It has been many years since I watched the movie Flatliners. I have just watched it again because I actually forgot the entire movie. There is a great message about life in this movie that we have the power to heal ourselves and others while we are alive or face them after death.
Dannion Brinkly's Saved By The Light reveals a similar message.
Both these movies show the things we caused others to experience or feel we will experience or feel every pain that they felt we will experience it ourselves after death. Perhaps unless we take responsibility and heal those now while we are alive by sending love to those to release them.
There is a beautiful moment in Flatliners where Kevin Baccon searches and finds a grown up Winny and he says to her he used to pick on her in school. She looks back at him in hurt and anger and says "That is over, I am not that ugly little girl anymore!" He looks at her and says "I was wrong, and you were never an ugly little girl, I am sorry." He goes to walk away and she stops him and says, "thank you." You could see the relief in her face that someone actually said "I am sorry for that" and maybe she was wrong all those years to believe she was an ugly little girl growing up. It was a healing moment that meant something to her.
The message that everything we do in life matters and counts it has an effect even a chain reaction effect similar to the movie The Butterfly Effect.
Every word said, every harm done whether done deliberately or inadvertently has a lasting effect on ourselves and others. It is our job to learn from these and correct the wrongs. To forgive as we would like to be forgiven. But as well to realize that the pains we carry around for life about ourselves because of what someone said about or to us are the same pains others feel because of something we said or did to them. I know this seems a hard pill to swallow that others may to this day be in a depression because "No one liked me in 4th grade" and you were one of those kids that didn't like him/her but this is fact. We have hurt others through life and it could have had a lasting effect that has been damaging how they feel about their worth and life.
But here is the good news, we know we can heal our inner child of our past harms but don't think about the self here think of the others you have known and affected for the negative. Can't we help them, can we heal them? I believe that we can heal them and not only can we heal them in turn as we heal them we heal ourselves. We take responsibility for our past but as well the past of all those we had affected in any way and heal them.
I believe as it says in the Bible we are our brother's keeper and we are responsible for not only ourselves but as well all others we ever met. People we just didn't like, people we didn't trust, people we hated, people we put down, people we crushed their dreams because we believed they couldn't and influenced them to change their minds. We affect each other every single day, every moment. We should be a good affect at all times. We should be encouraging but for those we discouraged they are walking around hurting because of us.
I believe it is as we are alive we have the opportunity to heal all of these people. We can send love, compassion, forgiveness, healing and comfort. We can removed that weight they have been carrying around for maybe years because of us. Think of this would you want someone to hate themselves for life because of something you said as a child?
I believe we need to take responsibility for all we have affected and send them our love, forgiveness, and apology. Hold them in the light of healing, let them know they do not need to carry this anymore that is not who they are, that they are expressions of love and beauty. Hold them in peace and pray for them that their lives are blessed.
To see in our minds those even those we have long forgotten maybe see them as shadow figures and hold them in love and tell them in our minds but more importantly in our hearts. I Am Sorry, I Love You, I Forgive You, Please Forgive Me, Thank You... Lift them up in prayer that any and all burdens they may carry be lifted from their backs, and that they are set free from any pains emotional, spiritual, physical and mentally.
They are healed and released, they do not need to beat themselves up anymore because they are in the arms of God, place them there in love and healing.
I believe we need to take responsibility for not only our selves as we have created but the affect we have had on others as well. Do you believe we need to take responsibility for all we affect as well?
When you can, appologize. But forgive yourself. And hope that they love themselves enough to forgive you. Do your best to be kind, beyond that, you are not responsible for what other people think or do. Love yourself enough to forgive yourself the past and to trust yourself to not intentionally hurt anyone. Be present. Don't stress about the past or future. The Bible says to seek first the Kingdom of heaven and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you. It says not to worry about tomorrow. And it says to forgive 70x7.
answered 26 Jul '12, 16:55
in a way we do for all
should we be aware of how
answered 25 Jul '12, 21:11
Wade, I am thinking that it is not your responsibility to help anyone who may suffer because of something you may have said.
I think it also depends a lot on the intention behind what you said. Did you intend to be sassy, or cruel? Did you intend to smack someone when you were in a pissy mood, or to wound them for life?
We have to be ultimately responsible for how we feel. There's no telling what other experiences factor into another person's frame of mind - you may only be a drop in the bucket, and how they decide to deal with what is said to them just has to be up to them.
I can also easily envision what you are suggesting that we do to assist one another, and it sounds to me like it would be easy, fun, powerful, and very, very helpful to anyone we directed such lovely intentions toward. I would just approach it a bit differently, not as something I should do, but as something I would love to do, and so easy and fun, whyever would I not???
answered 26 Jul '12, 14:12
Responsibility for what we can directly influence - yes. Responsibility for things outside of our direct influence - no. This means, in direct influence it is our input as we put it in. Outside of the circle of our direct influence, our input has been filtered by external filter (someone's belief system) for which we can't be held responsible, and thus the filtered result cannot fall under our responsibility either.
I don't like this. I take responsibility for what I say or do. But not for how others interpret it to themselves. If I'm on the verge of comforting someone with a lie or staying true to myself and saying truth, I'll stay true to myself, or so I'd like to believe.
This actually gives a GO to "finger pointer" mentality. I could say that everyone I met in my life is now responsible for how my life turned out, because it was that guy or this girl who hurt me and because of them I'm not what I want to be. If I'd allow a thought that I'm responsible for others, then I'd also allow that others are responsible for me. No, I just can't do that.
People don't carry the monkey on their shoulders because of me, it's because of their fears and insecurities which gave birth to that monkey from what I said or did.
It's like saying that just because I live in my greatness letting my own light shine, I'm responsible for those insecure around me, who hide from life in their smallness and feel like losers, because I appear like a winner? Should I feel bad, because they feel bad, because I feel great?
But nobody really needs ME to help them. Everyone must help and depend on themselves. I know I'm repeating myself with Buddha's quotes all the time, but they just fit so many topics in so many ways.
And here you touch the point of it all...
They. Beat. Themselves. It's obvious that I wasn't starring in that movie, since they didn't give me credit.
But then again, that's just what I believe. :-)
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