This is a very simple process, still, I was wondering...
Sorry I ask so many questions, but releasing resistance is my major problem in the manifestation process. I am always shifting towards Feeling Bad...
Thanks in advance!
PS: I have more questions on the processes, that I'll be posting separately. Later on, I'll add all the links here for people who are also interested.
Wouldn't it be nice is an underrated process in my view. I've used it quite effectively on occasion but, for me, the "Big 3 Processes" of Focus Wheels/Blocks, Positive Aspects and Rampages of Appreciation work so well and effectively together to cover the entire vibrational/emotional spectrum that I often don't bother with it.
I think Wouldn't It Be Nice falls into the category of one of those processes that seems too easy to do that many people don't even try it.
The times when it works best (I think) are those times when you find yourself a bit stuck in a particular belief and don't know where to go with it.
The process allows you to give yourself permission to be free in the moment, since we are much less resistant to questions than to statements.
1) How does something so simple as asking: Wouldn't it be nice if...? help you release resistance? I know we're not supposed to be asking about the 'how to's' but it sounds so simple...
I believe the way it works is that it tricks you (consciously) into releasing resistance through the form of a question rather than a head-on statement.
For example, if you said to someone Clean up your room! then doesn't that seem like it would generate resistance from the other person if they resented you telling them to clean up their room.
But, if instead, you said Wouldn't it nice to have a clean, open, fresh room? then doesn't that just make things much lighter. It's like you are presenting them with a gentle choice rather than a stern command...even if it really amounts to the same thing :)
The other person I am talking about in this case is that aspect of you that is holding on to a limiting belief that you are trying to mold into a better-feeling place.
In fact, this idea of asking questions (instead of making statements) to release resistance has already been turned into a success approach by one enterprising individual. He has called the process Afformations. I guess it's worth a look if you like the idea but it's not really much more than a repackaged version of the Wouldn't It Be Nice If? process and I would still use the other Abraham processes too.
2) Can I do it for someone else, say: "Wouldn't it be nice if my mother were feeling better today?" Would it work for her?
Yes, you can. You attract the behavior out of other people that is consistent with your vibrational view of them. So if you feel better about them, you will also attract behavior out of them that will be consistent with that.
However, you cannot assert her to feel better, only influence her. See Where is the line drawn between “Law of Attraction” and the non-existent “Law of Assertion”?
3) Should I do it for one topic at a time or I can mix up topics making a looong list of things that are actually bothering me/making me uneasy?
Whatever you like. The key with all the Abraham processes (including Focus Blocks, which is just a variation of Focus Wheels) is that you should feel an immediate shift in your vibration. If you don't, try another approach until something works.
Never be afraid to experiment with the processes. That's all I do. I keep playing with them and then get inspired to try different things from time to time. Some of the ideas work and some don't. But I'm not sitting here channelling some ultimate truth regarding any of my own ideas with the processes. I'm just a vibrational experimenter and I wholeheartedly encourage you (or anyone else reading this) to also go down that route...you will learn so much more from putting the processes to the test yourself in unusual ways than you will from the opinions/ideas of others.
4) Mentally or written down?
Whatever you like, and whatever is convenient. Writing down (or even typing) is usually more powerful than mentally because the words give you a point of focus when your mind starts to drift.
But it is still better to do the process mentally than not do it at all, if the circumstances are not convenient to write/type things. e.g. while driving your car
5) For how long would it more fit to keep on doing it?
It's the same as Focus Blocks. Keep using it until you no longer feel bad about the subject.
It makes you change your mental focus.
Her thoughts are her own, but it will change your own mental attitude and energy, and that will have a positive influence on her.
Techniques like the Focus Blocks method and the Wouldn't it be Nice method seem to work best on one topic at a time, largely because human beings are really capable of focusing on only one topic at a time. But you can make your long list, and work on each topic individually.
Writing things down is a powerful technique. It goes from the brain to hand to paper to eye, and back to the brain, reinforcing the mental concept being worked on.
Until you feel better or feel a sense of relief/release, or when you no longer seem to get forward progress, at which point I would encourage you to work on something else for awhile.
Stingray and Vesuvius have answered your questions nicely.
I just wanted to add something of my own.
The "Wouldn't It be nice if...?" process is excellent. If I am out and feel myself beginning to dip I catch myself and use it to maintain my state of feeling good...or even to pick myself up when I am feeling a bit down but am out and don't have lists for focus blocks available. It is my main "while living life" process.
That said, I rarely use it on any predefined unwanted subject of mine. I use it purely to feel good. And when you have the statement 'wouldn't it be nice if...?' this is easy to achieve. You can imagine the most 'ludicrous' things (according to your current beliefs) with it, that you wouldn't really expect.
For example, just earlier today I was getting a slight dip in my mood and I just started using this process to get my mood up.
For example I thought "wouldn't it be nice if when I got to my place, was cooking sausages and offered me some for lunch?"
"Wouldn't it be nice if I heard how such-and-such project went?"
"Wouldn't it be nice if was lying naked on my bed waiting for when I got home?"
(ok, those aren't particularly ludicrous examples, but I don't want to appear too crazy ;))
And so on. Those thoughts got me feeling really good...they were 'random' and their only intention was to have me feeling good. That's really important. Stingray says it so much, but I've only recently realized myself how important it is.
The first two of those examples actually manifested as soon as I got back to my place. Alas, the last one didn't. But no matter. :P
For those interested in this process I want to suggest a variation that I think is much more effective in some vibrational states.
As Stingray explained in his answer, this question bypasses resistance or "tricks you into releasing resistance". If you combine this "tricking effect" with the power of appreciation, you have a more powerful process. Usually true appreciation works only when fully in the vortex. But with this a slight change, appreciation is often possible in lower vibrational states.
I've tested this successfully many times and it seems to work best for me when I'm feeling at least neutral on the emotional scale (and I think it works smoother when feeling hopeful).
So the question goes like this:
"Wouldn't it be nice if I could wholeheartedly appreciate... such and such?"
answered 03 Jul '13, 22:16
What a vast collaboration of helpful and honesty answers! This Inward Quest thing really rocks!
Here's my variation on it that I managed to apply today with feel good results.
I get out a word document and randomly begin the "wouldn't it be nice if..." with problems that are bothering me today. The phrases are all solutions my physical mind comes up with (no matter how unrealistic) to put my mind at som ease about them.
Today I was feeling bad about having no money until the next couple of days until I get paid, so I wrote down "Wouldn't it be nice if my dad were to just randomly give me $200?"
I use this in conjuction with Bashars definition of abundance: the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it. I needed money to go to gymnastics, and my imagination really assits the process, "Wouldn't be nice if my friend shouted me at gym today?"
I get out a second word document, and put all of my inspired action onto that one. It goes from thoughts floating around of document 1 to proper solutions on document 2. I jazzed up the second document with cool font and pictures, sort of showing the power of my imagination and the bliss my higher mind gives me when in alignment with the physical!
Note, I don't try and get inspired action. It literally just pops into my head, about certain subjects. Some subjects I have absolutely zero imagination about whilst others I can transform and mould vibration easier. Personally this is my great alternative to focus blocks (I never 'got' focus blocks, I feel guilty saying that).
Afterwards I went through a Rampage of Appreciation and had inspired action to get busy and have fun with my life, as I always find a way to do!
answered 04 Jul '13, 02:10
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