In addition to what Vesuvius has said another thing to consider is that those who you take an instant or strong dislike to could also be part of your pre-birth or reincarnational agreements.
So if you are offering a vibration that does not serve you, doesn't that mean that people who highlight those vibrations to you (and doggedly refuse to change) are doing you a great service?
They are demonstrating clearly to you an aspect of yourself that you are not comfortable with.
The following story illustrates this point quite dramatically, I think.
HO'OPONOPONO By Joe Vitale
Two years ago, I heard about a
therapist in Hawaii who cured a
complete ward of criminally insane
patients--without ever seeing any of
them. The psychologist would study an
inmate's chart and then look within
himself to see how he created that
person's illness. As he improved
himself, the patient improved.
When I first heard this story, I
thought it was an urban legend. How
could anyone heal anyone else by
healing himself? How could even the
best self-improvement master cure the
criminally insane? It didn't make any
sense. It wasn't logical, so I
dismissed the story.
However, I heard it again a year
later. I heard that the therapist had
used a Hawaiian healing process called
ho'oponopono. I had never heard of
it, yet I couldn't let it leave my
mind. If the story was at all true, I
had to know more. I had always
understood "total responsibility" to
mean that I am responsible for what I
think and do. Beyond that, it's out of
my hands. I think that most people
think of total responsibility that way.
We're responsible for what we do, not
what anyone else does--but that's
The Hawaiian therapist who healed
those mentally ill people would teach
me an advanced new perspective about
total responsibility. His name is Dr.
Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent
an hour talking on our first phone
call. I asked him to tell me the
complete story of his work as a
therapist. He explained that he worked
at Hawaii State Hospital for four
years. That ward where they kept the
criminally insane was dangerous.
Psychologists quit on a monthly basis.
The staff called in sick a lot or
simply quit. People would walk through
that ward with their backs against the
wall, afraid of being attacked by
patients. It was not a pleasant place
to live, work, or visit.
Dr. Len told me that he never saw
patients. He agreed to have an office
and to review their files. While he
looked at those files, he would work
on himself. As he worked on himself,
patients began to heal.
'After a few months, patients that
had to be shackled were being allowed
to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others
who had to be heavily medicated were
getting off their medications. And
those who had no chance of ever being
released were being freed.' I was in
awe.'Not only that,' he went on, 'but
the staff began to enjoy coming to
work. Absenteeism and turnover
disappeared. We ended up with more
staff than we needed because patients
were being released, and all the staff
was showing up to work. Today, that
ward is closed.'
This is where I had to ask the
million dollar question: 'What were
you doing within yourself that caused
those people to change?'
'I was simply healing the part of me
that created them,' he said. I didn't
understand. Dr. Len explained that
total responsibility for your life
means that everything in your life-
simply because it is in your life--is
your responsibility. In a literal
sense the entire world is your
Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being
responsible for what I say or do is
one thing. Being responsible for what
everyone in my life says or does is
quite another. Yet, the truth is this:
if you take complete responsibility
for your life, then everything you
see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way
experience is your responsibility
because it is in your life. This means
that terrorist activity, the
president, the economy or anything you
experience and don't like--is up for
you to heal. They don't exist, in a
manner of speaking, except as
projections from inside you. The
problem isn't with them, it's with
you, and to change them, you have to
I know this is tough to grasp, let
alone accept or actually live. Blame
is far easier than total
responsibility, but as I spoke with
Dr. Len, I began to realize that
healing for him and in ho'oponopono
means loving yourself.
If you want to improve your life, you
have to heal your life. If you want to
cure anyone, even a mentally ill
criminal you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about
healing himself. What was he doing,
exactly, when he looked at those
'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and
'I love you' over and over again,' he
Turns out that loving yourself is the
greatest way to improve yourself, and
as you improve yourself, you improve