Hi I seem to have some trouble understanding how to go about creating my own focus blocks as in Manifesting Experiment 2:
As Stingray stated, by creating focus blocks I am not actually changing any physical events in reality, but only the way how I feel about them. But what if "How I want to feel about this?" is something that actually changes the reality of "what is bothering me?"
For example, let's say "What is bothering me?" is that "I hate it when there are many people on the bus on the train when I travel to school or work". So what would be a good example for "How I want to feel about this?" I tried "I want to take a train or bus with close to as little or no people as possible when I travel to school or work", but it just doesn't seem quite right as that is close to impossible right?
And by the way, I have listed a lot of things that bothers me during the past few days, but somehow, everything seems to start with 'I hate....______(insert phrase here)' Is there something wrong with that?
As has been suggested here already, the purpose of Focus Blocks is for you to feel better.
Notice I didn't say that the purpose of Focus Blocks is for you to feel better to manifest what you want.
Yes, paradoxically, if you do the process only to feel better, you'll get what you want...
...but you can't fake it.
As soon as you start doing the process because you are secretly after that manifestation, you'll start introducing resistance that will slow it down or block it.
Why is this important?
Because if you are using Focus Blocks (or any other manifesting process) only to feel better, and that's all, why does it matter how realistic your ideal situation is?
I could focus on a thought of me lying on a sun lounger on a hot, sandy beach staring out to sea with 100 dollar bills floating delicately through the air around me like butterflies, and I am lying there and every so often I am just plucking those notes from the gentle breeze whenever I feel like it and using them to give to the waiter to bring me more drinks/food from the beach bar. It feels fairly impossible to me since I've never seen money flying around like that but just thinking a thought like that makes me feel better.
Abraham's Wouldn't It Be Nice If process even takes this idea of seemingly-absurd thoughts to feel better to the extreme, and it is quite effective.
Regarding the "I hate..." statements, I don't have a problem with you doing that if you are being honest with yourself about how you feel. Too often in today's society, we are taught to mask our true feelings but, because of that, you never really get in touch with how you really feel about something in order to change it.
In order to bring about effective belief change, you must get a taste of the belief you want to change. You must engage with it enough so that you lock into it for a short while and then move it to a better feeling-place.
So if hating is what you really feel then good for you! ...because it's you being honest with you. From there, having a taste of how you really feel, you can now methodically move that vibration to a better-feeling place.
I think there are some quite useful clarifications regarding Focus Blocks in the comments below so I'm just adding this update to draw attention to them.
If you feel that it's pretty unrealistic to imagine changing the number of people on the bus or train. How about just changing how you feel about it.
You could start by saying-
1.I always manage to get a nice window seat every morning
2.The passenger beside me is always a pleasant personality to converse with at the beginning of my day. or
3.The passenger who sits besides me is quiet and leaves me to my own thoughts, which I like.
4 My journey to work on the bus is always a pleasant ride and gives me exactly the time I need to focus on having a great day at work. etc.
You get the gist. I would definitely substitute the word hate for one with more positive connotations. Maybe just list what exactly is bothering you eg. my daughter won't clean her room - you don't need to put the word hate in there at all if you just write exactly what's bothering you and leave the feeling words till you're further into the focus block where they will have more positive connotations.
The whole purpose of the focus blocks is to get you to a better feeling place and I think if you begin with a really negative feeling word like hate, it will be hard to move up from that. Hope this helps:)
answered 06 Sep '10, 13:34
The important thing to remember with Focus Blocks is that you need to focus on the feeling you want to have. You could have the same amount of people on the bus and still feel good if you focus on the feeling. Some examples of what you can try are:
1- I like feeling relaxed on my way to work 2 - I like to get a comfortable seat on the bus 3 - I feel good when I have a pleasant ride to work
What I like about the focus block is that nothing really has to change to make you feel good. You are working on the one thing that you have control over. yourself.
answered 06 Sep '10, 19:26
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