applies and so does the law of the land where I reside. I respect those. This enables me to be a better me in the least stressful way.
Further it gives me a feeling of 'liberation' and it's an awesome feeling to carry all day along. I have shed my anger, my frustrations, my negative thinking in this manner to a high degree of success! It also helped me 'simplify' my life from the thoughts/beliefs gathered from earlier phase of my life. Now it is okay if I don't own a Ferrari as for me I am thankful for the Honda I drive...because there is no Ferrari and/or Honda:)
Hope this helps.
answered 28 May '12, 02:51
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