I have a desire and i know i am attached to it. I know this beacuse at certain times i can honestly feel that either outcome (i.e. desired outcome or not) would be fine and i would be ok; but, at other times I fear my deisre not manifesting and how difficult my life would be without this desire!!! can this fear be treated as limiting belief?
Any pointers on how to deal with this situation would be very healpful. also, could the enlightened beings here help me understand what might be going on - why can i be ok with either outcome at one moment and so fearful or negative outcome at some other point!!!
Thank you all
At the times when you are feeling the fear of not getting it, just think about something else instead.
If you feel you need to do some vibrational work to mold this desire into place, only do that work when you are feeling good within yourself so as not to reactivate this "fear" that sometimes comes up.
If you want to actually treat the underlying "fear" of it not manifesting then, certainly, apply a belief-uncovering method to it (like the probing questions in Manifesting Experiment 4) and clean it up.
Unlike working on the subject of your manifestation, you don't need to be in a good-feeling place to clear up the underlying fear because you need to have it activated (at least slightly) to shift it into a better-feeling place and clear it for good.
Because sometimes the fear "program" has been triggered into running and you feel the pain of it and, at other times, it isn't running and your natural optimistic Self shines through again.
I think most people, when starting out, have an underlying fear that all this manifesting stuff might be made up and they are wasting their time...like perhaps Mr Stingray is hoaxing everyone :) ...or even that they themselves might be the single exception in the entire Universe that prevents it working for them :)
You would be amazed at how many times I have heard that over the years (including from myself at the start)...people who believe they are the single exception :)
And, in fact, when you think about it, that's actually quite an arrogant attitude to hold because it implies out of the entire Universe (gazillions of galaxies containing gazillions of stars and probably gazillions of planets with gazillions of life-forms), they are the only exception :) ...Nah, I don't think so :)
Personally, I think these are all natural reactions that fade over time because these manifesting ideas are often so opposed to what is generally accepted about the way physical reality works. That's why it can be helpful to start small with manifesting: If we want to manifest things faster should we start small to build up confidence?
As you start to see "easy" stuff flow into your life, you start to develop a knowing that the "difficult" stuff will flow in a similar fashion and you start to relax more and let everything unfold in its own time...and it definitely will :)
answered 10 Jul '12, 12:01
I've been under the same situation and I found a way to release a lot of limiting beliefs about it. The attachment to the outcomes of our desires are the key to discover those definitions or beliefs that are holding us back. I don't know if you are familiar with Bashar and his information; I used his techniques to deal with core beliefs and I was able to manage this situation. You can find in his website the seminars about Changing Core Beliefs and Transforming Core Beliefs. He deeply explains how we hold unto definitions of how things should be or not, and how to change this, I highly recommend it.
For example, imagining that if your desire doesn't manifest your life would be horrible could be based on the definition that you can actually experience bad situations, that your reality can allow disappointment, and that in reality you are not owning your power because you are doubting that your desires can be manifested.
Bashar also talks about how our desires are the symbol that the physical mind uses to show the higher mind the preferred reality. It is representative of the state of being that you prefer. It's better to think of this state of being rather than the actual thing so that we allow the Universe to deliver the biggest and greatest possible thing that mirrors that state of being. When you hesitate about something being manifested or not you are not trusting 100% in a definition that says "it can happen" .
I participated in a Bashar conference last month and I personally asked the same question regarding attachment and his answer was along these lines: "What is the sky for the physical mind is only the floor to the higher mind. Once you realize that the higher mind is capable of giving you the exact thing you want or something even better you find yourself in a place of non resistant expectation, because you know that the Universe can deliver that exact thing or something that will bring you more joy and happiness. If that is true, why would you be insisting on a particular outcome? Don't you just Trust in the universe?" xD. He made this point so clear for me that I addressed those feelings and beliefs and now I find that I still have my desire in place but I am enjoying the unfolding and I'm not depending on my desire coming true in order for me to have a joyful experience. This appears on a June seminar called "No Comparison" in case you want to look it up.
I hope this helps.
answered 10 Jul '12, 12:39
Holding on to it is the result of a limiting belief. A belief that you can't or don't deserve or aren't good enough, etc...
Things, experiences we want are like tv stations. They are always there, we just have to tune in to the right frequency to receive it. There are many manifestations/tv stations out there at the same time, right now. We don't watch our tv station by holding the thought all the time, we watch it when we tune the tv to that frequency. The TV has dials or buttons and remotes with buttons to push to tune the tv to the right station. When we tune in to that station, all the shows on that station are available to us, except in a linear fashion, one at a time as presented by the station manager. When change our frequency, vibration, mood, etc... we change the reality that we have access to. All of our manifestations that are in that frequency are available to us when we match that frequency.
If we want happy experiences and manifestations, then we need to tune in to the happy frequency/station. You don't wait to get happy until you get what you want, you get what you want when you get happy. By focussing on what you don't have, you tune in to that frequency of not having that thing. So you decide what feeling you want, then tune in to it, then have access to all the manifestations and experiences that are in that frequency. Just be happy Now.
The dial I have found to adjust my frequency, is a technique I call Two Hands Touching. I like to combine it with affirmations. You can also use it with visualization, or whatever. Just make sure you switch from one to the other. Do THT then visualize then do THT.
Can't agree more with Stingray.
How bout some baby steps?
Ever heard that saying, "if you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all"? I recommend you apply this to your thinking.
"If you cannot think of something nice, don't think of anything at all."
Living consciously in the present moment is one such little trick that would give the same result as "not thinking at all." Or, if the opportunity arises, take a 15 minute caffeine power nap. Or, focus upon something neutral and even un-related, like hugging a lion.
I'm not sure what you're attempting to manifest, but every time you begin getting distressed or doubting it coming, just switch the thinking and imagine hugging this lion. Sooner or later, if you'd apply this, within 2-3 days you'd be in a high probability of seeing vibrational matches.
If that's too hard, forget about manifesting this thing completely. Get some hobbies, fill your time, and get happy. Trust me it's even more simple than that, manifesting things is the exact same thing as enjoying the flowers.
answered 11 Jul '12, 01:39
If you are just starting out with practicing deliberate creation, there may be some layers of limiting beliefs to uncover and change, even after a desire is launched you will have to get up to speed with it [become a vibrational match to it] by doing some alignment [vibration] work. Whether it's limiting beliefs or attachment to an outcome it's all resistance at the end of the day, so the ultimate goal would be to clean up all the resistance around whatever things or subjects you want to ''allow'' into your physical reality. Whatever resistance clearing techniques or methods you use will depend on what resonates with you the most, as well as what works best for you, there is ''no one way'' to clear resistance, you get to decide what's most effective to you. Most of us [myself included some years ago] starting out with the law of attraction, will go for our desires right out of the gate and this is not such a bad thing, the reason for this is that we'll discover and begin to uncover our limiting beliefs, so we can begin molding more positive beliefs [and positive momentum] around what we want so we can match up with it, one problem that can arise however, is we'll often reach for something ''big'' that we're nowhere NEAR a vibrational match to, hence, all the techniques and [end to a means] methods we'll use tirelessly to line up with what we want. If you are really committed and remain persistent with releasing your resistance through any technique or method that resonates with you the most [whatever it may be] this is what you will have to look forward to, after some time as you've dissolved a lot of resistance and continue to do so, you will no longer need techniques or methods to help you align, you'll be coming more from a place of ''allowing'' because at this level you're completely detaching from the outcome, what's more your desire really won't matter that much to you anymore, of course paradoxically you're aligned to your desire but you could care less about HOW and WHEN it manifests, you're in this for the journey and the sheer joy of it all. I think most of us eventually reach this level of letting go and allowing with reality creation, and at the beginning the methods and techniques DO help [they helped me] but we seem to move past them, to another level, and naturally I might add, we just learn after some time to let go and allow, and during this level, our desires and intentions will sometimes change and we'll re-focus. I'm rambling! To answer the question, whether it's attachment to outcomes or limiting beliefs it's all still resistance so yes, you can and will clear them eventually as long as you stay the course and never give up.
answered 02 Jun '15, 17:45
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