I'm thinking about both physical and emotional pain. I am around people living with both kinds, in different areas of my life, and I see the two as basically the same thing. People seem to react in much the same way to both.
There are physical pains that I have seen people really struggle with, that to me seem a minor irritation, and vise versa. It's the same with emotional pain. A hurt caused by a harsh word means a momentary frown to some, a heavy heart and tears to others.
But why? We are all humans (presumably).... ;) We are all hardwired basically the same. How can it be that there is such a disparity in how we experience the same things? I want to understand, because I want to put myself on the happiest, healthiest path I can, and to be of assistance to others around me that I care about as well.
What I see is people struggling for validation, and that seems to have a lot to do with how well they live with or overcome pain. If a person feels their pain is misunderstood, dismissed, or not recognised as significant, they can sometimes seem to feel worse; sad, hopeless, or they may argue for the limitation, in order to feel that they matter, that they are significant, themselves.
Everyone wants to feel that they matter, yet I know better than to focus on the pain, and thereby perpetuate it. Maybe that's what it comes down to, for myself and for others - how to validate but not perpetuate! LOL! :)
I hope this is making sense. I'm struggling to find the right words. I want to understand how it is that we're all the same, but so different, so that I can honor it all, and see clearly.
The 9D Pleiadians have an insightful saying to do with pain that they like to repeat often...
Pain is Perception
Here's a link to an article with that quote.
So to answer your question...
...it must be because all our points of perception are so uniquely different. And intentionally so, because we are all unique aspects of the "Universal Consciousness" that is expressing itself in different forms in order to experience itself.
Our physical vehicles ("bodies") may all be hard-wired the same but like with the flow of road traffic, it's not about the cars but about the drivers :)
All pain derives from the perceived division between physical and non-physical self...it ultimately comes about from a thought that has been focused upon (even to the point of physical bodily manifestation of it) that the non-physical self refuses to resonate with, and we feel that habitual separation (or resistance) as "pain".
And there are an infinite numbers of ways for that separation to manifest.
It works similarly to the idea that you can be lost (geographically) in many different places, but you can only be in the place you really want to be in one way :)
I remember once listening to an interview with the songwriter of a major rock band explaining why his songs were so miserable. He explained that there were so many different ways to express unhappiness but really only one way to express happiness...it just gave him more material to write about if he wrote miserable songs :)
I believe it has to be connected to expectancy provided by past experiences.
Something happens to my Jai and right away it must be serious, life or death situation.
For me no matter what happens to me I feel and know that it is a passing thing and I don't need some doctor or hospital!
Unfortunately this makes me worry about her every time she gets sick or hurt. This also makes her worry about me every time I get hurt or sick.
answered 18 Apr '13, 00:21
"My heart is in anguish within me; the terrors of death have fallen on me. Fear and trembling have beset me; horror has overwhelmed me. I said, “Oh, that I had the wings of a dove! I would fly away and be at rest. I would flee far away and stay in the desert; I would hurry to my place of shelter, far from the tempest and storm.” Psalms 55:4-8
This is a psalm from David, servant of God. He used to be persecuted so much because other's wanted the throne of Israel, and even his own son tried to kill him for it. I like reading psalms because, besides the fact that it speaks righteously of God, the Ancients remind me that pain has always existed and God holds the head up of the afflicted. When I'm feeling depressed, I like to read of David's pain, I feel like he relates except his pain was monumentally bigger than mine and He endured because as he says "Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous be shaken. But You, God, will bring down the wicked into the pit of decay; the bloodthirsty and deceitful will not live out half their days. But as for me, I trust in You." Psalms 55:22-23 Take advantage of God's Loving Mercy while you still can bro.
answered 19 Apr '13, 23:11
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